This article seeks to help you have discipline in life in general. Discipline should not be restricted to disciplining children, and becoming an adult does not make anyone a disciplinarian. Discipline does not indicate punishment or a harsh environment. It is possible that everyone is a disciple of the discipline.
Steps
Part 1 of 2: Self-Analysis
Step 1. Analyze yourself first
Work on the things that keep you from being more disciplined in the moment. It could be problems with your character, an inability to articulate what you want to do with your life, or a preference to lose yourself in stimulants and addictions. Perhaps you settle for too much without thinking about yourself; this can make it easier to adopt someone else's discipline ideas without working on the discipline that works for you and satisfies your own needs. Whatever the reason, try to determine it first.
- Why do you feel like you don't have enough discipline right now? What other factors hinder you from being more disciplined?
- In addition to assessing your own limitations, consider how others impact your life. Are you pleasing others too much instead of investing time in yourself? Are you always giving in to the wishes of others and putting yours aside?
Step 2. Seek to convince yourself that you want to be disciplined to believe in yourself
This is especially important if you spend a lot of time just pleasing others. It will be much harder to be disciplined if you feel you need others to limit you or tell you how to act and think or what to do.
What voices in your head say you're worthless or you're a failure? These are negative thoughts that have no foundation and need to be removed to make room for self-care and discipline in your life. You may need therapy or it may suffice to work on your own negative thoughts using cognitive behavioral and present-awareness techniques
Part 2 of 2: Adding More Discipline to Your Life
Step 1. Choose an area where you want more discipline
In what area do you want to be more disciplined? Maybe it's at work, studying, cleaning, not following a bad habit, etc.
Step 2. Adopt a positive attitude
Decide that you will make the necessary changes and try to stay focused on them. Realize that it won't be easy, but treat it as a good challenge, not a source of hardship or deprivation. When you decide to do something, go all the way, no matter what. There will often be times when a lazy craving arises and inhibits your work. Remember that these sensations are normal, and even the most disciplined feel them. Their difference is not that they are "better" than you. They just have a habit of straying from those moments before they become significant.
- Accept that you are the person who can change your life and no one else. You are not a 3-year-old who needs direction. Face the day and do what needs to be done.
- The normal routine is comfortable and familiar. So she will likely draw you back. Use ideas to remind yourself that you are falling into old habits and make the decision to stop every time.
Step 3. Choose to behave and act in moderation
Traits of human behavior are influenced by cultures, differing attitudes, emotions, different values and other social norms in a person's group or community. Behave politely and with common sense in all situations.
Step 4. Learn the basics of self-administration
From organizing your budget to organizing a meeting, you need to learn how to manage certain things yourself. This certainly doesn't involve starting a wealthy company, but simply a sense of order in life. Do more things in a given amount of time, and start slowly. For example, have lunch after 12:00 and have dinner after 20:00.
- Plan your work. Make a timetable and follow it assiduously.
- Divide the work into small, reachable pieces.
- Sit for no more than an hour at a time. Get up, stretch and walk. Give your body and mind a break. You will return to any task refreshed and physically relaxed.
Step 5. Keep yourself clean and tidy
This will not only benefit you, it will also make you feel good. Cleaning makes a big difference in how you feel emotionally and will make the environment better and fresher for you. There are many articles about how you can do this available on this site and elsewhere.
Step 6. Use appropriate gestures
Communicate eloquently and assertively, and use appropriate gestures when necessary. Don't yell and use enhancers in your speech. Discipline in the finer arts of communication can make a difference in the discipline you exhibit in the most notable areas of your life.
Step 7. Realize that others may try to stop you
There will always be someone to benefit from your lack of discipline and when you make it clear that you are changing that, it will be a threat to them. Be alert to attempts to deviate from your new path and be willing to continue. Listen to them, be polite, but don't give in to their tactics. Stick with what you know is best for you.
Step 8. Once you learn to do something correctly, keep doing it
Make your regular routines as automatic as breathing.
Include rewards for reaching your goals
Tips
- You can never be a self-discipliner. Be a disciple of self-discipline and that will be a quality in you.
- Self-discipline needs to be acquired. It is a non-innate quality.
- Stay motivated by always remembering your reasons for moving forward.
Notices
- Try not to bother others with what appears to be a lack of discipline on their part. If they fail to achieve something and it affects you in any way, have a gentle conversation with them. If not, let them deal with their own problems. You cannot change others, only yourself.
- Do not exaggerate. Signs of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) can occur in people who feel the need to put routine above common sense and well-being. If your routine scares or annoys others, this may be a signal to take it slow.
- Avoid tiredness. Do things step-by-step instead of doing it all at once. Even the little things can be very tiring if they are done one on top of the other.