How to Apologize to a Cat (with Pictures)

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How to Apologize to a Cat (with Pictures)
How to Apologize to a Cat (with Pictures)

Not this one! You did something that made your cat very offended, and now he won't let you get close. Fortunately, it is possible to receive the animal's forgiveness. This article will show you not only how to apologize to the animal, but also how to do it safely, preventing it from scratching you.


Part 1 of 3: Apologizing to the Cat

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Step 1. Choose a good time to apologize

If the cat is visibly irritated, you'll have to give him some space before trying to come over and apologize; if you do it too soon, you could end up getting scratched by the bug. Even so, try not to wait too long before taking action; approach the cat as soon as it seems calmer. You can also approach a cat who is scared, just be careful. See the section of this article that teaches you how to read a cat's body language and learn how to determine a cat's mood.

  • If the cat keeps running away from you, consider leaving a small treat in a place he can easily find. This will give him the idea that you are sorry and still care about him.
  • You must be careful when approaching a frightened cat. Always give an animal in this situation a chance to escape. He may need comfort and affection, especially if he has heard a sudden loud noise. However, at the same time, he might want to be alone; that's why it's important to leave an escape route available. A frightened, cornered cat can quickly become aggressive.
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Step 2. Determine the offense

What did you do to make the cat so angry? Did you make fun of him? Stepped on your tail? Or did you take his place on the couch? Knowing what you did wrong will help you decide how to approach the bug and how to proceed with the apology. Here are some examples of things you might have done to offend the cat and what you could do to apologize:

  • If you've offended the cat by mocking him, you'll probably have to offer him some treats and compliments.
  • If you've accidentally stepped on the cat's tail or startled it (dropping a vase, for example), a simple petting may suffice.
  • If you've taken the pet's favorite spot on the couch, consider getting up and giving the pet a treat.
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Step 3. Slowly walk to the cat

If he runs away, he is likely to be angry, upset or scared. Don't chase him. Instead, try again after a few minutes. This will assure the animal that you will not do anything to annoy or annoy him further. Having a treat prepared for the cat will also make it more relaxed.

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Step 4. Talk to the cat

Say "I'm sorry". You can even use the pet's name. Speak in a soft, calm voice, with a slightly higher pitch than usual. The animal may not necessarily understand the words, but it will understand the tone. Don't use a loud, squeaky voice; cats have sensitive ears and you'll just make the animal angry.

Consider blinking slowly. If the cat trusts you, it will blink very little. You can show the same sign to the animal

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Step 5. Cuddle the cat's favorite areas

Pay close attention to the animal's mood; if he looks angry or upset, stop. See the section of this article that teaches you how to read a cat's body language and learn how to determine the cat's mood. If you don't know where he likes to be petted, here are some suggestions:

  • Caress behind the cat's ears. The area between the animal's eye and ear may be an even better option. Use your fingertip and slowly run it over the hairs in the area.
  • Caress the cat's cheek region. He might even forgive the mistake and start rubbing himself against the hand.
  • Caress the base of the cat's tail. Place your fingers at the base of the animal's tail, close to its back, and move them well, stretching the ends.
  • Cuddle the cat's head, back and belly. However, keep in mind that not all animals like to be touched at these points. Watch your pet's body language carefully for signs of irritation.
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Step 6. Play with the cat

He might be annoyed that you haven't been spending time with him. If he's more energetic, you might consider it a joke -- although most animals prefer to be entertained with a piece of string. Here are some ways to play with the cat:

  • Throw a piece of cellophane or crumpled paper towards the cat. You can also use a toy mouse. However, don't target the animal itself. Throw the object next to his paws.
  • Swing a piece of string in front of the cat. Slowly move it back and forth, bringing it closer and further away from the animal. You can even try putting the rope through the animal's legs.
  • Buy a laser pointer and bring it to a spot on the wall or floor. When the cat pays attention to the red dot, move it. He might even try to run after that point.
  • Entertain the cat using an interactive toy. Buy an interactive toy -- a long, flexible stick whose tip is armed with feathers or a rope. Some of these toys also have bells. Hold it by one end and stir the decorated part while standing close to the cat's paws. Carefully pull the item up; he might try to jump to get it.
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Step 7. Give the cat some attention

If you have ignored the animal in the last few days, it may become less affectionate than usual. That means he's upset or lonely. You can apologize to the animal by spending time with him. Do something simple, like reading a book or listening to music, next to the animal; another option is to spend time petting him over and over. It could also mean that you should set aside parts of your days to play with the cat.

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Step 8. Praise the cat

If you have mocked or laughed at the animal, you may have offended it. Offer him a treat and tell him how wonderful and beautiful he is. Speak in a soft, gentle tone. The cat may not necessarily understand the words, but he will know that you are talking to him and saying good things.

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Step 9. Give the cat what he wants -- as long as it's reasonable

Cats can get upset if they don't get what they want. Sometimes this request can be simple and harmless, like sitting on a fluffy pillow. In other cases, it can be harmful, like eating part of your dinner. Some human foods can be very harmful to the animal's health. If what the animal wants is harmless, give in to the request. If it's something dangerous, offer something else.

  • If the cat wants to sit on a fluffy couch cushion, let him. You can even pick it up and sit there with it. Then pet him a little.
  • If the cat wants to drink milk or eat tuna, give it something else. Milk or cream can damage the animal's stomach, and tuna can be dangerous in high quantities -- due to the high levels of mercury. Consider giving your pet a healthy, tasteful treat.

Part 2 of 3: Making Peace Offerings

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Step 1. Give your cat a treat

If he's in a milder mood, you can try to approach him and deliver the treat directly to him. Put between three and five items in your hand and kneel down next to the animal. If you're ready to excuse him, he'll come over and eat them. At this point, you can try petting it behind the ear (or at another favorite spot on the animal's body). If he doesn't come closer, leave the treats on the floor and walk away. Do not take the items with you to not let the cat disappointed.

  • Cat treats can have a variety of textures. They can be soft and rubbery, hard and crunchy, crunchy on the outside and soft on the inside, dried (like beef jerky) and frozen. You can even find dried tuna flakes at pet stores.
  • Cat snacks are also sold in a number of different flavors such as chicken, turkey, tuna and salmon. You can even find catnip flavored items.
  • Consider buying a healthy snack. There are those options that avoid hairballs and stomach acidity. They will make the animal not only happy, but also in good health.
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Step 2. Give the cat a surprise treat

Leave the item in a location the animal can find. Here are some examples:

  • If the cat is hiding under a bed, consider leaving the treat there. Don't let him go. This will force the cat out of "hide", making it feel anxious. Do not take the treat to the "bottom" of the bed or the animal may scratch it.
  • If the cat is very agitated, leave the treat next to the kibble or his favorite place. If you have offended the animal by sitting in his favorite spot on the couch, you can leave the item there. That way, the cat will know that you're sorry and that it can sit there without being removed.
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Step 3. Add treats to the cat's food

Put between three and five items on your pet's ration when it's time to feed. If the animal is demanding and does not like to eat the food mixed with the snacks, leave them on a plate close to the place.

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Step 4. Feed the cat special rations

Does he have a favorite pet food flavor? If you tend to give it different flavors, choose the animal's favorite option and serve it when it goes to feed.

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Step 5. Offer some dry catnip

If the cat is very agitated, you can calm it down by sprinkling some catnip on the floor. If you don't want to clean up the mess that will be produced (some cats eat catnip, while others keep rolling around in it), choose to give the animal a toy made with this ingredient.

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Step 6. Give the cat a toy

If he's interested in specific toys, buy something like that. Just approach the animal, kneel down and hold the object for it to see you. You can also leave the toy on the floor and walk away -- or even throw the object; It depends on how your cat likes to interact with these toys. Remember that not all cats, especially older ones, like to play.

  • You can make your own catnip toy by cutting out a small square of fabric and placing a spoon of dry catnip in the center. Pull the ends of the fabric up, trapping the ingredient inside, and tie them with a piece of string.
  • You can also make another catnip toy by putting some cotton or polyester in a sock and adding a scoop of the ingredient. Tie the sock with a string.

Part 3 of 3: Reading Cat Body Language

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Step 1. Pay attention to the cat's body language

It will show the animal's mood towards you. If he's too angry or upset, the apology won't do you any good -- and will likely cause him to stomp on you. This section will show you how to read your cat's body language so you know when it's safe to approach your cat.

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Step 2. Look at the tail

This is the most expressive part of a cat's body and indicates the animal's mood. Unlike dogs, cats don't "wiggle" their tails when they're happy. Here is some information:

  • If the tail is pointed up, with the tip slightly curved to the side, the cat will be happy and safe to approach him.
  • If the tail is "swollen" and points up, the cat will be scared. You can try to approach him to calm him down, but don't be in a hurry and make sure he can run away and hide from you. A cornered cat can quickly become aggressive.
  • If the cat is twitching or tail thumping, don't get too close. He will probably be irritated with you. Give the pet some space before you apologize.
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Step 3. Look at the ears

A cat's ears are very expressive and will also help you determine how he feels. Generally speaking, if they are pointed upwards, the animal will be happy; if they are pointed down, it will not be. Here's some more detailed information:

  • Are the ears pointed up and in a normal, relaxed position? If so, you can try to apologize.
  • If the ears are pointed back, he might be scared. You can still approach the animal, but do it calmly and carefully.
  • If the cat's ears are pointed back and "glued" to the head, don't go near it. He will be very offended and angry. Give the animal time.
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Step 4. Pay attention to the cat's eyes

The eyes react dramatically to changes in lighting, but they can also change depending on the animal's mood. When examining the cat's eyes, you should also consider the ambient light as well as the rest of the animal's body language. Here is some information:

  • If a cat's pupils are too dilated, he may be scared. It may also just indicate that the room is dark.
  • If a cat's pupils are narrowed, he may be irritable or agitated. It could also mean that the environment is too bright.
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Step 5. Examine the cat's face

Are the whiskers pointed forward, the teeth exposed and the muzzle wrinkled? If so, the animal is still too angry for you to approach. Try to do it later.

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Step 6. Examine the cat's body and fur

Is the fur standing on end? If so, he may be scared or agitated. Is the fur "flattened" against the animal's body? This indicates that he may be more relaxed; even so, look for other mood indicators in the animal's body.

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Step 7. Pay attention to the cat's claws

If they are stretched out or stretched, be very careful. These claws are agile and the animal may be getting ready to attack.


  • Consider trying different methods. Some cats do not respond well to play, but they like to receive attention and caressing. Others can forgive you only if they are fed.
  • Remember what you did to offend the cat -- and don't do it again.
  • Give the cat time and try not to rush things. If he is very angry or afraid to be approached, let the animal calm down.


  • Never hit, yell at or punish the cat for ignoring you. These attitudes will only make him feel worse.
  • Do not give the animal food for humans as snacks. Most human foods are not good for cats.
  • Pay attention to the cat's body language. If he looks irritated, avoid touching him -- or you could get scratched.

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