How to Make Friends with Women: 14 Steps (with Pictures)

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How to Make Friends with Women: 14 Steps (with Pictures)
How to Make Friends with Women: 14 Steps (with Pictures)

Regardless of gender, both men and women enjoy having friends of both sexes. However, some people find getting close to women intimidating and confusing, and some men fear being misunderstood and giving the impression that they're into the woman in question. By initiating contact, getting to know the person, and deepening the relationship, it is possible to become friends with any woman.


Part 1 of 3: Introducing Yourself

Make Female Friends Step 1

Step 1. Take every opportunity to meet potential friends

You will find that it is possible to make friends with women in many places. Enjoy different activities to find a new friend.

  • Introduce yourself and start chatting anywhere you can find women with common interests. For example, you might meet a friend at work, at church, in the neighborhood, or at activities you both do, like running.
  • Pay attention to what she says to get a feel for her personality and to see if the two of you can get along.
Make Female Friends Step 2

Step 2. Start a conversation

You may or may not know the woman you'd like to befriend, but come forward to break the ice anyway. Thus, it is possible to form the first impression of each other, which can convert a simple conversation into a deep friendship.

  • Introduce yourself lightly and ask open-ended questions. For example, you can say, “Hello, my name is Sofia. I'm a friend of Teresa's and I've heard a lot of good things about you. I would love to know more about your volunteer work at one of these times if you have some free time.”
  • Talk to the girl casually if you are a man. A lot of women may think you're hitting on them, so approach them slowly, as if you just want to have a chat with her and nothing more, staying a comfortable distance away without touching her. It's possible to say something like, “Hi, I'm Cris. I saw you walking around the company and I was wondering what area you work in."
  • Find out something about her with friends, colleagues or mutual acquaintances so that you can start a conversation.
Make Female Friends Step 3

Step 3. Present your best self

Some women like people who take care of their appearance, but without exaggeration. Introducing yourself in the best possible way to your future friend can make a positive impression and encourage her to want to get to know you better.

Avoid overdoing your appearance. Being yourself demonstrates that you are comfortable and can also make you more comfortable. For example, wear simple clothes, hairstyles and makeup. Something too elaborate can send the message that you are in need of attention and can ruin your attempt at friendship with the woman. Attitude can also seem like a sign of competition, which many women don't like

Make Female Friends Step 4

Step 4. Practice cordiality

Most women enjoy the company of people who are confident and who are themselves. Friendship can start with a gesture of sympathy, for example, showing that you have confidence and making her feel comfortable.

  • Avoid being overconfident, which can make you look pretentious. Stay calm, serene and don't overdo your confidence. For example, don't fold your arms or hands behind your head. Also, keep eye contact with the new friend. Sometimes even the light touch on the shoulder can reassure you that you're cool.
  • Show the real personality. Most women can recognize when someone is being fake. Your acquaintance may not want to continue the friendship if you are not yourself.

Part 2 of 3: Getting to Know Yourself Better

Make Female Friends Step 5

Step 1. Share your interests

Ask about her interests to show that you want to forge a solid friendship. Talk about each other's interests and don't forget to mention each other's passions, as they are a good foundation on which to base a friendship with a woman.

  • Find a way to incorporate her interests into the conversation, which might inspire an invitation to do something with her.
  • Women enjoy a variety of activities, including shopping, hiking, photography and running. Mentioning things you think she likes can be a way to bond the two of you.
  • Ask about her interests if you're not sure. For example, if you want to strike up a conversation in yoga class, say, “I've seen you here a few times. What are the preferred yoga postures?” So she can see that you take classes at the same time.
  • Talk about your interests too. Friendship is a two-way street and it is important for her to know your passions. For example, if you're talking about yoga postures, you might say, “Oh, I love this one too. Sometimes I needed to adapt. Have you ever had difficulties with any posture?"
  • In this way, it is also possible to show your acquaintance that you are an interested and dynamic person.
Make Female Friends Step 6

Step 2. Listen carefully

Listen carefully to what she says, especially if you are a man who wants to make female friends. This way you show that you care and want to make friends, and you also help to stimulate conversation with her when you don't have much to talk about.

  • Find a balance between conversations about more serious topics and fun topics to move from a simple acquaintance to a good friend, as women like to be able to talk about both serious and light subjects.
  • Be sure to ask follow-up questions to show that you paid attention. Remembering this detail can help you to listen instead of thinking about how to respond.
  • Praise her for her interests by showing that you understand what is important to the girl. For example, if she is a Red Cross volunteer, say something like, "I really admire your work at the Red Cross and would love to hear how you joined the organization."
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Step 3. Maintain independence and assert your opinions

As you get to know each other better, be sure to preserve your independence and don't allow it to override your opinions. So the friendship develops and she stays interested in you.

  • Use your brain and don't pretend to be dumber to please your acquaintance. Show her that you can form opinions. Exchange ideas and meaningful conversations to keep the friendship always fresh.
  • Avoid asking to spend a lot of time with her and don't be so available. That way, you can show her that other people are also interested in being friends with you.
Make Female Friends Step 8

Step 4. Enjoy new activities together

A woman can get to know you better if you demonstrate one of your talents and do activities of mutual interest. This attitude can stimulate new conversations or activities, in addition to showing her a side of yourself that few people know about.

  • Do simple activities so it's fun for both of you and doesn't feel like a competition. For example, cook for her. You can invite her to dinner by saying, "I love cooking Italian food and it would be really nice to make my famous lasagna for us."
  • Let her demonstrate her talents too.
Make Female Friends Step 9

Step 5. Make compromises

It's very likely that you and your new friend don't share everything in common. Be flexible about what the two of you can do together, sometimes doing things you like and sometimes doing things she likes.

This attitude demonstrates the interest and commitment to have a friendship. For example, if she wants to go jogging one day and you prefer to have a snack, do what she wants and suggest that you have a snack on the next date

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Step 6. Be positive and fun

Women like fun and positive people, which is even more important if you want to be friends with her. She probably wants to spend a nice time with you and not start talking straight away about how bad life or the world is.

  • Start the conversation by sharing the good and bad news. Make room for negative topics after the conversation is flowing and the mood is more relaxed.
  • Understand that everyone has a bad day sometimes. Talk to her about it and move on or else she may think you are a negative person and not want to invest more time in this friendship.

Part 3 of 3: Deepening Friendship

Make Female Friends Step 11

Step 1. Share your feelings

After going through the acquaintances stage, share your feelings and other personal things with your friend. In this way, you demonstrate that you trust her and consider her a friend.

Don't talk too much. There is a fine line between sharing personal feelings and information and giving too much. For example, don't share intimate details with her unless you both have no problem with it

Make Female Friends Step 12

Step 2. Introduce her to your circle

Introducing your friend to a wider circle of friends can help to strengthen the bond. In many cases, the friendship can grow even more if they all get along well.

Make Female Friends Step 13

Step 3. Keep an interest in her

One of the main quirks of a good friend is that he remembers important dates and events and is interested in getting along. Be sure to offer support and congratulate her whenever the need arises and keep in touch so that you both can find time to see each other.

Text her, call her, or write her cards to wish her luck or to congratulate her on some achievement. Any gesture, even a small one, is appropriate

Make Female Friends Step 14

Step 4. Spend more time together

As the two get to know each other better and enjoy being together, increase the amount of time in her company. Regular meetings can deepen the friendship and make it more solid and meaningful.

  • Make regular appointments. For example, arrange a run and lunch every Sunday. This gives you both a chance to boost endorphins and eat good food while spending time together.
  • Remember to be flexible if she can't make the appointment. Ask her if you can see each other on another day of the week.


  • Always be yourself.
  • Don't worry about what others think.
  • Remember the motto: "be a friend if you want to have a friend".
  • If you're not having fun with your new friend, she might not be your type. Keep being nice and polite without getting too intimate.

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