If you can't leave the house, watch television or are under any other form of punishment, you can leave first. Parents may regret the severity of their punishment because they gave it when they were angry. Even if it hurts your ego, the best strategy for doing this is to make your parents happy and show that you are obedient.
Part 1 of 2: Getting Back to Good with Your Parents
Step 1. Offer to do household chores
Showing that you want to help your parents can make them less angry. Do the dishes, take out the trash, or take care of your younger siblings.
Step 2. Don't break the punishment rules
If you want it to end sooner, you must follow your restrictions to the letter. If you disobey and your parents find out, they can increase the punishment!
Step 3. Be polite to everyone, not just your parents
Seeing that you treat other adults, your friends, and your siblings well, your parents can see that you are a good child and ease the punishment.
Step 4. Spend more time with your parents
Locking yourself in your bedroom can make your parents angrier. So spend more time with them and strive to get closer. If you're angry with them, try something that doesn't involve a lot of conversation, like watching a movie.
Step 5. Wait before requesting a reduction in punishment
Your parents know you're doing better to get out of time-out soon, so the longer you're nice, the more likely they'll consider cutting the time.
Part 2 of 2: Asking to Decrease Punishment
Step 1. Try talking to either just your father or just your mother
It's easier that way, especially if one of them is more restricted than the other.
Step 2. Find a good time to talk
Ask him if he's busy and make it clear that he wants to talk about the punishment. If he's tired or irritable, this might not be the best time.
Step 3. Apologize
Even if it hurts your ego and you think you didn't do anything wrong, your parents think you did. And they won't alleviate if you don't agree with them.
Step 4. Don't make excuses
Don't try to blame someone else, even partially, for what you've done. Even if someone else has a part in it, just talk about your actions.
Step 5. Use more “I” and less “you”
They should know you're sorry but not feel that you blame them for anything.
Step 6. Suggest that you gain your privileges little by little
This works well with long punishments, which last for weeks. If you can't leave the house, ask to leave, but only until a certain time, and obey these new terms.
Try introducing this strategy to your parents. But be careful. They may get angry that you want to teach them how to act
Step 7. Suggest another punishment
Depending on what you've done, they may let you change your punishment. You can do more housework, or go without a computer.
Your parents know what kind of punishment would be easy for you. So suggest something serious that would really let you down
Step 8. If it doesn't work, let it go for a while
Insisting will make your parents even angrier. If the punishment is long term, wait a few days before trying again.
- Maintain good behavior after punishment ends. Your parents will be watching.
- Crying a lot and being very critical of yourself will not increase your chances of ending punishment.