Asking tarot questions can be very difficult. After all, it's not like the cards can answer your questions with a simple “yes” or “no”. The tarot is a tool that can be used to shed light on some of the most difficult and stressful aspects of life, from the end of a relationship to a career change. Letters can help you figure out which parts of your love, work, or financial life you should improve. But for this to work, you need to ask sincere, honest, and profound questions about what ails you.
Part 1 of 3: Asking an Open-Ended Question
Step 1. Start the question with “how”, “what”, “where” and “why”
Questions like this are more open-ended and allow for deeper answers to some of life's biggest challenges. Start the question with “how”, “what”, “where” and “why” to receive answers that help you understand what you can do to change a situation. Here are some sample open-ended questions:
- "How can I solve my financial problems?"
- "What can I change to have more love in my life?"
- "Where can I find opportunities to help me grow in my career?"
Step 2. Avoid asking when something is going to happen or how you should act
Don't ask the cards to make decisions for you. They won't be able to help you that way. Avoid "When will this happen?" or "What should I do?" and don't go expecting the tarot to solve these dilemmas. Life is not that simple.
Remember that you are consulting the tarot precisely because there is no simple solution to your problems and questions
Step 3. Ask questions about the direction of your life in general
It's okay if you don't have a question about a specific issue. Just ask the tarot for advice on more general aspects of life, such as "Where will this path take me?" or "What kind of energy do I attract into my life?" The tarot is meant to help you discover things about your own life, and a broad question can be more than enough.
Step 4. Formulate the questions as requests for advice
When looking at letters, the best questions are asked as a request for advice or guidance. Don't dump the responsibility for your life on the tarot. See the examples below:
- Don't ask "Should I spend three months in Europe?" This question makes the cards responsible for a decision that should be yours.
- Ask "How can my decision to spend three months in Europe affect the people I love?" This question allows the cards to give you guidance without making you responsible for your decisions.
Part 2 of 3: Getting to the Root of a Problem
Step 1. Consider the feelings of everyone involved
If there are other people involved in your problem, be sure to consider how they are affected by it, both directly and indirectly. While the questions should only be about you, it's important to think carefully about how your decisions might impact others.
- Let's say you are thinking about changing careers. Ask yourself how this change might affect your family members or the people you live with.
- Don't forget about the pets! Think about how they'll feel without you if you're making plans to travel.
Step 2. Ask about the benefits and drawbacks of a decision
If you need help making an important decision, a question about its possible benefits and drawbacks can help. Try to formulate the question in pros and cons, as if you were making a list.
- Suppose you are trying to decide whether to send an elderly mother or father to a nursing home. Ask things like "What are the benefits of leaving my mom at home?" or "What are the disadvantages of leaving my mother at home?"
- If you want to know whether or not you should end a complicated relationship, ask "What am I getting out of this relationship?" or "How is this relationship hurting me?"
Step 3. Ask questions about things you would change in your life
We all have aspects of our lives that we would like to improve. You will certainly be able to think of at least one or two such things if you are sincere. Look for ways to improve yourself and the people around you.
- With regard to your body image, ask, for example, "How can I feel better about myself?" or “What can I do to improve my fitness?”.
- With regard to family life, ask, for example, "How can I spend more time with my family?" or "What can I do to get closer to my brothers?"
Step 4. Be concise
Even if you're dealing with a big problem, try to break it down into parts. While more general questions can be great for someone who doesn't have a real problem, breaking larger questions into smaller questions can help you get to the root of your pain. For example:
- Instead of asking "How can I get rid of my financial problems?" ask "How can I increase my income?" or “How can I save in my daily life?”.
- Instead of asking "How can I improve my relationship?" ask "Why is my husband upset when I do x, y, or z?"
Step 5. Ask positive questions
When life doesn't go according to plan, it's easy to get stuck in a cycle of negative thoughts. Even if you're upset about what's or isn't happening in your life, keep the questions free of negative connotations.
- Ask "What can I do to become a better speaker?" instead of "Why can't I get over my fear of public speaking?"
- Ask "How can I be more sociable?" instead of "Why can't I make friends?"
Part 3 of 3: Choosing the Next Questions
Step 1. If you don't understand something, ask
Whether you're consulting a tarot card or playing with a deck of your own, don't let the doubts pass you by. It's possible that you get a negative card and need a little more guidance. Take into account all the possible meanings of the more complex cards.
- It may be that you take The Hanged Man at a time when you are in need of help to remedy a problem. The most superficial interpretation of the letter is impotence, but it can also mean acceptance.
- You may also take out The Hermit after asking how to make your love life livelier. That doesn't mean you're going to be alone forever. The letter may just mean that you need some time to reflect before you find real love.
Step 2. Pay attention to your reactions
How you react to cards and their position in the game can help you better understand how to position yourself in certain situations. Pay close attention to your reactions to the letters and write down how you feel about them. However, avoid thinking about it all the time.
Step 3. Try to remember things that are unclear
A tarot reading is like a lesson: you may have questions at the end. When facing the game, try to remember points that need clarification.
- If a letter says you need to embrace your feminine side, ask "How can I cultivate my femininity more?"
- If you get a card like the four of hearts, which indicates that your expectations are too high, ask "How can I be more realistic?"