How to Convince Your Parents to Let You Color Your Hair

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How to Convince Your Parents to Let You Color Your Hair
How to Convince Your Parents to Let You Color Your Hair

It's just ink and over time it will come out. No problem at all, is it? Not exactly. Talking to your parents about coloring your hair can be a difficult task if they want you to maintain a childlike and natural image. However, you can still convince them if you make good arguments, are willing to compromise, and do a lot of research before starting the conversation.


Part 1 of 3: Searching

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Step 1. Do your homework

Decide what color you want to use on your hair and what product you want to use. Look for consumer reviews to choose a quality brand.

  • Some dyes are branded shampoos, conditioners and hair sprays, so choosing a brand your parents already use can help.
  • Dye skin protectors are not always sold with the color. Read the label to be sure.
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Step 2. Understand the risks involved with hair coloring

The dye contains hydrogen peroxide, a substance that is harmful to the threads. Dying your hair just once in your life is unlikely to cause any serious damage, but understand that dye is a harmful substance.

The chances of you being allergic to the color are very low, but it is still worth doing a test before applying the product to the scalp. Simply put a small amount of dye on your wrist or ankle and wait 24 hours to ensure your skin does not show any allergic reaction

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Step 3. Make sure the change complies with school or work dress codes, otherwise you could run into problems

It is very unlikely that your parents will give permission if your school does not allow unusual hair colors.

Also, be the right age. If the product label says "Not recommended for use by anyone under the age of sixteen," do not use the ink if you are thirteen. You could cause serious damage to your hair's hair follicles

Part 2 of 3: Presenting Good Arguments

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Step 1. Approach the subject gently

Start by asking a question at dinner, such as, "What do you think dyed hair?" Then say you've thought about it a lot and would like to dye your hair. Say exactly what you would like to do with your locks. Avoid saying things like "all my friends are dyeing their hair", or any other similar phrase. Otherwise, you will automatically trigger responses like: "If all your friends jump off the bridge, will you jump too?". Wrong: demand "You should let me dye my hair".

Right: say "I'd like to try dyeing my hair".

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Step 2. Explain that the change is not permanent

In fact, tell them you're thinking of buying a temporary color, and that it will fade a little with every wash of your hair. You could say something like, "I found a temporary color that would allow me to experiment with my hair without making any drastic changes." This will make your parents a lot less worried, because they will think that even if they don't like the move, it will only be temporary.

It's important to find a temporary coloration before talking to them, you shouldn't lie about it

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Step 3. Offer to pay for the dye and materials needed

You will demonstrate commitment and responsibility if you say you are prepared to bear all the costs. Plus, it's always easier to get permission when the money isn't coming out of their pocket. For example, you might say, "I've been thinking about this a lot and I'm willing to pay for the dye and all the necessary materials." Wrong: acting as if you don't value the allowance you receive.

Right: offer to do more chores around the house, demonstrating responsibility.

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Step 4. Say you are prepared for the worst

If your parents don't want to allow you to dye your hair for fear that the dye will ruin the strands, tell them you'd rather learn your lesson and suffer the consequences than miss the opportunity to dye your hair. You could say things like, "I've researched what to do if I don't like the color" and "I know how I'm supposed to take care of my hair after dyeing to reduce any damage." Show that you are aware of the consequences and that you are prepared to deal with them.

Explaining that you are aware of anything that can go wrong, such as the color turning ugly or the color damaging the strands, can help. Research these risks ahead of time and find possible solutions for each issue

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Step 5. Explain your reasons for wanting to dye your hair

It is not enough to say that you want to dye your hair, you must explain why you would like to do this. Some people like to dye their hair because they feel more in control of their appearance. Others, because they feel more confident with a change of look. Find your own reasons and explain them to your parents. Wrong: talking about other friends who dyed their hair.

Right: suggest that this is the right time to give it a try, as you may not have the opportunity when you get a job.

Part 3 of 3: Compromising

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Step 1. Say you will go back to the original color if the color doesn't work

Often, parents will give in if you give in a little bit too. For example, if you dye your hair and it looks awful, you will dye it back to its natural color. Say, "I am fully prepared to dye my hair back to my original color if I don't like the result."

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Step 2. Suggest coloring your hair at a salon

This is a good option if your parents are afraid you'll make a mess by trying to dye your hair yourself or asking a friend for help. Say, "If you're afraid that I won't dye my hair properly, I can have it professionally dyed. That way no one will have to worry about the quality of the result." Wrong: asking your parents to pay for professional treatment.

Right: suggest that your parents talk to someone in the salon who can help them decide.

The only downside to dyeing your hair with a professional is that the process will be much more expensive

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Step 3. Let them have their say about the color

Explain that everyone must agree on the color tone so that everyone feels in control. You could say, "I'll try a more natural color, close to my original color, if you feel more comfortable with that."

If you're having trouble getting your parents' permission to dye your hair any color you want, ask to dye the strands the same color you have now. Once you've done that, they can no longer argue that dyeing your hair will damage it

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Step 4. Ask if you can dye just a part instead of the whole hair

Instead of dyeing all the strands, ask permission to make highlights, highlights, or layers. Say something like, "Maybe, instead of dyeing all the hair, I can dye just the ends. That way the change will be less drastic and I'll be able to cut the ends if the result doesn't look good." Purple will still look amazing under its natural color! If you have long hair, you could accept dyeing only the ends. That way, if the color doesn't work or your parents don't like the result, you can trim the dyed part. Wrong: mentioning this option right away.

Right: offer this option if your parents have banned everything you really wanted.

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Step 5. Ask to put on colored appliqués instead of dyeing your hair

If your parents remain adamant, suggest buying colored hair extensions so they have a better idea of ​​what the color would look like on you. This is not a permanent change and you can change your look easily if your parents aren't happy with the extension.


  • Act like an adult when talking to your parents and they will be able to treat you like an adult too, allowing you to dye your hair. Don't whine or raise your voice.
  • Say you understand and will get on with your life if they say no. This will demonstrate maturity and may even make them feel inclined to reconsider the decision after a while if you bring it up discreetly in the coming weeks.
  • Be mature. Don't whine, beg or complain about random things. Make a mental outline of everything you plan to say. If you get no for an answer, ask again in the future, but be even more prepared.


  • Always follow the manufacturer's instructions. They are the creators of the color and know what to do with it.
  • Understand what you are doing. There are a number of "rules" and unwritten consequences for coloring: applying a simple bleach to black hair will make the strands orange, some shades of grayish brown or grayish blonde can make the hair look green, etc. Talk to a professional if you are unsure about something.
  • Ask a knowledgeable adult or friend to help you, or to have them apply ink to you.
  • Do not dye your hair hidden without your parents' permission. This will only make them angry, and chances are you'll never be able to do anything like that again until you reach adulthood. Be patient and wait until you receive permission.

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