The relationship between parents and children is one of the most important things in life and it is natural that this generates the desire to be a good daughter for them. Maybe you want to improve even more bonds that are already solid, maybe your relationship isn't on the best of terms and you want to show that it can be different; luckily, just be responsible, considerate and honest with your parents and they will know they raised a good person.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Being Responsible
Step 1. Help with household chores
It is essential to do your duties without your parents having to remind you all the time. Even better would be to take on some functions beyond the basics. Don't just clean your bedroom, why not sweep and keep the other rooms tidy too? You can bet your parents will be happy to help.
- Also, do things right. Don't do anything halfway, in a hurry or begrudgingly.
- Look for times when your parents really deserve help, such as clearing the table after dinner or doing the dishes.
Step 2. Help with your siblings
Those with younger siblings can also help with them. Change baby's diapers, bottle or help with their homework. If you're old enough, offer to look after them when their parents need to go out.
- They will be surprised, and if you are responsible and big enough, they will gladly accept the help.
- Say something like “Mom, Dad, I was thinking and I think I can take care of my younger siblings by myself when you need them. I don't mind hanging out with them once in a while if they want to go to the movies or go out to dinner.”
Step 3. Listen to what your parents have to say
Pay attention when they have information and advice. Respect their wisdom, as the experience they have gained throughout their lives will be valuable for their learning.
For example, if you drive and they tell you to stay within the allowed speed limit, it's no wonder and they're right. When they don't trust a particular friend, spend less time with them
Step 4. Respect your parents' decisions
Be home at 10:45 pm if they establish you should arrive at 11:00 pm. They make the rules and you must follow them as long as your survival is their responsibility. Show that you respect and appreciate them and never ignore them.
Step 5. Do your homework
If you're still at school, don't leave lessons late, do them as soon as you get home, without waiting for your parents to remind you. If you need help, don't hesitate to ask. In general, parents make a point of being helpful to their children, even more so after they are grown up.
Step 6. Be honest with your parents
When you have a problem that makes you sleepy, or if you've done something wrong, don't be afraid to look for them. Don't keep secrets, open up to them and tell them the truth, even if they might fight over it. Have clear, smooth conversations.
For example, if you're catching up on a subject at school, call them in for a chat and let them know what's going on. Ask for their help and tell them what you want to do to change the situation
Step 7. Set goals and stick to them.
In this way, you demonstrate your determination to your parents. Tell them your goals and let them help you achieve your goals. When you reach your goals, your parents will see your responsible and independent side, which will strengthen your relationship with them.
Step 8. Offer extra help
When you see that your parents are overwhelmed, find out what you can do for them. From carrying the groceries inside and putting them away to helping them financially with the bills, there's a lot that can be done.
Step 9. Introduce your friends to your parents
Involve them in your life by introducing them to the people you care about. They need to know who you hang out with for safety's sake, but there are many benefits to including them in your social life.
- When you leave with the group, let them know where they are going and who will be there.
- This extends to the person you date as well.
Method 2 of 3: Showing Love
Step 1. Don't forget birthdays and anniversaries
Remembering the dates that are important to them will send a strong message of love and care. Write these days in your cell phone calendar and do something to celebrate when the time comes.
Options include taking them out to dinner, giving them a card or buying a gift, for example
Step 2. Send loving messages throughout the day
A note with a nice message once in a while wouldn't hurt either. Write something like "Have a great day!" or "I love you, good job!" If you live far away, send a letter.
Step 3. Buy or make gifts
Gifts are a good way to show love, and if you can afford it, you can buy things like a new TV. If you don't have a lot of money, a souvenir will do – it's the affection that counts.
- If you don't have financial independence, do something nice for them. There are several simple tutorials on the internet and the message will be the same as this one.
- Always ask if they need help and what you can do for them.
Step 4. Show gratitude
Gifts and sweet words are nice, but all your parents want is your recognition for everything they did, do and always will do for you.
Say “I am so grateful for the opportunity to be your daughter, you are wonderful parents! I'm lucky to have such good examples.”
Step 5. Spend time with your parents
Set aside some time each week to see them, they will be happier and happier with your presence as you mature. Have a picnic together, go bowling or go for a walk after dinner.
Don't just see them together, go out with each one separately too. Go out to dinner with just your mom once in a while, or go to the movies with just your dad
Step 6. Remember the good things you have lived together
During dinner or a coffee on the balcony, pick up old photo albums and remember the adventures that have gone by; use this opportunity to show that they are very special to you.
Say things like “Remember that day at the beach? I had so much fun, it was an amazing day! I'll never forget the time the crab caught your foot, Dad, It was hilarious!”
Method 3 of 3: Being a Good Daughter as an Adult
Step 1. Call your parents weekly
Be sure to stay in touch after you leave home and start your adult life. Call to find out what they have been up to and update them on the important things that have happened in your life.
Step 2. Talk to your parents about important decisions
They can help when you're faced with a difficult question, and they'll be more than happy to help. If you want to opt for the best, don't hesitate to talk to them first.
- For example, if you are deciding which university to take the entrance exam to, see what they have to say; before buying a house, ask for their opinion.
- Don't just communicate your big decisions, include them in your everyday life too. Talk about your career, college classes, romantic life, movies and series you've been watching, etc.
Step 3. Visit your parents
It's important to make an effort to see them at least once a month after you move. Go to dinner with them, go to the movies together. When they are older, help them with daily household activities.
If you decide to get married and have children, don't let them lose touch. Have everyone get together at least a few times a year. Plan a vacation together, work to strengthen the bonds between your parents and your own family
Step 4. Support your parents
Life is like this; from the day we are born to adulthood, we depend on our parents for almost everything, and after they grow old, they need us in the same way. When they need surgery, be there; if they decide to start a new project, encourage them. Being a good daughter is being present and caring.
Step 5. Plan family holidays
It's not just friends and flirting that deserve attention during the break – your parents too! Spend a relaxing day at the beach or even longer if you can. Create memories like your childhood and they will appreciate you for it.
Step 6. Do the things they like
They already knew their favorite cartoons by heart and stir-fry. They put up with their passion for musical groups that they themselves didn't like and probably even enjoyed together! Repay that support by participating in their interests. If your mom likes going to museums and you're not a big fan, make the effort to see her smile. Your interest in football is nil, but does your father love it? Watch some games with him and have fun!
Tips
- Never talk bad about your parents behind their back.
- Always give them the respect they deserve.