Leaving your family home before you turn 18 is a very difficult decision. Depending on how your life is at the moment, you may be considering moving for a variety of reasons. Before making a drastic decision, take a moment and think about what your options are so that you can move safely and in accordance with the law.
Method 1 of 3: Emancipating Yourself
Step 1. Learn about the emancipation process
If you want to leave home and become completely independent from your parents or legal guardians, maybe emancipation is a good way to go. Even though it is only after the age of 18 that people are considered capable and legally independent, those who are 16 or 17 are seen as “relatively incapable” and can be emancipated.
- If you marry, you will be considered legally independent.
- A degree in a higher education course (3rd degree) also guarantees emancipation.
- If your parents or legal guardians sign the emancipation request, that is enough for the Brazilian justice.
Step 2. Seek to have a steady income
To become emancipated or be able to leave home at 16, you will have to prove to the court that you have a source of income. It is important to emphasize that teenagers fall under child labor laws and this sometimes prevents full-time work.
Step 3. Find a safe place to live
During emancipation planning, you should think about where you intend to live. Generally, to rent a property, you need to have a guarantor (someone responsible for the debt if you do not pay the rent) or you will have to make a security deposit, which is nothing more than a certain number of advance rents that are guaranteed payment and will only be returned when you return the property.
Only adults or emancipated minors can rent property in their own name
Step 4. Make a plan for completing the studies
It is necessary to finish high school to get any type of job, but there are places that will accept your application if you are finishing high school or taking high school. The new house you are going to live in should be close to your school or future school so you don't get left behind in your studies.
Step 5. Fill in all the necessary forms
When applying for emancipation, you will have to fill in forms and sign them. Many of them will also need the signature of their parents or legal guardians. Many of the things you will need can be found on government and Brazilian Justice portals on the internet.
Perhaps some of these documents also have to be signed by a third person, such as a witness
Step 6. Enter the emancipation application
After you've read and reread the list of requirements for emancipation and are sure you meet all of them, file a claim in court. You will need to prove that you have a means of support (income) and a residence during the process.
- You can prove your income using bank statements.
- Don't expect the process to be too fast. It may take six months or more to achieve emancipation.
Method 2 of 3: Leaving Home Without Emancipation
Step 1. Try to reach an agreement with your parents or guardians first
If you want to leave the house, but without asking for legal emancipation, talk and try to reach an agreement with your parents or guardians. Depending on your circumstances, your family can support your willingness to move. Define where or with whom you would like to live before having this conversation seriously.
If possible, see if you can move in with someone else. Isolating yourself can damage your physical or mental health
Step 2. Ask to move in with a relative if your parents won't let you live alone
If they don't like the idea of you living alone, consider moving to another relative's house. You will have to have a conversation with the relative in question and with your parents or guardians to see if everyone agrees with this.
Under the law, you cannot move in with relatives without your parents' permission
Step 3. See if you can move in with a trusted friend if you don't have any family members you want to live with
If your parents or legal guardians don't think it's a good idea for you to live alone or with another relative, talk to a trusted friend and see if you can live with him. You can offer to pay a rent or exchange your stay for housework. Even if he only agrees to do this for a few weeks or months, it might be a good idea to take a break from everyday life in your home.
If you are going to live with a family friend, you need to make sure that everyone in his or her house is in agreement
Step 4. Don't run away from home
Even if you are frustrated or unhappy in your home, running away is not a good solution. Don't go live elsewhere without preparing yourself first. This is very important! Teenagers who run away from home run the risk of being victims of crimes, being lured by criminals, developing addictions, among several other serious dangers.
If you feel like running away, go to your local social services or a trusted adult to talk about what's going on
Method 3 of 3: Living Independently
Step 1. Minors can only rent property if they have a legal representative
If you have decided to move out of your home, look for apartments for rent in your city. Even if minors can rent property, a legal representative is required or, at the very least, the minor needs to be assisted by one.
Depending on your situation, it may be best to sign the rental agreement with your parents or guardians (or another trusted adult) in case you have financial problems in the future
Step 2. Search for apartments for rent online
Sites such as real estateweb, fifth floor and zap real estate have hundreds of apartments for rent in your city or region. When searching, it's good to already have an idea of when you want to move and how long you want to stay in the apartment.
If you're having trouble finding an apartment but still want to live alone, look for student houses or shelters and initiatives for minors
Step 3. Find a part-time job so you can support yourself
Due to laws against child labor, you may not be able to get a full-time position until you turn 18 or get your high school diploma. Look for part-time job openings near where you live. On some sites, you need to tell how old you are.
It is also possible to earn money without having a formal job. Walking dogs and providing gardening services, for example, will bring in some money
Step 4. Make a budget to manage your money
Depending on what the new house looks like, you may have to be responsible for monthly bills, such as water, electricity, rent and food. Create a budget that helps you save money for whatever it takes to support yourself.
- Use Microsoft Excel or Google Spreadsheets to make a spreadsheet of your budget. This makes it easy to add up expenses such as rent, food and bills every month.
- Once you've set aside the money for the basics, you'll be able to see what you'll have for more fun things like eating out, shopping, and so on.
Step 5. Build connections for support if you need it
Even though living alone is a great sign of independence, it's important to maintain relationships with people. If you don't have friends or family to turn to for help when you need it, look for other connections, such as joining a sports team, study group, therapy group, or the like.