The hug is one of the best physical manifestations of affection. It helps release hormones that reduce stress and anxiety, meaning it contributes to physical and mental well-being. If hugging is rare in your daily life or if you are unsure about the best way to hug someone depending on the type of situation, this article is for you! Hugging is easy and always nice.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: The Beginning of It All
Step 1. Take it easy
Even if he or she has demonstrated that they feel like being hugged, start slowly. Don't come and hug straight, like that, all of a sudden. It doesn't matter if you're dying to jump on top of the person and hug him or her with all your might, take it easy at first. Place your hand on his or her shoulder, back or waist to insinuate what you want. Leave your hand there for a few minutes and start stroking him/her.
- Make it very clear that you want a hug. A hand on the shoulder can mean something else, so start stroking his or her arm to see if he or she gets your message.
- Remember that the hug is complete. That is, it doesn't necessarily lead to other actions, like a make-out session, for example. Start by hugging slowly until you're comfortable, not worrying about what might happen next.
Step 2. Take the external environment into account
Then you are ready to go for the hug. Before going into the fight, take into account factors such as the weather, available space, etc. For example, if it's too hot, you need to cut the hug short so you don't end up in a puddle of sweat. Are you on the couch, in bed or in an unusual place? The available space limits the number of possible positions for hugging.
Step 3. Make yourself comfortable
To hold each other for a long time, it's best to be in a comfortable position first. If you plan on cuddling for hours watching a movie or sleeping together, wear comfortable clothes. A pillow also helps, even if you are resting your head on his or her body.
Step 4. Bet on a simple massage
Carefully run your hand down your back, legs, or arms. The goal is to make the other feel more comfortable to be hugged. Once they have entered the embrace, continue the massage to make the experience even more pleasurable.
Method 2 of 3: Embrace as a Subject Matter Expert
Step 1. Bet on the classic and finish by cupping
It is a marvel because it allows the two bodies to stay glued together, snuggled together. One stands outside, putting his arms over the one inside.
- Be careful not to bump your head against his/her. When cupping, the heads are very close. Those on the outside can rest their head on the shoulder of those on the inside, or even support it in one of their arms.
- For hot days… Cupping heats up a lot, because the two are glued together and generate heat for each other. So that they don't get wet with sweat, outsiders should avoid wrapping their arms around insiders and spreading their legs apart. So the physical contact diminishes and, with it, the heat.
Step 2. Try the half shell
In it, whoever stays outside lies on his back, while the other person lies on his side, supporting his head on the chest of the one below. To increase intimacy, it's worth wrapping your legs around his/hers.
Step 3. Compact shell
To be done in tight spaces. One is lying on his back. The other lies on her side, with her face turned towards the body of the first. To avoid suffocation for those on their side, those on their back should tilt their head a little downwards so that the other can rest their head on the first one's chest.
Step 4. Super romantic shell
Here, the two lie down facing each other. You can lie on your stomach or on your side, and you can hold your hands in the space between your bodies. More romantic than that, impossible.
Step 5. Gazing at the stars
For those nights on the beach with a starry sky or just when you feel like it. Lie on your back side by side and curl your legs together. If you don't care for a numb arm, you can leave it under it or under it.
Step 6. Lay your head in his or her lap
This position is great for when you want to talk as you can look each other right in the eye. One remains seated, while the other rests her head in the lap of the person who is seated. In fact, in this position, whoever sits down has the chance to stroke the other's hair or face.
Method 3 of 3: Explore Displays of Affection
Step 1. Play with his or her hair
Few things show as much affection as playing with your hair. It doesn't matter if you're male or female; everyone loves it when someone runs their fingers through the strands during a hug. Who doesn't enjoy a tasty cuddle? This can help him/her to be more comfortable and happier.
Step 2. Give kisses
Kiss to show affection and love, not as a warm-up for a make-out session. Kiss the forehead, arms and hands. He or she will be happy to be cozy with you.
Step 3. Bet on the massage
Everyone likes a relaxing massage, right? Massage the parts of his or her body that are close to you. Typically these are the back, shoulders or arms. If massage isn't your thing, you can simply run your hand back and forth, stroking.
Step 4. Run your hands over his or her body
Use your fingertips in smooth movements. Run your hands over his or her torso, legs and arms. It's easier to do this when you're huddled together, but you can improvise in just about any position.
Step 5. Lightly tickle
It's a good way to make him or her burst out laughing. Be careful not to overdo it; do just a little, that is, enough to show that you want him or her closer to you.
Tips
- There are girls who like to be hugged from behind.
- Relax. Your body can't be tense when it comes to giving and receiving affection, right?
- As seen in this article, there is not just one way to hug and cuddle. Ask him or her what they like. Don't be afraid to ask. It's nice to be able to talk about something so delicious. You need to know how far he or she wants to go, what he or she likes you to do, and where he or she is uncomfortable showing affection in public. For example, your friends might be embarrassed if you and he or she start hugging and cuddling.
- Try to hug more in your day-to-day.
- Some people like to receive affection more than others. If the person doesn't hug you back, it could be because they don't want to hug you or because they aren't comfortable with physical displays of affection.