Everyone has enemies. You don't have to be a mobster to be under the watchful eye of a few rogues over the years. Whether you're completely innocent or not, learning to defeat these nasty enemies is an essential part of your life and enjoying it without the fear of being bullied. You can learn to understand your enemies, get rid of them completely, and defend yourself if necessary.
Method 1 of 3: Knowing Your Enemy
Step 1. Find out the type of enemy you are dealing with
Not all enemies are the same. Depending on who your enemy is and the nature of your relationship with him, you will need to learn more about how he acts before you can learn to defeat him.
- Nemesis is like a version of you in a bizarre world. You'll find them at work, at school, and in other situations where you'll relate to people with opinions similar to your own. Everything indicates that you should be friends with your nemesis - you have similar interests, goals, and hobbies, but you just don't get along. Your nemesis is oil to your water.
- False friends are friends you don't like. Maybe they've known each other for longer than you can remember, so they're more like brothers than friends. But when they go together, your fake friend just puts you down. They are irritating, toxic, and a real downer.
- Bullies are hard to take. From the classroom to the workplace, they are serious threats to your ability to cope with everyday life. A bully is someone who struggles with his own self-confidence and tries to take it away from others he considers weak, selecting specific people and harassing them relentlessly.
Step 2. Keep your enemy close
The old adage is true, if you keep your friends close, keep your enemies even closer. If you want to defeat your enemy, you have to learn how they act. That means talking to your enemy, spending time with him, and learning everything you can about how he thinks.
- Many bullies, false friends and other types of enemies act out of jealousy. Often enemies will pick on things they want for their own life. If you are chosen for any reason, your enemy may want what you have.
- Enemies also choose people they consider to be threats. In the workplace, or in competitive schools – in all competitive situations – enemies seek to eliminate competition. That means you are in a good position.
Step 3. Watch your enemy
Analyzing how he antagonizes you will help you plan a way to catch him. Who does your enemy relate to? What are your interests? What does he want? Know what motivates your enemy and what he is fighting on a personal level. How is your home life? Where does your enemy come from? Do some research and answer these questions.
Step 4. Discover your enemy's weakness
He sure has a weakness, no matter how strong he looks when he's pestering him. Finding this weakness will be essential to plotting revenge and putting your enemy out of your life permanently. Some common weaknesses of your enemy are:
- Excessive pride. As in ancient Greek stories, excessive pride can lead to the downfall of many enemies. If you have a proud and arrogant enemy, by putting him in a position of embarrassment, you will be able to devastate him. A good revenge can be putting your enemy in some situation of embarrassment, or public failure.
- Overconfidence. Many bullies are actually children who have no self-confidence or any belief in their own abilities. Many of the bullies are just looking for companionship and friends because they feel unappreciated and unloved. These types of aggressors may respond better to a gentler tactic.
- Competitiveness. Many enemies are super-competitive idiots who have allowed their desire to win to trump human kindness and decency. Learning to break free from them and neutralize them is the best way to deal with them and disarm their ability to torment you. He can't win if he doesn't play.
Method 2 of 3: Fighting Back
Step 1. Tell your enemy to stop harassing you
If someone is bothering you and wants you to stop, there's a super simple way to deal with it: tell them to stop. If someone is making fun of you, or bullying you, put your hand up, like a traffic cop in the "Stop" motion, and take a deep breath. In a calm environment, you can even say something like, "Please stop. I need you to stop now because it's bothering me."
- If you tell a bully to stop bothering you, keep repeating that sentence. If you can't get him mad, a lot of bullies won't have enough fun to keep it up. After failing to provoke him several times, most bullies can just leave him alone.
- If a bully escalates things after you ask him to stop, it's not inappropriate to communicate with someone, such as a teacher, a parent, or a superior in the office. Ask someone to stand by you.
Step 2. Avoid your enemy as much as possible
The best way to defeat any enemy is to take them out of your life completely. Avoid enemies as much as possible to disarm them and steal their ability to offend, torment and annoy you. If you're fighting a bully, use your observation skills to step away from his annoyances and spend time elsewhere. Don't give them the opportunity to torment you.
If you have to meet your enemy regularly, such as at work or at school, and you are forced to interact with him, your job will be more difficult, but not impossible. The best way to avoid these enemies is to ignore them. Put headphones on when your enemies start bragging around the office so you don't have to hear them, or notice them, or before the class bell rings, enter the room and sit opposite them. It will be like he's not there
Step 3. Keep calm
When your enemy confronts you, the best tactic is to stay calm. Very peaceful! Don't get angry, or try to argue when your enemy provokes you. Just look at your enemy as if he were a swarm of ants, or your cat's vomit. A small inconvenience. Emotional reactions are like water to your enemies' plants. Don't water them and they will die. Even if you react, stay cool and calm. Never angry.
- When he confronts you, try portraying your enemy doing something ridiculous, like singing opera, or fighting an octopus. This will hurt him terribly and in the worst way.
- Don't listen to the toxic vomit that comes from your enemy's mouth. Practice reciting a mantra any time he speaks, concentrating on replacing the words you hear with something positive. The lyrics of your favorite song, a poem, or a prayer might be an appropriate passage to memorize for these occasions.
Step 4. Ice your enemy
Indifference can be a powerful and effective tool in fighting enemies. All bullies, false friends and nemesis want attention. They want an audience and will pick people to help them stand out above the crowd. The best way to disarm this? Ignore them completely.
When you see your enemy coming, literally act as if nothing is happening. No sound, no other people present. There is absolutely no apparent reaction. Even if your enemy is in front of you shouting your name, just ignore him and talk to one of your friends as if nothing is happening
Step 5. Find safety in a group
There is an old saying about enemies that is true: your enemy's enemy is your friend. It's likely that your enemy is tormenting more people than just you. Find other people to relate to through their mutual distrust of a common enemy. Then plan a revenge!
Bullies most often choose to provoke individuals they think are friendly and weak. If you have a bunch of good buddies you can hang out with, you can easily dodge a single bully by turning the numbers against him
Step 6. Go ahead
The best revenge? Live well. The best way to get a bully out of your life is to get over the case and put him in the back window. Ignore your bully, give it a break and get on with your life. If your enemy sees that it hasn't been able to have a significant effect on you, all power will be taken from his immature attempts to get a scapegoat.
Step 7. Scare your enemy.
Under certain circumstances, a suitable prank may be the best way to surprise your enemy. This is truer of particularly proud enemies, or selfish ones, an action that can put you in your place. Some pranks to get back at your enemies might include:
- Hack into your enemy's email account and send compromising messages to a mailing list that will embarrass him.
- Order something embarrassing to deliver to your enemy in the office. Send a big box full of old Wrestling magazines, or adult diaper catalogs, or weird and exotic pornography to your workplace. Delivered in the building, not your private room, so the personal delivery will have to go through every office until you meet your tormentor in person.
- Be tougher. Poop in a paper bag at your enemy's front door? Chewing gum on the shower faucet? Defecating in the toilet water tank? It is up to you to decide.
Method 3 of 3: Defending Yourself
Step 1. Don't look for a fight, but learn to defend yourself if necessary
You should never let your enemy drag you into a fight, but some are very skilled at bringing you into a physical assault situation. You will be able to be much more confident in your ability to get through the day if you know that you will be able to handle whatever situation arises. Have no fear. Get ready.
Step 2. Learn to throw a punch
Fights aren't like in the movies, where two people land a million right-handed hooks in the face, until someone is knocked out. Most fights are faster, and learning the correct way to throw a punch will give you the security of not making any mistakes if the situation demands it, so you'll be able to throw a blow with great chances of hitting and end the fight. as soon as possible.
- Punch by closing the fingers on your hand tightly, but not so tight that it cuts off your circulation. Wrap your thumb around the bottom of your knuckles, not around your index finger and not inside your fingers.
- Slightly extend the middle phalanx of the middle finger. This is where your punch should make contact, not your big joint, where your fingers connect to your hands.
- Punch in a straight line, keeping your elbows flexed and throwing straight punches, without using circular punches. There is much more power in a straight jab than in a more curved and angular punch (known as a swing).
- Hit the nose, neck or stomach. When you punch someone in the jaw, cheek, or forehead, you will end up hurting yourself. Hit the weak spots and hit hard.
Step 3. Learn to defend yourself.
Maintaining a good defensive position is just as important as throwing a strong punch, if not more important. Remember you're not in a Rocky movie: a couple of hard punches to your mouth will take you to the ground, which is exactly where you don't want to be.
- Keep your fists, slightly clenched, close to your face and shift your weight so that your shoulder and hips are on your strongest side and aimed at your opponent. Don't face him fully, but turn sideways to become a smaller target.
- Keep your hands close to your chin and beside your head at all times when not punching.
Step 4. Move forward, never backward
When throwing punches, go straight towards your opponent with your defensive stance. Make it your goal to take him down. The best way to do this is to be as confident as possible and move forward and move forward. Don't let yourself be pushed back.
While it may seem unbelievable and against natural instinct, it is much safer to move towards the punches than away from them. Go forward and make your enemy retreat instead of backwards. If you realize you are going to be hit, keep a medium distance before the blow reaches its maximum power, as it will hurt less to be hit at that moment than at the apex of the movement, when it will be easier to be knocked out. Move forward and make your opponent walk backwards
Step 5. Don't stand still
Strike and move, boxers say. If you find yourself in a fight, don't just stand on your supporting foot unless you want to take a hit and get knocked out. Stand on your toes, bouncing a little and moving your head back and forth, as if dodging a nasty bee flying around you. Make your head a moving target and it will be hard to hit.
Step 6. Remain standing
Try not to fall under any circumstances, or take the fight to the ground. Standing in a fight is sometimes the best way to handle a difficult situation. If your enemy pushes you, you must avoid at all costs taking the fight to the ground, as this is very dangerous.
If you hit your opponent, back off and show who you're dealing with. Say, "This is over" and leave. You've proved your point
Step 7. Find the fastest way to escape
Finish a fight as quickly as possible, looking for a way out. If you hit your opponent with a well-timed punch, don't give him opportunities to make him even more nervous, running towards you with more blows. Just say, "Look, I'm satisfied with this. I don't want to fight you. You started this and I'm done." Then make a quick exit in style. With any luck, this should get this enemy out of your way.