How to Show Parents You're Maturity: 11 Steps

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How to Show Parents You're Maturity: 11 Steps
How to Show Parents You're Maturity: 11 Steps

Taking on more responsibility and developing maturity is a process that takes time and effort. Getting your parents to see your level of commitment is even more difficult, as they want you to enjoy your childhood without too many responsibilities. Even though they don't want you to grow up so fast, there are ways to show that you already have enough insight. By showing that you are capable of setting and achieving goals, helping with household chores and getting good grades in school, you will be able to prove to your parents that you are a responsible and mature person.


Part 1 of 3: Demonstrating Accountability

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Step 1. Start doing more housework

If you already have a to-do list around the house, take the initiative to go beyond them. If you don't have an obligation to help around the house, make an effort to get started. Do what people in your family usually do for you, or complete the tasks before someone asks you to do it.

  • Focus on the things you like least. Doing things you don't like shows you understand that sometimes you have to do things you don't like. If your parents ask you to clean the room, keep the room clean at all times.
  • Do the housework without complaining. Doing what needs to be done without whining shows that you understand your duty, and that is a sign of maturity. If you hate mowing the lawn or gathering leaves, and your parents often ask you to do these things all the time, try to get the chores done before they even ask.
  • Complete tasks that benefit everyone in the house. Wash dishes for the whole family. If you have a dishwasher and you notice that things are already clean, put everything in its place. Sweep common areas of the house, such as the living room, whenever you feel they need cleaning.
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Step 2. Prioritize school

Treat school like it's a job you get paid to do. Focus on subjects and set goals for your academic future. Whether you're thinking about what course to take or how to improve your current grades, take the time to think about how to achieve these goals. Dedicating yourself to studies is an important step to demonstrate your degree of maturity.

  • Wake up and get ready to go to school as soon as possible, thus avoiding the need for your parents to rush you out.
  • Finish homework before your parents have to ask. Finish your homework as soon as possible and, if you can, try to start the homework that you won't need to deliver until the following week.
  • Make your parents proud by setting goals to get good grades. If you are having difficulty in a subject, seek help from your teacher, tutor, or classmate.
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Step 3. Earn your own money

Ask your parents if you can do housework for some money, or go further and look for jobs in the neighborhood. Whether you're taking dogs for a walk, mowing the lawn, or babysitting, your attitude demonstrates that working to earn your own money matters to you, and they'll see that you're ready to take on more responsibilities.

  • Ask your family if there's anything you can do in addition to regular household chores, like cleaning the garage. Explain that you are trying to earn money and set values ​​for their proposed jobs.
  • If you're old enough, walk around the neighborhood offering your services. You can wash your neighbors' cars if they agree.
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Step 4. Manage your money

When you start to receive some money, whether it's a birthday present or earnings from your work, show your parents that you can handle money responsibly. Avoid spending right away, this can be a sign of impulsiveness and immaturity. Your family will respect your decision to save responsibly.

  • Ask your parents for help when opening a bank savings account.
  • Set aside a part of the money to save and another part to spend on whatever you want. This attitude shows that, even if you want to spend it all, you understand that saving is important for the future.

Part 2 of 3: Showing maturity at home

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Step 1. Control your emotions

When you get upset, don't start crying and kicking whatever comes your way – this will be interpreted as childish. A big part of being mature is knowing how to control and express emotions. Keeping your cool in different scenarios will make your parents see your maturity level.

  • Be tolerant and patient with others. Just because someone did something to you doesn't mean you have to return it in kind.
  • If you get angry about something at home, walk away. Take time to calm down and think clearly before telling the person who pissed you off how you feel. As you calm down, explain to your parents the reason for your irritation and offer solutions on how to solve the problem.
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Step 2. Talk about your feelings when you are angry

When you are frustrated with an injustice, explain the situation to your parents. If you are doing more housework than your siblings, talk to your parents about it. Stay calm when discussing issues and rehearse what you are going to say first.

  • Try saying “I'm frustrated because I have to do laundry all week and my brother doesn't. I would feel better if everyone helped" or "I feel like I'm doing more than my duty, and I would love for my brothers to help too."
  • Be the mature brother. Don't argue and don't get into silly fights with your siblings. Stay out of conflict, and if you feel the urge to get involved in the fight, remember your goal of proving yourself a mature person.
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Step 3. Own your mistakes

Nobody is perfect, and a real sign of maturity is acknowledging one's mistakes. Take responsibility for your actions and avoid blaming other people.

  • Think about what you did and talk to your family. Explain that you are able to understand what was wrong and how you will deal with the same situation in the future.
  • If you lost your temper and yelled at your parents, apologize by saying “I'm sorry I yelled at you in that angry moment. I know this isn't the best way to deal with my frustrations, but I was really upset.” Complete with the reasons that led you to lose patience.
  • Be honest about your mistakes. If you hurt someone, apologize and express your regret for the situation.
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Step 4. Talk to your parents

Sit down with your parents to talk about goals you've set to show your degree of maturity, such as keeping your room tidy or doing household chores without anyone having to ask, and tell them what you hope to achieve by meeting those goals. Before having this conversation with them, see if your performance at school has improved and if you've made the effort to help around the house. Explain that you are striving to be more responsible.

  • Talk to your parents about your goals and how you are preparing to meet them. Ask them for their opinion about your efforts. Whether constructive criticism or advice, pay attention to what they have to say with an open mind.
  • Talk about your goals showing your level of responsibility. For example, if you want a pet, try saying “I've been working hard to keep the house tidy and show that I'm responsible enough to take care of an animal. I think the effort I put into the extra tasks shows that I'm ready to take care of a pet”.

Part 3 of 3: Keeping your feet on the ground in relation to rules and goals

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Step 1. Keep improving

Consider whether you want to prove your maturity for a specific reason or whether you simply want to be seen as someone more mature and responsible. If you're looking for specific perks (like getting a new pet), talk to your parents about your plans.

  • Write a list of goals. Discuss them with your parents and ask for advice and opinions on how to reach them. Try saying something like “I'm trying to keep my room clean and tidy at all times, and I hope that's enough to prove I'm responsible. Do you want me to take on other responsibilities?”.
  • Write down your reasons for wanting to demonstrate your maturity. Maybe you want a new pet or a longer time limit to get home. Reflect on what you've done to deserve these things and what you can continue to do to get them.
  • Understand that certain goals may take longer than others to achieve. Allow yourself some time to achieve your goals.
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Step 2. Make sure all your goals are sensible

Think about your plans and goals you set to prove your level of maturity. Consider whether these goals are age-appropriate. Understand that your family may have certain rules to ensure your safety and learn to appreciate that. If your goals violate family rules, consider whether this is sensible for the time being. You may need to change some goals so that they fit what your parents think is reasonable.

  • If one of your goals is to be able to go out alone with friends, understand that your parents may not feel safe without an adult with you in case of an emergency. If that's the case, try to come to a consensus with them, such as going to the mall alone with friends or going to another store while your parents stroll through the mall.
  • Building a trusting relationship with parents is a great way to show your maturity and achieve goals. Keep doing what you've committed to until you gain their trust to do what you want.
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Step 3. Respect family rules

Generally speaking, the rules established by your parents are not to prevent you from reaching maturity or to impede your fun. The most sensible thing you can do is make an effort to understand the rules.

  • Your parents will know when you are mature enough for certain things, such as setting a new time limit for you to get home. Keep showing your discernment and they will become more and more flexible. Take the opportunity to enjoy these moments with them.
  • Stay upbeat, even if your parents don't agree to waive the rules. Remember that just because they haven't budged doesn't mean they aren't seeing your efforts to become a more responsible person.


  • Help with household chores without anyone having to ask.
  • Be kind to your family members.
  • Dedicate yourself to your studies and act responsibly.
  • Don't argue with your family when someone asks you to do something.
  • Fulfill your obligations correctly and with care.


  • Avoid complaining and whining, especially when your parents ask you to do something you don't enjoy.
  • Don't be in a hurry to grow up. Enjoy life while you're young!

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