Do you feel that you are irritating other people and looking for a solution to the problem? Know that it is already halfway there. What you need to do now is just become more aware of your own actions and change the way you interact with others. Pay attention to how you talk in person, in text messages and on the internet, and adjust for unwanted behavior. It is very important to respect limits and not invade people's space.
Method 1 of 4: Communicating in a Positive Way
Step 1. Listen more and talk less about yourself
People get fed up when someone spends all their time talking about themselves. Do you have some amazing news or something really cool to share? Count them, but also make room for others in the conversation.
- Don't start talking about your stories when there is a period of silence during the conversation. It's better to ask other people something and hear the answers.
- For example, say something like: “You mentioned that you liked K-pop. What is your favorite band?”
- Ask a friend: “How was the weekend? I'm dying to know how the meeting with Luana went!”
Step 2. Don't interrupt when someone is talking
Cutting people off is one of the easiest ways to annoy them because it shows that you have no interest in what they are saying or that you consider your own speech to be more important. Let others finish sentences before opening their mouths.
- It's a good idea to wait a few seconds to make sure you can start talking without getting in your way.
- The situation can get a lot more serious if you don't let the teacher, boss, or other authority speak.
Step 3. Talk about bad things less often
There's nothing wrong with sharing something negative every now and then, especially when you're with your closest friends, but people can start to avoid you if you just open your mouth to complain or be pessimistic. Also, making negative comments at work only creates a toxic environment. Try to change your perspective and be more positive!
For example, prefer to say: “That's cool! A lemon pie is being served today. It's very tasty and even helps you forget about that watery coffee!” to “Here comes that bad coffee again”
Step 4. Don't talk too much so as not to make people uncomfortable
Giving too many details of your personal life can make others uncomfortable, especially if they are co-workers or just acquaintances. Sometimes you end up creating a bad situation even with friends. Don't talk too much about your love life or health to someone you barely know.
- For example, if a coworker asks about the weekend, don't do a monologue describing a hemorrhoid attack. Simply say, “It was really cool. With this sunny weather you can enjoy it a lot.”
- Don't dwell on the violent scenes from the horror movie you watched yesterday while your best friend tries to eat lunch.
Step 5. Use an appropriate tone and volume of voice to communicate more clearly and effectively
It's okay to change your voice as you tell a story or whisper, but don't be talking loudly or mumbling all the time. Follow the voice volume of others. Do you usually speak too low? Learn to project your voice better.
Step 6. Don't repeat what you've already said or done
Maybe it's fun the first time, but doing it constantly, playing unpleasant sounds or always the same phrases, is very irritating. Did someone ask you to stop? Just stop because you might end up losing a friend if you keep going.
- Don't imitate other people or repeat what they said without a reason.
- Speak only once, unless you are asked to say it again.
Step 7. Pay attention to the tone of your voice and what it conveys
Even if you say something relevant and important, the way you speak can indicate frustration, irritation, or pity. You may not even realize it, but emotions change the tone of your voice.
Did you notice a strange reaction in other people? Check the tone of your voice and try to speak respectfully and positively
Method 2 of 4: Sending Text Messages Without Annoying People
Step 1. Don't send more than one or two messages before receiving the reply
Sending a bunch of messages in a row, especially when you haven't even received the first response, irritates people a lot. Wait a while! It might not seem like a big deal to flood your friend's cell phone with a mountain of texts, but what if he couldn't answer because he was at a relative's funeral?
Sending too many messages to a crush can end the relationship before it starts. You sent two texts and he didn't even look? Maybe it's not a message that he's not into you
Step 2. Don't start a group conversation if there's no good reason
It's not a good idea to add relatives and friends to a group to keep sending useless messages. Other group members can start interacting too and everyone ends up with endless and meaningless notifications.
Do you have to share something very short and that doesn't need an answer? Maybe it's okay to send a message to a group once in a while
Step 3. Don't write large texts
Sending messages that are giant or full of details irritates people and discourages reading. Do you have something very important to talk about? Call or make an appointment. Messages must be brief, polite and to the point.
These huge messages have an even worse effect when they are sent to a crush or someone you just met
Step 4. Don't send a generic, standardized message to multiple contacts
Nobody likes to get something like, "What's going on this weekend?", "Are you available tonight?" or “Which movie do you recommend I see today?”. It's very hard to use these texts and it's too impersonal.
Note that the more you send this type of message, the fewer replies appear
Step 5. Don't send a message just to say you left something in your mailbox
If you called a friend and they couldn't answer, simply leave a message on their voicemail. Don't send things like: “Check your mailbox” or “Hi! I'm trying to get in touch with you.” If he didn't answer the call, he probably won't answer the text, so wait.
It's okay to feel a lot of wanting to talk to someone sometimes, but don't go overboard
Method 3 of 4: Avoiding inappropriate behavior on social media
Step 1. Don't tag people on posts that are meaningless or without permission
It's a really bad idea to tag someone into something that has nothing to do with them. When posting a photo with other people, send a message asking if you can tag them, especially if you're not very close to them.
- For example, if you post a photo of your fifth-grade class on Facebook, don't chase each person to tag them. Maybe they don't like it, even if you still keep in touch.
- Tagging all your friends in a silly meme is a great way to piss them off.
Step 2. Don't write weird comments or anything to do on other people's posts
Don't use a huge string of emojis, don't make pointless remarks and don't leave mysterious messages. Before posting anything, reread what you've written and ask yourself if you really need to post the comment.
For example, don't comment every post with a bunch of heart emojis. It might look cute at first, but it gets boring in no time
Step 3. Insert relevant hashtags and don't overdo it
Do not include terms that have nothing to do with the publication. You don't need to use every hashtag in the world. They are a tool that serves to facilitate the search for relevant information. Choose the most appropriate ones and don't add anything else.
For example, Instagram allows you to put up to 40 hashtags in a post, but using that amount is a really bad idea
Step 4. Don't fight on other people's posts
Most of the time, you don't need to give your opinion when you see a post or comment that you dislike, especially when it has nothing to do with you. Please remember that your comments are public! Twitter wars and endless discussions on Facebook are unbearable.
- For example, if a friend posts a clip on Facebook, don't comment: “This song sucks”. When someone talks nonsense, don't say anything and don't get involved.
- Don't correct other people's grammar and spelling.
Step 5. Don't be showing off on social media
It's okay to write once about something you're excited about, but bragging all the time is pretty boring. Those who are working and can't have fun are not interested in seeing an endless stream of photos from their amazing vacation on Instagram.
Method 4 of 4: Respecting Other People's Limits
Step 1. Respect the limitsPeople tolerate some attitudes but not others. It's not hard to see what you can and can't do. The limits vary widely from culture to culture and from individual to individual. When you do what you shouldn't, apologize, but make a real effort to improve.
For example, don't move and take other people's things without asking, don't show up at an event uninvited, etc
Step 2. Respect others' space and don't lean over without permission
Some people don't care, but others hate it. Ask before reaching out or giving a hug to someone who isn't so close.
- Say something like, "Can I have a hug before we leave?" If you get a “no”, that's fine and don't think it has anything to do with you.
- Don't poke or even take the arm of someone who has shown that they don't like physical contact. Of course, you don't have to worry about this sort of thing when you're with a friend, but be careful with your gestures if you're with a more distant person.
Step 3. Stand back when asked for a space
Sometimes people need time alone. Did someone ask to be away for a few days? Respect his needs and don't keep calling or texting. Just give him some breathing room.
- Know that this type of request is not about you, it is just something the person needs to do to feel better.
- If you are closer, it is possible that you are already used to using a specific phrase to talk about it, such as: “I think I need to disconnect a little”.
Step 4. Be polite and keep your personal hygiene up to date whenever you canBeing polite is very important to not irritate others, even because rudeness bothers a lot. Improve your manners, always say “please” and “thank you” and be kind to others. How would you like to be treated? Think about it and treat people the same.
- Act appropriately in public: don't give off gas, don't talk about nasty things, and cover your nose and mouth when you sneeze or cough.
- Maintaining good hygiene is also a way to show respect for others. When you look all messed up, don't brush your teeth, and don't shower for a few days, you get the idea that you don't care what people think of you.
Step 5. Pay attention to your surroundings
Pay attention if you are getting in the way of someone getting in the way. Note where you are and get out of the way if you are blocking other people's way.
For example, don't stand or chat in front of a door. See what your kids are doing so they don't piss off others
Step 6. Take care of your life
Are you in the habit of meddling in conversations you weren't invited to? It's one of the easiest ways to irritate others. Don't listen to someone else's conversation and don't spy on the book someone is reading. People let you know when they want to share something.
- Don't you know if you're being boring? Ask someone close to you who can give a sincere and constructive response. Prepare to receive a review and accept it.
- Control the tone of your voice. Don't yell and don't speak louder to cover other people's voices.
- Tell friends and people you love that they can tap into your lapses. Always ask if the person needs space or expects a specific attitude from you.