How to Have a Personal Relationship with God (Christianity)

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How to Have a Personal Relationship with God (Christianity)
How to Have a Personal Relationship with God (Christianity)

If you have any faith, getting to know God through a personal relationship with Him is rewarding. God offers his friendship to everyone freely, but many reject it because they think it means "religion". Having a relationship with God is simple, as any friendship should be. "For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish, but have eternal life" (John 3:16) - so that you and your friends may know - is enough to prove that God exists for you and thus to bless the whole world with His love.


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Step 1. Read and study the Bible as personal books and letters, all from God to you

To know God, you must first hear what He has to say. Start at the beginning with the book of Genesis and gradually work your reading to the end of the book of Revelation. An alternative is to start with the book of John to gain an understanding of the story of Christ, and how he gave you life in God. He completed the Plan of Salvation so that no one would find themselves lost or alone, but for everyone to walk in new life in Christ.

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Step 2. Trust and believe in God

Realize that God loves you with all his heart and that He wants to help you live by His side, in daily life and in Spirit.

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Step 3. Love God and put His will before anything else

And Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. (Matthew 22:37-38). To love God is to keep his commandments, and his commandments are not burdensome (1 John 5:3). In this way we know that we know him: if we keep his commandments. And in this we know that we know him: if we keep his commandments. He who says: I know him, and does not keep his commandments, is a liar, and in him is not the truth. But whoever keeps his word, the love of God is truly perfected in him; in this we know that we are in it. He who says he is in him must also walk as he walked. (1 John 2:3-6). Furthermore, Jesus said: If you love me, keep my commandments. (John 14:15). He who has my commandments and keeps them is the one who loves me; and he who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I will love him, and manifest myself to him. (John 14:21). If you keep my commandments, you will remain in my love; just as I have kept my Father's commandments, and abide in his love. (John 15:10).

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Step 4. Love your neighbor as yourself

(Leviticus 19:18). Jesus said that this is the second greatest commandment, similar to the first commandment to love God, and on these two commandments depend all the law and the prophets (Matthew 22:39-40). Strengthening our relationships with others is strengthening our relationship with God.

  • Honor your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you. (Exodus 20:12)

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  • Thou Shalt Not Kill (Exodus 20:13)

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  • Thou shalt not commit adultery (Exodus 20:14)

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  • Leave the fallen fruits of your harvest to those in need. (Leviticus 19:10)

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  • Thou shalt not steal. (Leviticus 19:11)

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  • Thou shalt not use falsehood. (Leviticus 19:11)

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  • You will not lie. (Leviticus 19:11)

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  • You shall not swear falsely, so as not to profane the name of God. (Leviticus 19:12)

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  • Thou shalt not curse the deaf, nor stumble before the blind. (Leviticus 19:14).

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  • You will not do injustice in the judgment. Thou shalt not respect the poor, nor honor the mighty; in justice shalt thou judge thy neighbor. (Leviticus 19:15)

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  • You shall not spread slander. (Leviticus 19:16)

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  • You will not hate your brother in your heart. (Leviticus 19:17) According to Jesus, this is similar to murder. (Matthew 5:21-22)

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  • Thou shalt not avenge nor keep wrath against thy neighbors. (Leviticus 19:18)

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  • You shall not covet your neighbor's house, you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor anything of your neighbor. (Exodus 20:17)

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Step 5. Repent of your sins and sincerely ask Him for forgiveness

To repent is to feel genuine regret for your sins and wish not to commit them anymore. If you continue to enjoy sinful attitudes, there has been no genuine repentance.

  • "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." (Romans 3:23)
  • According to Christianity, Jesus as Savior is considered a gift from God, and he allowed himself to be flogged and die for you so that you would receive the comforter that is the gift of the Holy Spirit. "Nevertheless I tell you the truth, that it is expedient for you that I go away; for if I go not away, the Comforter will not come to you; but when I go, I will send him to you." (John 16:7, see also John 14:26).
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Step 6. Be prayerful and grateful as you praise God and bless others at all times

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Step 7. Ask God to give you the Holy Spirit and mold you as he wants

Be baptized for the forgiveness of sins. (Acts 2:38).

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Step 8. Receive the Holy Spirit

Know that from the moment you receive the Holy Spirit, you will be His child and you will live with Him forever when you one day depart from this life.

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Step 9. Commit your ways to the Lord, trust Him to guide your steps, and walk that way

Try to make things happen "in God's time and way," not yours. Start, be patient to learn and serve, and your faith will grow.

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Step 10. Tell others about God

"Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you!" Spend your time with God, reflect on him and his things, and seek his will - to practice it. You are the light of the world; a city built on a hill cannot be hidden. (Matthew 5:14).

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Step 11. Renew your understanding as a Christian to fulfill God's will

(Romans 12:2). You need to renew it with the Word of God. Set aside personal time with God to read the Bible every day or night before bed - for example, read these verses: 2 Corinthians 5:7, John 13:34-35, John 14:6, 23, 26, 27, John 10:10, Philippians 4:13, 19, Ephesians 1:3, 1 John 2:27, Isaiah 24:3, John 6:27, Ephesians 6:10 and Hebrews 10:16-17. Meditate and reflect on God's Word and pray often for guidance in daily life.


  • Those who look for time to seek God will find it in the Bible and in daily life.
  • Find company in other believers.
  • Trust and obey God - the secret to a happy and fulfilling life.
  • Be consistent but not legalistic about discipline and spiritual duties. Love and serve the "little brothers".
  • Gratitude is the best of attitudes, and God will bless you to be a blessing to others.
  • Keep your conscience clear through daily confessions in your prayers.
  • Ask God for you to be filled each day with His love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, benevolence, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

    • Do not hold grudges or keep a record of rudeness or mistakes, as if you were a judge.
    • Stay away from self-pity and look out for the needs and interests of others, always.
  • God sometimes speaks to those who seek Him through other people, books, sermons, preachers/teachers,

    • but fundamentally by its sacred scriptures, so it is of paramount importance to read the Bible. Watch for verses that resonate or catch your eye.
    • Everything else can serve as confirmation for what we read in the Bible.
  • Forgive: not judging, but forgiving and loving others in order to please God.
  • Make time for your private meeting with God regularly.

    Note - Make time first for the things of God, for others, and then time for everything else. God's will must come first

  • Fasting and praying is another spiritual discipline that allows believers in Christ to relate to God on a personal level. It has to be a relationship, not acted out as a mere activity or routine. (Daniel 1:8-12).


  • Beware of movements that resemble cults - that present themselves as the source of truth - but that are not in accordance with the Word of God in the Bible.
  • We need to breathe our faith into our lives, for "faith without works is dead" (James 2:20). Enriching faith with grace deepens your relationship with God as well as others around you, for "by works faith was made perfect" (James 2:22), but "without faith it is impossible to please God" (Hebrews 11: 6). Therefore, we put our shoes on with faith and go out of our gates and into the whole world.
  • Always love people, as Jesus told us: "I tell you truly, when you didn't do it to one of these little ones, you didn't do it to me." (Matthew 25:45)

    • So don't become critical or censorship, there is a judge.
    • You are no better than anyone else, but you are saved by the grace of God.
  • Know that God is loving, but you must have fear (respect) for Him.
  • Christians must constantly follow God - if they don't - and they must also seek to honor and glorify Him, and their beliefs are most valuable when aligned with the Gospel of Jesus Christ as presented in the Bible.
  • Try to understand the context and use your head; don't assume you understand - this can lead to a misinterpretation of the manual left by God for you. In addition, correlate similar passages so that your knowledge of the Bible is more cohesive, not just quotes out of context.
  • Use discernment when choosing a congregation to join. A church that does not emphasize biblical teaching and interprets the scriptures in the way most convenient to its leader, one focused on profit and politics, or one that claims to be the only true church and demonizes others may not be the right one to attend.
  • "An evil and adulterous generation asks for a sign." They apparently lack faith and "need" a sign.

    • However, Jesus told the faithful: "17 And these signs shall follow them that believe: In my name shall they cast out demons; they shall speak in new tongues… 20 And they, having departed, preached everywhere, the Lord working with them, and confirming the word with signs that followed.

      "(Mark 16:17-20).

    • God is greater than signs and miracles; that's why faith is needed to know that God is there and that He will reward those who diligently seek Him.
    • He can work wonders, but don't let your faith slacken for want of amazing miracles.
  • According to Islam, obeying God and living a life of righteousness guarantees protection from hell. Christianity says that "by grace are ye saved, through faith; and this not of yourselves, it is the gift of God." (in Jesus Christ). "It doesn't come from works, so that no one can boast." (Ephesians 2:8-9). You enter Paradise only by the grace of God, not by earning it. In fact, the faith and grace of God are gifts from the Lord. Heaven is not open to us through our power or our actions, nor is it enough to believe to reach it.
  • Be aware that there are many options for service to others that God says are actually done for Him and for Him. in their tribulations, and keep themselves from the corruption of the world." (James 1:27).

    • If you are converting or accepting God and faith for the first time, do some research.
    • Make sure you're choosing the faith that best reflects your understanding of the Bible, the spirit of truth, and God.
  • Note that even those who show signs and wonders, such as giving a sign, and passing away, are false prophets when they urge you to serve other gods (Deuteronomy 13:1-5). Refuse to listen to someone who teaches contrary to the Bible, even if he or she does great signs and miracles.

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