Every individual is different, but men under the Cancer sign often have similar characteristics and fall in love in similar ways. Become the kind of woman a Cancer man wants. Take care of him and connect with his sensitive side.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Improving Yourself
Step 1. Keep a steady life
The Cancer man usually has an orderly life, and on some level, he can expect the same from you. Your accomplishments don't have to be exactly the same, but your life should demonstrate a degree of stability.
Show that you can take care of yourself without him. You must have some meaning for your life and be able to take care of your basic needs
Step 2. Resist the temptation to depend on him materially
Even though most men with cancer are able to support you materially, it is better to avoid this type of situation. If the Cancer in your life has any reason to suspect that you might be after their money, they can emotionally disengage.
- Unless he offers to pay on a date, you should take turns or occasionally split the bill.
- Don't make any demands on gifts or things you want him to buy. If he likes to please her with various material gifts, you should consider whether you are also doing this for him. Gifts don't have to be expensive, but they should show a comparable amount of affection.
Step 3. Defend yourself
You may be worried about making your Cancerian upset if you argue with the Cancerian, but healthy reasoning can really increase their esteem for you.
The key is to make sure your arguments are reasonable and healthy. Do not hit him or look for weaknesses or accuse him unfairly. When the time comes for you to reconcile, don't hold back
Step 4. Take care of the appearance
Generally speaking, Cancerians can be a little superficial about their appearance. You don't need to be a beauty queen, but dressing up for him once in a while can certainly help your cause.
- You don't have to do anything extreme, but keep to good hygiene, wear some makeup, and dress up in nice clothes.
- Perfume can be another powerful tool. Look for a liquid soap or shampoo with a feminine and flowery fragrance. Make that scent your signature and get the Cancer to associate it with you.
Step 5. Behave gracefully
Since Cancerians are sensitive beings, they can appreciate inner beauty as well as outer beauty. Try to live in a balanced and graceful way.
Losing your temper from time to time is natural and good, but it needs to be an exception to the rule, not your default behavior
Part 2 of 3: Connecting Emotionally
Step 1. Empathize
Become an expert on his moods and emotions. Cancer men tend to be among the most sensitive men in the zodiac. If you can master the ability to decipher his moods and react accordingly, you can find your way to this man's heart quickly.
- When he feels distressed, ask him what's going on. If he hesitates, let the Cancer open up at his own pace, but make it clear that you are willing and eager to listen.
- When he's not unhappy, keep him smiling. The typical Cancer man likes to laugh, so a woman who can keep him smiling will look very attractive.
Step 2. Rely on him for emotional support
Drop your guard and allow yourself to be vulnerable in front of him. Most Cancer men are fully capable of supporting her emotionally and really enjoy having the opportunity to do so.
Trust him with your secrets. When you have a bad day, go to him. He craves empathy from the people he cares about and craves the same feeling in return
Step 3. Appreciate Cancer's caring side
You will need to learn to appreciate his regard for you, and you will also need to accept and encourage his regard for others. While most Cancer men are loyal, there may be times when they will prioritize helping someone over spending time with you.
Don't be surprised if he rushes to the side of a sick friend or offers to help a neighbor with a difficult task, even if it means canceling an evening with you. The Cancerian's sense of obligation can manifest itself at inconvenient times, and you need to learn to tolerate it
Step 4. Measure your words
Healthy arguments can be beneficial, but attacking or spouting nasty insults is not. If you attack the weak spots through your words, it can cause him to put a barricade between you and his heart.
He can be more sensitive to criticism than most men, so comments that can bring him down will turn him away. You can bring up constructive criticism or concern when necessary, but stay away from criticism that does nothing but insult you
Step 5. Make a thoughtful gesture
When a Cancer man can feel how much you love him, he may be more likely to fall in love in return. Do something nice for him for no apparent reason. A little timely affection can do a lot.
- When you say "I love you", do it in a meaningful, passionate and genuine way. I don't say lip service.
- Gifts that remind him of your relationship can be especially effective. Think of photo albums, love poems, and trips to emotionally significant places -- like the place you met, for example.
- Gestures and care are an advantage, so you might try making a homemade meal or a handmade handkerchief.
Step 6. Don't play jealousy games
You may be tempted to make your Cancer feel jealous by flirting with other men, but this will inevitably backfire. Most Cancerians tend to be possessive. Cancerians can feel jealous easily and don't handle this emotion very well.
Step 7. Deal with emotional issues immediately
Regardless of who feels hurt, you or he, you both need to sit down and resolve your emotional difficulties as quickly as possible. The Cancerian's negative feelings are likely not going to go away on their own, and he can also hope that his negative feelings will remain until they are resolved.
- When he feels hurt, he can withdraw until you offer an apology.
- On the other hand, if you withdraw emotionally, it can become clingy and demanding. The only way to calm him down is to open his heart and make peace.
Step 8. Look for signs of affection
Since Cancers tend to be so sentimental, you'll be able to know when he's fallen in love with you even before he says the words. Watch for a change in behavior. If he becomes noticeably more affectionate towards you, his heart may already be yours.
- Increased levels of affection and consideration are good signs. If the Cancer is giving you lots of hugs, asking about your day, and noticing your mood, he may be in love with you.
- Likewise, if he pulls away or seems noticeably hurt by something you've done, it could mean that an emotional bond has been created.
Part 3 of 3: Taking care of him
Step 1. Give him time
Cancerians are often intuitively aware of how sensitive they are, so they know they can get hurt by getting involved with the wrong person. It may take some time before it opens up to you. If you're consistent enough with your affections, he should let his guard down eventually.
His need for emotional security may be very strong, so he will need to feel a certain degree of emotion from you before he will allow himself to feel the same way. Once the Cancer is sure of his feelings, however, he is more likely to let go and be honest with you
Step 2. Talk about family
If he fits the mold, your Cancer will be very family-oriented. Talk about your family and encourage him to talk about his. If he feels that you share the same feeling about family, his affection for you can grow.
- His idea of family may be broader than yours, and may include aunts, uncles, cousins, and other distant relatives.
- Some Cancer men may even take things a little too far and spoil their family members more than necessary. If the Cancer gets along with his family, however, he may also come to love them as his own.
Step 3. Create a cozy atmosphere
Due in part to their love of family, Cancer thrives in a warm and welcoming environment. This nourishes your spirit and opens your heart. Creating this environment for the Cancer man in your life can encourage him to open his heart to you.
Welcome him to your home and show an interest in being part of his. Spend time with him at home and enjoy a lot of time just the two of you
Step 4. Spend some time in nature
An interest that most Cancers share is an appreciation for nature. When you spend a day or night together, go somewhere that allows you both to enjoy nature at its best. Dragging him to a place he'll love demonstrates a highly attractive level of consideration.
- A weekend camping trip will likely mean more to him than a weekend in a big city.
- Parks and other places with panoramic views are great ideas for meetings.
Step 5. Plan for the future
Don't be afraid to talk about the future with him. Cancer men are successful thanks to their ability to think ahead, so they will generally love women who do the same.
- Talk about your dreams and goals.
- Since most Cancers have no problem with serious commitments, discussions about the future together are generally safe.
Step 6. Commit yourself completely
When the Cancerian gives his heart to you, he'll do it completely. You need to be prepared to do the same. Before you make him fall in love with you, fall in love with him, too.
Step 7. Pay attention to him as an individual
Keep in mind that each person is different, and the ideas offered here are just guidelines.