It's distressing not to be sure if someone has a crush on you. There are those who prefer a more direct approach, but most people, in order to preserve themselves, only give vague hints about their feelings - and deciphering them can be very tricky. When it comes to jinxing, some people are harder to interpret than others, but with patient observation you can come closer to a conclusion.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Observing Body Language
Step 1. Notice how often eye contact occurs
This is the most powerful feature of body language. If the person returns your gaze longer than usual, there's a good chance they'll like you.
Try to catch her looking at you. Fixing your eyes on your loved ones is perfectly natural, especially when you think no one is watching. When you are in the same room without talking to each other, look in the direction of the suspect, intending to know if he was looking at you. If he's shy, he'll probably look away, but he'll keep staring if he's bold
Step 2. See if she smiles at you
Like eye contact, a smile says a lot, even without a word. While eye contact suggests interest, the smile shows affection, affection. Start noticing whether the person smiles when you're together.
- Or you can instigate a smile: make eye contact with the suitor; if he smiles back, there's a good chance he's interested in you.
- But someone who is shy would find it too embarrassing to smile at someone else - especially the one for whom you have romantic pretensions.
Step 3. Observe if there is any affectionate physical contact
Certain types of touch are an obvious form of flirting. This includes touching the arms, the waist, and even lingering hugs. It is normal to have physical contact between friends, but when there is some romantic feeling involved, this contact becomes a little more shy and awkward.
You could also lightly touch your crush and see how she reacts - if she likes it or is embarrassed, she probably has a crush on you
Step 4. See if he tries to make a good impression on you
The body expresses attraction to someone unconsciously through body language. Deliberately or not, people assume a posture compatible with how they feel. When you come across your crush by accident, see if her body language changes abruptly. This shows an interest in you.
- Men and women use resources other than body language to show attention. The former usually try to look big and confident, which includes, among other things, puffing out their chest and wrapping their arm around the suitor's waist.
- And women tend to be sexier: smiling, fussing with their hair and letting their shyness surface are some of the actions they take when the guy they like is around.
Step 5. Ask yourself if she tries hard to be by your side
When you love a person, it's natural to feel the urge to be with them for as long as possible. Someone attracted to you will take every chance they can to be by your side, whether at school, at work, or in some other more casual circumstance.
Method 2 of 3: Talking to your crush
Step 1. Create opportunities to talk about personal matters
If you live with the object of your suspicions, a casual conversation can help you understand how he feels about you. Two people interested in each other usually have more intense conversations - or at least a little more heated than casual conversation. Personal details, secret fears and painful experiences are some of the issues that arise in this type of interaction, so try to get into one of these themes and see how your interlocutor reacts. If he doesn't object to a more intimate conversation, he's probably into you.
Step 2. Flirt
If you're interested in someone who hasn't yet shown any signs that the interest is mutual, flirt with them. Flirting is all kinds of behavior aimed at expressing attraction - everything you've probably been doing unconsciously: smiling at the person, maintaining (or avoiding) eye contact, laughing for no reason, praise and subtle teasing: all of these can be understood as flirting.
- Having your flirt reciprocated is a sign that he is interested in you.
- Of course, the fact that he flirts before you take any action is an even clearer sign of attraction. Pay attention to teasing and praise given to you, especially if they are related to aspects that involve physical attraction: charm, appearance, etc.
Step 3. Tell jokes and estimate his reaction
Expressing romantic interest through laughter and good humor is very common. So how a person reacts to your jokes - if you're one of the jokers - is a good thermometer for how they feel about you: the greater their affection, the more likely they are to laugh. Plus, humor is an attractive quality, so making her laugh is an incentive for her to see some romantic potential in you, even if she isn't interested in you yet.
If the person doesn't laugh, maybe he doesn't want anything to do with you. Be especially careful with anyone who even cracks a smile
Step 4. Note how long it takes her to respond to your messages
In the age of online communication, internet interactions reveal a lot about someone's feelings about you. When chatting with the date via social networks or electronic messengers, just notice how quickly he responds to what you write. If you're relatively quick, you probably want something more than friendship. Keep in mind, however, that the computer might be busy, which would prolong the response time. Depending on how often he is active on social media, you can deduce whether he is idle.
Step 5. Ask directly
After all subtle alternatives have been exhausted, there is still the straightforward approach: asking the person what the nature of their feelings for you is. In most cases, girls and guys end up expressing their feelings in another way, making it unnecessary to ask a direct question. But if you're tired of waiting and want confirmation, this is a great solution.
- It doesn't have to be anything too elaborate. Just ask a simple question: "I get the impression you're attracted to me. Am I right to think that?"
- If you are dealing with someone who is shy or awkward, it will be difficult to extract an accurate answer right away. Therefore, it is preferable to launch the question in the middle of a conversation that is flowing well than to ask the person abruptly.
Method 3 of 3: Finding Out Through Friends
Step 1. See if there is anyone your date is interested in
While it's okay to invest in multiple romantic prospects at the same time when you're single, finding out if your prospect likes someone is a good indicator of their emotional availability. Ask his friends or observe how he behaves when interacting with people of the opposite sex.
Step 2. Ask a friend for their opinion
Everyone, intentionally or unintentionally, observes how the people around them behave. Ask a friend if he's picked up any signs that your crush is also attracted to you. Even if you are very observant, a third person views the situation from a neutral point of view, and perhaps adds something that you missed.
If your suitor's intentions toward you are difficult to decipher, a mutual friend can be of great help. Besides, he could tell if the two of you would make a good couple
Step 3. Find out what his friends know
When one person likes another, there is a great chance that the subject will come up in a conversation between friends. If you're afraid to ask your date for clarification, try to find something out from his friends, who, if they have enough information, can report what he said about you word for word, or otherwise at least appreciate his feelings. for you. Either way, this will bring you closer to some conclusion.
- Your inquiries are likely to reach your crush's ears. If you want to keep your curiosity a secret, this can be a risk.
- Overall, girls are more likely to open up to friends than boys. However, the same method works for both genders.
Step 4. Find out what his friends think of you
Some groups of friends have a swarm mentality - your crush's feeling towards you influences the group's feeling. In other words, if you are liked by everyone in that circle of friends, you are certainly liked by the person you are interested in. The same applies if they don't care about you.
Asking directly what someone thinks of you is not advisable, as many people prefer to lie to create an uncomfortable situation. Instead, try to estimate what the group thinks of you by how they react to your presence. Do they open up for you to participate in the conversation? Do they hear what you are saying? Seem genuinely interested in you? It's hard to know how someone you've just met thinks, but you'll get a better sense of it if you look at the behavior of your circle of friends
Step 5. Give the treatment you receive in front of his friends
Of course there are friendships between different genders, but the treatment you would receive in public from a person who sees you as a friend is different than what you would receive from someone who has a crush on you. If she seems very interested in introducing you to her friends, she may see a lot of potential in you for a romantic relationship.
- Being ignored when you are with your friends is not a good sign. Some people don't like to reveal their romantic interests to friends, it's true, but at least some respect must exist.
- On the other hand, if she makes an effort to get you to participate in group conversations and activities and shows affection in front of friends, she may have loving feelings for you.
Tips
- Consider the personality of the person you are interested in. A shy person, for example, demonstrates affection more subtly than someone uninhibited.
- Men and women express emotions in different ways. Therefore, the way to find out if someone is attracted to you varies by gender.