Stopping talking to someone who affects you negatively is an empowering attitude. If you've decided to stop talking to someone, say you need space and then cut off all forms of communication you have with the person. If you were chatting with someone over the internet and decided you don't want to continue, say you don't want to chat anymore and delete the person's contact. Congratulations on making this decision!
Method 1 of 2: Ending Negative Relationships
Step 1. Talk about the boundaries you want to set if you feel comfortable doing so
Even though this sounds counterintuitive, this is the clearest way to communicate how you feel to the person and avoid misinterpretation. Explain that the relationship is affecting you in a negative way and say what you plan to do to take a break from this relationship.
- For example, “Our relationship is making me anxious, so I've decided I need space for the next few months. During this time, I will not reply to your messages on any social media."
- Be firm but kind.
Step 2. Write a letter if you prefer not to speak in person
If you feel threatened or anxious while you are with the person, it may be difficult to communicate clearly. If that's the case, write a letter saying how you feel and explaining that you won't talk to the person again.
Mail the letter if you don't want to see the person
Step 3. Erase her number from your cell phone
This prevents you from being tempted to call or text her when you're feeling lonely. Enter your contact list and select "Delete contact".
If you're reluctant to delete the number, remember that you're making room for more positive people in your life
Step 4. Block the person's profile on all social networks
This is a great way to keep you from contacting them and also from not seeing what the person posts to your feed. Prefer blocking than just stopping following, as this prevents the person from looking for you in the future.
Don't forget to block the person on all social networks like Facebook, Instagram, SnapChat, Pinterest and WhatsApp
Step 5. Avoid the person whenever possible
This helps you have space to detox from a relationship that is difficult or bad for you. This is not always possible, but make an effort to avoid it whenever you can.
- For example, if the person always goes to the same coffee shop, prefer to go to another one.
- If you live with the person, find another place to live.
Method 2 of 2: Cutting Internet Contact
Step 1. Write a short, direct, and kind response to cut off contact
It might be a little weird to reject someone online, but it's better to make what you feel clear to yourself rather than disappearing and confusing the person. Write a short message thanking the person for the time you talked, explaining that you are no longer interested and wishing them the best.
For example, “Hi Ana, I appreciate your interest, but I don't think we could have a relationship in the future. You seem like a great person and I wish you the best!”
Step 2. Give an excuse if the person continues to send messages
The best option will always be to be honest. However, if you feel uncomfortable, use a polite excuse to quickly end the conversation. Be brief and don't reply to any more messages.
For example, "Sorry, but I met someone else" or "I'm taking a break from social media right now because I'm working overtime at work."
Step 3. Delete the person's profile from your social networks
If the person keeps texting or you think you can go talk to them in a moment of weakness, don't hesitate to delete their profile. This is the most effective way to ensure that you don't have any further contact with the person in question.