Ordering your parents an iPhone is a big order: the device itself can be expensive, and data usage charges can dramatically increase the value of their package. In addition, your parents may have concerns about your ability to use the device responsibly. Before you start thinking about the order, establish a reputation as a trustworthy and responsible child. You also need to approach the conversation strategically to increase your chances of getting your request granted.
Part 1 of 3: Showing You Are Responsible
Step 1. Take care of your current device
If you have a tendency to lose or break expensive belongings, your parents probably won't want to "waste" more money on a phone. You need to spend weeks or even months to improve their view of you before ordering.
If you already have a cell phone, take good care of it and don't lose it. Your parents will remember this when you order a more expensive model
Step 2. Take care of all your expensive belongings like video games, iPods, tablets or computers
Keep them clean, organized and protected. For example, always carry your laptop in its protective bag, never eat or drink anything near it, etc.
You should also be careful with jewelry, watches and other expensive accessories. If you've recently lost the expensive pair of earrings you got for Christmas, for example, your parents might use that as evidence that you're unreliable to own an iPhone
Step 3. Do all your chores without your parents having to charge you, they will remember that
This is a good way to convince them you deserve an iPhone.
By completing your tasks quickly and without complaining – and perhaps even offering to do more – you will demonstrate that you are serious about your responsibilities and that you care to help
Step 4. Keep (or increase) your grades
While an iPhone can be a useful tool for studying (we'll talk about that later), your parents may find it distracting at school. Before talking about an iPhone, take a sincere look at your notes.
If your grades are weak, strive to raise them by the end of the semester. Talk to teachers to get feedback on your strengths and weaknesses to plan and increase your grades
Step 5. Consider the help of a tutor
You can get someone to help you study for free or your parents to pay for tutoring. This money will be well invested.
You will do better in school and demonstrate that you are serious about education
Step 6. Consider getting a job
As part of your persuasion strategy, you can help pay for the device. You will need money for this.
- As long as your parents agree, look for a part-time job after school hours or on weekends. Look for vacancies for apprentices and teenagers in grocery stores, stores and/or restaurants.
- Publicize your services as a tutor, nanny, house help, or even start your own business selling crafts or food.
Step 7. Spend your money responsibly
It can be tempting to spend on fun things like clothes, games or movie visits. While there's nothing wrong with enjoying these luxuries if you can afford them, remember your ultimate goal.
It doesn't matter if the money comes from your work or gifts, you need to demonstrate that you can save and manage your expenses
Step 8. Create a budget and stick to it
Take your weekly/monthly income into account and list your regular expenses. Be very careful to stick to your budget.
- It may be necessary to decline an invitation to pizza with friends, but you should always remember your main objective.
- By following a budget you will develop discipline and focus. You'll soon be in a better position to demonstrate to your parents that you can help with the cost of the device.
Part 2 of 3: Preparing for the meeting
Step 1. Research the costs
Before meeting with your parents, research the costs of buying or exchanging your phone for an iPhone. Remember to check your carrier and your parent's package to find out what extra costs are.
- It may be possible to get the device itself for a small fee, or for free, depending on your family's plan and bonus program.
- Even so, adding a new device to the shared data plan can generate a significant increase in your parent's bill. Although the cost may be lower, the idea is to do your best to figure out current expenses and how much the iPhone would increase the family's monthly expenses.
Step 2. You have been working hard to become more responsible with your time, money and belongings:
excellent! Hopefully your parents noticed this, but now it's time to show the evidence.
- Attach copies of your recent report cards or of proofs/corrected papers.
- Also collect your receipts and a copy of your savings statement.
- Include a copy of your budget that has the amount you can help purchase the device.
- Put all these documents in a folder that will be part of the presentation for your parents.
Step 3. Ask to talk to them
Choosing the right time and place for the conversation is important. You need to convince them of the seriousness of the situation and also increase the chances of a positive response.
- Rather than ambush them after a long day at work, try saying "Mom and Dad, I've researched all the advantages of having an iPhone and I believe I'm mature and responsible enough to have one. I've prepared a proposal and I'd like to pass it on her to you, can we talk about it over the weekend?"
- They might wonder who this new mature person is, which is a great sign!
Part 3 of 3: Making the proposal
Step 1. Explain how you can use iPhone to stay organized
After your parents agree to talk with you, explain how the device can be useful. The phone's organizational tools, such as the calendar, are very productive.
Explain how you can use the phone to organize your school, work, and extracurricular activities. Also explain how your parents can send appointment information directly to the phone's calendar
Step 2. State that the device is essentially a portable computer and that this is the same as having access to the best libraries and study references
Explain how much this will help you with schoolwork.
- Name all the useful options you'll get on iPhone, like dictionary apps and free encyclopedias.
- Have a list of all apps to show your parents. Open the App Store page on your computer or borrow an iPhone to use for the demo.
Step 3. Let your parents know that you will be careful when you are on the Internet or when sending messages, as studies with alarming statistics can worry them
A recent survey revealed that one in three teenagers have already sent sexually related photos to someone else, and that half of them have received requests for this type of photo. The same study suggests that these young people may be more sexually active.
Inform your parents that you will not use the phone to take sexual pictures and that you will let them know if someone makes you uncomfortable or approaches you sexually
Step 4. Promise that you won't be "addicted" to the device and that you won't be browsing the Internet or replying to messages until late
- Studies suggest that sleeping with the phone at your side can interfere with your sleep and may be linked to depression.
- Agree to turn off the device at night and leave it in a separate room. Even though the iPhone has an alarm clock, it's possible to get by with a classic clock.
Step 5. Promise you won't oversend messages
Even if your plan guarantees unlimited messaging, your parents may be concerned that you'll be glued to your phone, receiving and replying to messages from friends.
- This can make you more distant from your family and can also impair your communication skills.
- Let your parents know that you are willing to put your phone away during dinner or when you are out with the family. Also let them know that you will not send messages when you are studying.
Step 6. Be willing to let your parents "spy on you"
There is a parental control option on the device and allowing them to use it can increase your chances of winning an iPhone.
- With this option you can view the Internet pages you visit and the time you spend on the device, for example.
- Your parents can be even more comfortable giving you more freedom when they discover you can use GPS options to know where you are and who you are with.
Step 7. Let them know how grateful you will be
After the presentation, say something like "Mom and Dad, I know I'm asking for a lot and I need you to trust me. If you want to give me a chance, I won't let you down and I'll be very grateful."
Step 8. Let them think for a while alone
Asking for an immediate answer won't help.
Let them know that you are willing to wait for their response by saying "Thanks for listening, do you need some time to discuss this?"
Step 9. Be prepared for rejection
You've made your best offer and your hopes are high, but your parents can still say "no."
While you may have reasons to own an iPhone, your parents may have very good reasons to deny your application. You can ask them why, and if they are willing to talk, you can try to get them to change their minds
Step 10. If so, you can suggest that you try it out and be willing to give up on the phone if you don't keep all your promises
For this approach to work, you must work hard and be willing to give up the phone to keep your word.
Step 11. Respect their final decision
If they reject all your suggestions, ask them to reconsider later and end the conversation.
Your chances of getting a "yes" in a few months will be better if you don't stick with it for a while
Step 12. Keep your word
If your parents respond positively, congratulations! Now you need to keep all the promises you made.