Mediocrity is a very unrewarding way of life. Why accept being average if you can be so good that the world will admire your abilities? Exactly – you don't have to be average. While being the best will take time, determination and practice, the feeling is second to none. Here are some tips on how to get started right now.
Method 1 of 3: Part 1 of 3: Getting Into the Climate
Step 1. Know yourself
The fact is, you will always be you. Ever. When you are someone different, at some point that someone else disappears and you are you again. This is the person you will be working with, so get to know yourself! You will feel more comfortable – you will be a better person, a better friend, a better boyfriend/girlfriend, a better employee, everything better. You will be less stressed and more confident. You will know what you are dealing with and how to handle it. Already convinced?
Know that you are not your brand or what people think of you. This has nothing to do with it. You won't be happy if you create an image that pleases everyone around you instead of pleasing you. If you became the best opera singer in Vienna, would it really matter if your goal was to become the next John Lennon? No. So don't try to please anyone. Meet and work with you
Step 2. Be original. There is no one else who is you. Therefore, you are the best you there is. But if you're trying to be someone or something different, that logic doesn't work. You become a second-rate copy of whatever you're trying to emulate. No matter who you are (or who you think you are), commit to it. This is the letter you received. You can't win if you don't play with her.
To be the best, you can't reinvent the wheel. You cannot copy others. You need to do new and innovative things. You need to study biology when you want to become a computer scientist. You need to be yourself to avoid being someone else. It was clear?
Step 3. Start thinking positively
For the rest of your life, you will be your biggest obstacle. You will be the reason not to talk to that sexy boy, for which you don't ask for a raise, for which you don't succeed. Thinking positively opens the door to many opportunities. When you think you can do something, you try. When you see life throwing opportunities at you, you go and take the opportunities. But when you don't think positively, you don't go after those opportunities, and hide in your bed. Nobody becomes the best by doing this.
If thinking positively doesn't come naturally to you, strive for it to be. Wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and say out loud “I am amazing”. Today will be a great day and I will get even closer to my goals”. And when negative thoughts start to take over, push them away. You are the one who chooses what to think
Step 4. Get excited
You are about to become the best at whatever you have chosen to be the best. IF YOU CAN'T BE EXCITED ABOUT IT, THEN WHAT WOULD YOU BE EXCITED ABOUT? Exactly. So get carried away. Start thinking about exclamation points! When you're excited, things happen. You are filled with inspiration, creativity and desire. You practically “burst” with possibilities.
A lot of the fact of being successful in real life comes from really wanting to be successful. Remember the times when you handed your English teacher a bad project and got an A because everyone else in the class did even worse? You became complacent and stopped worrying. You lost the excitement. News for you: Life is not like that. You need to be excited to turn in studies that are really A-grade. The real world is full of speakers and people behind the scenes who are also delivering these A-grade studies. It will be much easier for you to keep up with the effort
Step 5. Be open and flexible
There is no one way to be the best. You can't say “I'm going to school, have a job, fall in love, buy a house, have a few kids and live happily ever after”. For many of us, that's not quite how things are going to work out. If you want to be the best at something, you have to understand that there is a web of possibilities in front of you. If you close your mind, you may not see the most direct way to reach your goals..
So the next time you're sitting down with your team and working out a project about, say, how to get Lindsay Lohan to be part of your next documentary for school, don't laugh at comments like entering her pool through her uncle's old backyard. babysitting her. Remember how people thought Galileo was crazy too?
Step 6. Be competitive
If you don't have the determination to be the best, it will never happen. And part of being the best means being thirsty to compete. How else will you know if you're the best if you don't compare yourself to others? Compare yourself to others in what you do and win, simple as that.
If you are not comfortable with competitions, championships and races, I have some bad news for you: this will have to change. And the only way to change that is to take full immersion. Once you have participated in a good number of championships, you will feel more and more comfortable. And after a dozen championships, it will be like breathing.
Don't go to extremes. If you are the friend who turns everything into a competition, you will soon run out of friends. Use championships only for what you're trying to become the best – not life in general
Method 2 of 3: Part 2 of 3: Channeling Your Potential
Step 1. Choose something you are passionate about
In case you haven't noticed, it can't be better than everyone else at all. Even if you are the best human being on the face of the Earth, you cannot, by definition, be the best at winning and losing at the same time. So instead of choosing something else, choose something that means something to you. What's the first thing you'd like to be incredibly good at? It is likely that something came to your mind in approximately 0.3 seconds.
Remember to be realistic. Don't want to climb Mount Everest if you don't have legs. Although your mother was more or less right when she said “You can be anything you want”, she was making things a little easier for you. If you are able, you can do it. Just remember this
Step 2. Find a mentor
Even the best need someone to guide them. No baby learns how to walk, talk and play without someone showing them how. People are around you to help you grow. So, whatever you want to become the best at, find someone who is already the best. They don't even have to be the best of all, but at least better than you. At least for now. Having someone show you the way to the stones is much easier – and faster – than learning by yourself.
When Bobby Fischer was 3 years old, he didn't read an advanced chess book and started taking notes. He won a chess game and was taught how to play. He worked with his competitors to improve his game. He worked with friends to determine a strategy. He studied under the tutelage of the best. Two heads are better than one, remember?
Step 3. Feel uncomfortable
Do you know what's scary? Trying new things. Do you know what's scarier yet? Try new things you might fail at. And so it will be for the rest of your life. To get to the top, all those scary things will be involved. They will make you uncomfortable. But when it's uncomfortable, you know you're getting up to speed, taking risks, accepting challenges, and getting better. If it's easy, you don't get anywhere.
Henry Ford had two companies before he was successful. Steve Jobs did a zillion things before he really succeeded. There will be trials and tribulations; there will be failures; there will be times when you will feel insecure. You will have to move forward regardless
Step 4. Decide
Wanting to be the best is great, but not enough. You will have to decide. Decide that this is what you will do. There is no middle ground on this. If you have a plan B you can use it. What could plan B be? Be a little better than average? No thank you.
This business of being the best just is and that's it. It's not an idea, it's not a goal, it just is. You're doing. Ready. Accept this. There is no procrastination or innuendo. Accept this. You made your decision. It's only a matter of time
Step 5. Get ideas
Do you know those things you love? Well, how will you go about them? Since you are aware that there are a dozen ways to do it, what will be the way for you? Brainstorm. Think of 6 things that will jumpstart you on your way to being awesome. 6 things that will put you on the right track.
When you have all 6 things, choose one. Do it today. Let's say you want to be a famous actress, okay? Your 6 things will be taking acting classes, contacting an old friend of yours who managed to become an actor, contacting your local film/acting agency, making a budget to save on your move, planning a new gym workout, and searching forums on the your region. How easy is it to do one of these things? When you've done one, replace it with another. Always have 6 things on your list
Step 6. Live a balanced life
If you plan to spend 14 hours a day in your basement genetically growing a human-eating plant, eating only ramen and drinking only Kool-aid, without showering and pulling out your hair, you are not being the best you can be. Make sure other aspects of your life get their attention too. Ideally, you want to be the best at everything, right? That means looking, acting, being and feeling like yourself. In other words, take care of yourself!
It's hard to be the best when you don't feel your best. So shower, cut your hair, wear clothes that say “Here I am world!”, and start becoming awesome. Exercise, eat well and sleep properly
Method 3 of 3: Part 3 of 3: Making It Happen
Step 1. Practice
In Malcolm Gladwell's book “Outliers”, he talks about the 10,000 hour principle. That is, that you don't really get amazing at something until you've practiced for 10,000 hours. He talks about how the Beatles were mediocre until they hit 10,000 playing in small pubs in Germany. He also talks about how Bill Gates spends his nights on the lab's computer for years on end without anyone else thinking of doing it. To be really great at something, you have to invest time.
This is also a way of saying “be patient”. You won't be the next Paul McCartney or Bill Gates overnight. Neither were they! You'll use the next 1,000 hours being awful, the next 3,000 hours being okay, the next 4,000 hours being pretty good, and the last 1999 being awesome, until you become so awesome that you can barely feel your superiority. So you'll know – so don't have to keep timing
Step 2. Learn by doing
You've probably already studied a foreign language. You've probably read textbooks, done exercises, watched videos, etc…and so on. This is to start, let the ball roll, but the ball loses momentum as time goes on. If you really wanted to be fluent in that language, you would have to move to another country. You would really do it. It's the same thing as a bigger idea. You cannot watch a video. You can't just watch. You can't study for years until you have a piece of paper. You have to get out there and do it.
- The next time someone offers you an opportunity and you're not sure if you should take it, don't listen to what your mind says and do it. It doesn't matter if you are unprepared or unsure or doubting your abilities. Do it anyway. Turn it off that time – it does more harm than good.
- Get access to everything you can. Want to be an astronaut? Don't just read a book. Go to the planetarium closest to you and stay until they ask you to leave, and then do this every day until they know you by name and offer to show you around. Stay with your teacher until he shows you that special telescope. Act. Go.
Step 3. Make sacrifices
Alright, here's a life truth for you: There's not enough time in the day to bake your cake and eat it too. If you want to pass all your organic chemistry tests, you can't spend every night at the bar with your friends. You will have to prioritize. You will have to let go of things you want to do to do things you need to do. You will have to invest hour after hour building your skills, which you cannot do if you are busy with others.
The day may come when, instead of doing a sport, you take a part-time job. There will be weekends when you'll have to stay at the library. There are going to be days when you can't go out with that attractive guy or girl even if it's the only day they're in your town. These things need to happen for you to be as good as you can be. You have to think of it, ultimately, as a favor to yourself. To your future you actually, but still you
Step 4. Fail
Make terrible mistakes. Make people hate you. Make things so different that people will think you're crazy. Fail miserably in order to know exactly what not to do. Be proud of it. You are doing something.
The only way to avoid criticism and failure is to do nothing. Making yourself a target means you are doing something. You are living. So failing is good. It's natural and right. If nothing else, it serves your strategy and knowing what not to do. When you have 10 possibilities and you know that 9 don't work, guess what?
Step 5. Do a self-analysis
At the end of the day, it is essential that you sit down and think about the day's events. What worked? What didn't work? What could you have done better? What are you glad you did and what aren't you? If you don't stop to think about these things, about where you are, you'll never know where to go and how to go.
While it's important to analyze your successes (is it possible to repeat them?), it's very important to analyze your failures as well. This can be frustrating and demotivating in the extreme, but it needs to be done. Don't put yourself down. Remember: even failure is progress. To be the best is to adjust your skills
Step 6. Enjoy other people
You don't live in a vacuum. You have dozens of people around you who want to help. This can help. Everyone you know knows something you don't. That's why everyone can help you – even if it's the least. Use their knowledge to follow the fast and sure path to being the best.
Nobody got to where they are without the help of other people. Not only will you avoid doing things that have already been done, but these people can also tell you ways that have been tried and failed. When you accept help from others, you automatically divide the work into parts. Being the best isn't about being the best all alone – it's about being the best with whatever and with whom you can work
Step 7. Follow the path and forward
“Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just stop,” is a phrase attributed to Will Rogers. And it's a pretty true phrase. To be the best, there has to be constant progress. Constant practice. Constant self-analysis. Constant teamwork. Constant determination.
- If you are doing what you love, you will be happy. You will know you are on the right path. If you keep learning and challenging yourself, you'll know you're making progress. With time and effort, it will get better and better. Setbacks happen, failures can wreak havoc, but at the end of the day you will still be very good.
- Once you hit the 10,000 hour mark that doesn't mean you can stop. Steve Jobs stopped when he made the iPod nano? NO, HE DIDN'T STOP. Your best work came after 10,000 hours. Don't you want to know what you're capable of?
Step 8. Be modest. When you become the best, it's easy to look down on the mob below. You can become insensitive and, frankly, a pain in the ass. Do not do this!. Think of all the people who helped you get where you are. How would you like to be treated?