3 Ways to End Friendship with Your Best Friend

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3 Ways to End Friendship with Your Best Friend
3 Ways to End Friendship with Your Best Friend

It doesn't matter if they've been friends for years or a few months: breaking up a friendship can be difficult. However, if you feel dissatisfied when you are with this person and want to end the friendship, then this might be the best thing for both of you. There are a few different ways to end a friendship, such as letting it die slowly or directly saying that you want to stop there. After you end this relationship, you can do a few things to feel better and move on.


Method 1 of 3: Moving Away

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Step 1. Wait a few days to respond if your friend talks to you

He may not understand what's going on and start sending you multiple messages or calling you when you don't respond. If this happens, do not answer, do not respond to messages or any communication on social media at the same time. Wait a few days to show up and give short answers.

  • If he asks something that can be answered with a yes or no, just say “yes” or “no” and don't say anything else.
  • If the answer needs further elaboration, be as brief and impersonal as possible.
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Step 2. Make excuses not to date him

Your best friend might ask you to do something while you try to distance yourself from him. If that happens, make an excuse. Explain that you have another appointment, that you are not feeling well, that you need to do your homework, or anything else you can think of to avoid the invitation. Don't reschedule, just make an excuse and leave it at that.

  • For example, if he asks you what you're doing on the weekend, respond with something like “I'm busy this weekend. I have family commitments.”
  • If he asks you to say when you're free, say "I'm too busy at the moment so I can't tell you exactly what day I'll be free."
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Step 3. Be less flexible if you can't miss it

Your friend may be used to doing what he likes. If that's the case, and you can't help it for some reason, turn things around and be selfish. This can make him no longer want to spend time with you or lessen his desire to ask you to do something.

For example, if you often meet at his house, tell him he will have to come to yours

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Step 4. Talk about neutral and impersonal things if you can't avoid talking to him

Meeting people is an opportunity to make connections and create intimacy, so it's important to keep your distance if you meet them suddenly. Prefer to talk about neutral things and avoid talking about yourself as much as possible.

  • For example, if he asks what's new, say “Nothing big” or something.
  • If you don't want to talk to your ex best friend, you can just walk away. However, smiling and waving is more polite.
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Step 5. Stop talking to him on the phone, by text or on social media

If you've decided to take this friend out of your life, you need to stop communicating with him altogether at some point. After you've been away for a few weeks, stop talking to him. Do not call, send messages or interact on social networks. If you often find yourself on the way to work or school, change your path. If they study together or work at the same company, ask to be seated away from him.

Tip: if you go to the same school as your best friend, ask the teacher to change places in the room or even to change rooms.

Method 2 of 3: Saying the Friendship is Over

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Step 1. Choose a neutral place for you to talk

Avoid having this conversation at home or his, but also prefer not to do it in crowded public places, such as the cafeteria at school. Choose a neutral place like a park or square. This ensures that neither will be at an advantage due to the environment. In addition, you can each go to one side after talking, instead of having to leave the person's house.

Talking face-to-face is the best way out, but you can text if you're worried about his reaction, if he's too nervous and starts screaming, for example

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Step 2. Talk about yourself and not him when justifying why you don't want to continue the friendship anymore

Reflect on the reasons for ending your friendship. Then tell him you don't want to be his friend anymore because of these reasons. Don't talk about him, talk about you. If you say he does or does not do such a thing, he may become defensive.

  • For example, you might say “I don't think we should continue to be friends. I get upset when you don't seem to care about what's going on in my life and I got tired.”
  • Or say “I think we should take a break. I don't like it when you criticize my appearance or put pressure on me to change some things about me.”
  • Talking about yourself makes your friend less likely to get defensive. That's why it's important to use this format.
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Step 3. listen carefully what he has to say, but stick to your decision.

After telling him how you feel, give him room to respond. Be willing to listen, but stick to your decision. Don't let the person convince you otherwise if you've already decided that friendship is over. Make eye contact, nod, and show that you're paying attention. Leave anything distracting, like your cell phone, away.

Try to keep your body language open as you listen. Do this by looking at him, keeping your arms uncrossed at your sides and leaning toward him

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Step 4. Avoid arguing about who did this or that

It is possible that your friend will want to discuss some details, but the chance of this helping with anything is slim. If he starts to bring up past fights or starts listing the things he thinks you did wrong, excuse yourself and get away.

For example, you can say "I don't want to go into this subject because I don't think it will do any good."

Tip: If your ex best friend starts yelling or hitting you, you don't have to say anything, just walk away.

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Step 5. End the conversation in a positive way

Try to say something that shows you don't want your friend's harm, even if you don't want to continue the friendship. You can say something to indicate that you appreciate the things you have lived together or that you will normally greet him when you meet him.

You can say "I will always remember the cool things we spent together" or "I wish you the best."

Method 3 of 3: Make Things Better After You Finish

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Step 1. Talk to a trusted friend or family member about what happened

Make sure to see a trusted friend or family member to talk. It can be over the phone too. Say what happened and how you are feeling. If the person is also friends with your ex-best friend, ask them if they feel comfortable talking about it or not before venting.

After you break up with your best friend, you'll need to let off steam with someone you trust

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Step 2. Eliminate the friend from your social networks

Protect yourself from seeing his posts or photos by breaking the friendship or at least not following him on social media. He'll probably do the same, so don't feel bad about it. You can even take a break from social media for a few weeks if you like. This prevents you from bumping into a post where it was tagged or something that reminds you of it.

Looking at your ex friend's photos and posts every day will make the process of moving on more difficult

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Step 3. Schedule to go out with other people to keep yourself busy

Make arrangements to go out with other friends or your family to occupy the free time you have gained. Plan cool activities that you feel like doing. For example, invite a group of friends to go bowling or mini golf on the weekend, invite your family to go hiking, or join a club or group of like-minded people to make new friends.

Remember the things that lie ahead to make you feel better and get busier

Tip: It's important that you know that it will take a while to find a new best friend. There is no way to rush friendships, so be patient.

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Step 4. Avoid gossiping about your ex's best friend

Your other friends may be curious as to why you broke away, but there's no point in going into that. This can cause annoying situations and give your friends the impression that they have to choose between you and him. Prefer to come up with a simple way to explain what happened, in case people ask.

You might say something like "We're just not spending so much time together anymore."

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Step 5. Set a goal to occupy your free time

Set some personal, professional, academic or exercise goal for yourself and think about what you need to do to reach it. For example, if your goal is to finish writing the book you started, commit to writing every day for half an hour. If you want to be promoted, take on more work or volunteer to help with projects to stand out from the rest of your employees.

Setting a goal is a good way to focus your attention and not think about what happened between you and your best friend

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Step 6. Think about what you learned from this experience

Reflect on the friendship and what made it end up to do differently in the future. For example, if you ended the friendship because your friend was too negative and it was affecting you, give preference to more positive people when making new friends. If you chose to leave friendship aside because it was too sticky and didn't give you room to breathe, look for more independent people to create bonds.

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