Talking to God involves an intimate, personal and spiritual relationship with Him. There are so many popular religions and opinions about how to relate to God that figuring out how to do it seems complicated. Thankfully, this is unnecessary, as you choose how to connect and talk to Him – simply put, it's up to you. No matter your religious or spiritual preference, learning to communicate effectively with God can be done through the steps below.
Method 1 of 3: Talk to God as You Believe
Step 1. Find out how you see God
You will need to reflect on who God is in your life to be able to talk to him with confidence. Who is He and how do you define Him? A father or mother figure, a teacher, a friend closer than a relative, or a distant friend? Perhaps He is an abstract spirit guide? Is your connection to him based on a personal or spiritual relationship? Do you follow the form and orders of your religion to understand who He is? In any case, this is what will determine how you approach God for conversation.
Step 2. Have a relationship with a God who cares
It's easier to talk to someone who really cares about us. Therefore, your relationship with God is formed when you share the wonders and sorrows of your life. Discovering that God wants you to share your joys, afflictions and thoughts with Him is the first step in establishing that connection and you can strengthen it by reading sacred books and texts like the Bible, the Koran or the Torah.
Step 3. Talk to God as if he were a very close and powerful friend
Seeing God as an incredible friend is different from praying only in difficult times or out of obligation. As with a friend, you expect communication between two people, noticing the answers, help and teachings he gives. Of course the prayer sounds more like a monologue, but the fact that you are speaking proves that this is a conversation.
- It's possible to talk to God out loud or inside your head, depending on what you find most effective.
- Find a quiet, private place where you can concentrate while talking. It's okay to talk to him silently in line at the market, sitting in his room, at work, at school, and wherever.
Step 4. Talk to God
Talk to Him the same way you would talk to a person in His presence. You can talk about your everyday problems, your thoughts at the moment, your fears, hopes and dreams; you can even tell Him (and yourself) about the things you're grateful for. You can talk to God about matters that are difficult for you, just as you would talk to a friend.
- Let's say you argued with someone. You could say “God, I don't know what else to say to José. We've been arguing for two weeks now and we can't understand each other. I don't want to think we can't do it this time, but I really don't know what else to do or say.”
- Have you ever felt blessed by an incredibly beautiful day? Talk to God about the gifts He gives us, something like “Wow Lord, it's a radiant day out there! I think I'll read in the park. Thank you for another gift.”
- Perhaps you have a complicated relationship with someone in the family: “Sir, I hate not getting along with my mother. She just doesn't understand me and refuses to listen when I tell her how I feel. I hope that one day she can put herself in my place. Please, God, give me the patience to understand you.”
Step 5. Pay attention to the answers
You may not hear God speak to you as you would a physical friend, but the answer may come in the form of a priest's sermon or through a verse from the Bible. Be open to receiving these answers as a form of intuition, inspiration, situation or event that is directly or indirectly related to what you had told Him.
Step 6. Tell God that you know He has reasons of his own to act how and when He does and trust Him
You may not get what you want when you want it, but you will certainly get what you need. God knows what he does.
Step 7. Try to follow God's way with faith in His precepts of love and express His will
However, be aware that things that happen can be the result of the actions of others, people concerned about their own lives and interests. God does not necessarily need to interfere in people's behavior, as they have free will like you and may not share the same moral values or follow His values. Even if someone has bad intentions with you, God will not interfere. Thus, events also depend on events that cross your path of hope and peace. Even in dangerous situations, in dark times and dark days, when you pass through the valley of death, God will hear you. Don't be afraid, cry and pray to Him without losing the confidence that He can do anything, no matter what.
Method 2 of 3: Talk to God through Writing
Step 1. Write to talk to God
You may not feel comfortable speaking out loud, or you may not be able to concentrate on talking inside your mind, and these two ways are probably not good for you; if that is the case, write. Writing allows us to express thoughts in a cohesive way, allowing you to let Him out.
Step 2. Buy a new notebook and pen
Choose a notebook that you will enjoy writing every day. A simple spiral notebook or paperback are great choices, as they will be used on a table. Choose what you are going to use for writing as well.
Prefer writing by hand than on the computer. There are many distractions on the computer and some people are not as easy at typing as they are at writing in a notebook
Step 3. Go to a quiet, private place to write
Even if you don't speak out loud, it's best to write in a quiet place to concentrate more.
Step 4. Set the right time to write
Before starting, set an alarm clock to go off after the amount of time that feels best to you. Choose five, 10 or 20 minutes and shake this pen until the alarm goes off.
Step 5. Write quickly and freely
Try not to worry about what you're writing, grammar, punctuation, or content. Writing to God requires your words to come from the heart. To achieve this, you will have to relax enough to be able to write, without fear, whatever comes to mind.
Step 6. Write to God like a letter to a friend or a journal
Talk about a specific concern if you don't know what to write. Talk about something that is happening in your daily life, or ask questions that need His answers. You can talk about your goals, or just to say thank you. Use the examples below for inspiration.
- “Dear God, I have no idea what I want to do with my life right now. It seems like I can't make the right decisions, or meet the right people, I'm always involved in drama. When will this end? When will things finally change for me?”
- “God, I can hardly believe it! Today I met a woman who works at my dream job! Our meeting was completely random, I mean, what were the chances of finding the right person like that, out of the blue? If I hadn't bumped into her and dropped her purse, I would never have had a chance to see her business card. You never leave me, do you? Always answering my requests and doing the best for me.”
Method 3 of 3: Talking to God Through Prayer
Step 1. Take time to talk to God
Prayer can be considered a more formal conversation with God, as it is a liturgy, but you can choose to pray as is best for you. Of course, praying can be done anytime, anywhere, but making time for just that helps. Pick a time when no one interrupts you and concentrate. The best times are usually before meals or bedtime, upon waking up, in times of stress and need, and in solitary activities such as exercising or riding a bus.
Step 2. Go to an empty room or space to pray
Ideally, you should go somewhere where there are no distractions during the short time you have to pray to God.
Don't worry if you can't find a suitable place. It is possible to pray in crowded buses, crowded restaurants, and anywhere. Even driving is a good idea, as long as you pay attention to the road while you pray
Step 3. Prepare to pray
As they prepare to pray, some people like to organize their space and body to communicate with God. How you prepare depends a lot on your personal preferences and your religion.
Some common attitudes are reading a few verses from the sacred text of your religion, lighting incense and candles, performing a purification ritual, taking communion, meditating, and chanting chants and mantras
Step 4. Decide what your prayer will be
This can be done in advance if there is a problem in your life that needs solving, or it can be addressed at prayer time as well.
- You can use prayer as a way to have a casual conversation with God about recent events in your life. For example: “God, today is my first day of school. I'm very nervous but also excited! I pray that everything works out today.”
- You can also use prayer as a means of confessing, venting, and making requests. “God, I feel terrible for gossiping at work. I'm afraid my colleague will find out and I don't know what I can do to fix it. Father, please give me the courage to ask him for forgiveness.”
- Let's say you had a job interview. Say something like “Thank you for this wonderful interview, Lord. Please make the interviewer remember me, see how I was made for this position and hire me, Dad.”
Step 5. Be natural in your prayer
There is no right way to pray, it goes from person to person. Going to church or center involves participating in rituals that are not usually done at home, where it is not necessary to follow any rules of behavior except opening your heart to God.
- Some people like to bow their heads and close their eyes, but some religions practice prostration and silence. Whatever seems most respectful and effective to you and your relationship with God is fine. You can pray with your eyes open and your head held high too.
- It is normal to recite a few prayers aloud before starting to pray silently.
Step 6. Pray with others
It can be a wonderful experience to pray with a group of like-minded people. This is great for hearing how others relate to God and acquiring new traditions and rituals that you can incorporate into your daily practice. Try to find a group near your home if you are not already in one.
- There is a prayer group at the center, terreiro, church or local mosque. You can search for people who share your faith and values on the internet and find out if anyone is meeting near your home. Start your own group if there isn't one nearby.
- In some religions there is a habit of getting a group of people together to send prayers and positivity to relatives and family who are going through tribulations and prayer lists are created regularly to help the community.
- When you're talking to God, do it in the way that's most comfortable for you. Don't try to imitate someone because you think that person does it right, do the your way. God knows you.
- When writing to God, use pen and paper. It may seem more work, but it's better to concentrate.
- The ideal is to find a quiet place to talk to Him, but don't worry if you can't. Make the moment as sacred as possible to yourself, even with all the distractions – that's what matters.
- Read the Bible (or the holy scripture of your religion). The word of the Lord communicates with us and guides us to live better. This is the only ordealing book whose ideas people try hard to fight, but to this day it is the most popular book on earth. The name of this is best seller.
- Don't let other people pressure you about the way you pray. Nobody can rule this. Choose the most suitable method for you.