How to Tell Your Parents You're Leaving Home

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How to Tell Your Parents You're Leaving Home
How to Tell Your Parents You're Leaving Home

Have you decided that you are going to leave your parents' house, but you don't know how to tell them? It is quite possible for them to be upset and worried. With a little preparation and sensitivity, however, you will be able to make this process a smooth one for everyone.


Part 1 of 2: Choosing the Right Time and Place to Chat

Tell Your Parents You're Moving out of Home Step 1

Step 1. Think ahead

Chances are, your parents have a lot of questions to ask about your decision. Below are some of the things you should think about so that you can talk to them when the time comes.

Tell Your Parents You're Moving out of Home Step 2

Step 2. Choose the place well

It doesn't matter if you're moving closer to your parents or far away, they'll want to know everything about your decision.

  • Don't go to the first place you find. Do some research to find the best house for you; if possible, call your parents for property visits, as they will appreciate being included in the entire process.
  • Always research the neighborhood to get to know it better. It's not just the interior of the house that matters, after all.
Tell Your Parents You're Moving out of Home Step 3

Step 3. Find out everything you can about the people you're sharing a house with

If you're moving to a dorm or a shared house, it's important to know who you're going to live with.

  • If your parents don't know the people you're sharing the house with, arrange a meeting between them to ease their worries.
  • It is important to know the person's lifestyle and financial status to know if sharing a house with them is a good choice.
Tell Your Parents You're Moving out of Home Step 4

Step 4. Assess your finances well

Leaving home is not cheap. You will not only spend on the change itself, but you will need to support yourself and it is important to think carefully about all expenses.

  • You will need a steady source of income.
  • You usually need to pay a few months' rent in advance as protection for the tenant. So, save some money before leaving the house.
  • The change itself is expensive. If you don't have money, try asking friends and family for help, giving them back in whatever way you can.
  • Also check out the issue of electricity, water, gas and other utilities. It is possible that they are turned off and you will need to request the call, which is also costly.
  • Also remember the little things. There are many household items that "just exist" and you never even thought you would need to buy them. Trust me, in the end, you will spend a lot!
Tell Your Parents You're Moving out of Home Step 5

Step 5. Plan your transportation

Since you won't have your parents at home anymore, you'll need to get around on your own. Do you have a bike? Do you have a car? Are you going to use public transport? Plan ahead and understand the consequences of your choices.

Tell Your Parents You're Moving out of Home Step 6

Step 6. Think carefully about the lifestyle you would like to have

What your parents want most is to know that you are happy and healthy, so think about things like food, cleaning the house, hygiene, and your physical and mental well-being.

Part 2 of 2: Talking to your parents

Tell Your Parents You're Moving out of Home Step 7

Step 1. Choose the best time

Now that you've made the decisions and done all the legwork, it's time to tell your parents that you're leaving home. Choose the time when you can have a long, serious conversation.

Tell Your Parents You're Moving out of Home Step 8

Step 2. Stay steady

It is possible that your parents will question your decision and try to change your mind. Stand firm and make it clear that it's time to leave the house. So it doesn't turn into an argument, try:

  • Be honest about your motivations.
  • Speak confidently and clearly about what you plan to do. In addition to facilitating the conversation, you will make it clear how much you thought through this whole situation.
Tell Your Parents You're Moving out of Home Step 9

Step 3. Remember that your parents have feelings

As much as they understand your situation, they will likely be saddened by your departure. It costs nothing to demonstrate that, despite wanting to leave the house, you are also saddened by the situation as a whole.

  • Say you love them.
  • Commit to keeping in touch with them.
  • Reinforce that you won't forget special dates, such as birthdays and family events.
  • Give thanks for everything they've done for you so far.


  • Make it a habit to save money as soon as possible.
  • Ordering food delivery and going out to eat all the time will weigh on the budget. Save money by shopping at the market and preparing your own meals.
  • Be honest with your parents, always. If you fail to do that, you could end up losing their trust, and that's very important!


Remember that accounts don't stop. Keep your finances under control so you don't miss any payments and go into debt

things you'll probably need

  • Since this is your first home, you will likely need a cosigner on the lease. Ask your parents or the parents of whom you are going to live with.
  • A steady job or some other reliable source of income.
  • Some means of transport.

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