Everyone fights their best friend once in a while. However, it's not a little discussion of anything that will turn two close people into enemies. In these cases, the best thing to do is try to get out of the fight without hurt or resentment. Then, of course, solving the problem. To learn how to do this, continue reading this article.
Step 1. Find out what the problem is
Sometimes the problem is pretty obvious. Other times, however, it can be quite difficult to find. It's also possible that there isn't even a problem. In some cases, your friend may just be having a bad day or going through difficulties that have nothing to do with your relationship.
Step 2. Try to see things from his point of view
Talk to your friend to find out what he thinks you did wrong. Maybe the whole problem is just one big misunderstanding.
Step 3. Leave it alone for a while
Instead of bombarding your friend with questions and demands, give him a little time to calm down and think through what happened. Wait as long as it takes for your friend to stop staring at you in the hallway, swearing at you, spreading rumors about you, crying and everything else that usually accompanies a fight.
Step 4. Evaluate your options
You can ask your friend what happened, ask someone to ask you, or even leave him alone until you get over the fight. Each situation is unique, but a face-to-face conversation is often the best option, even if it is also the most difficult.
Step 5. Choose an action mode and put it into practice
Show yourself humble rather than proud and never play the victim. Admitting your mistakes will make your friend feel better and encourage them to do the same.
Step 6. Give it time
Your friend may need a few days to think about your conversation.
Step 7. Accept the result
If your friend decides to break off with you, there is nothing more that can be done. Don't hold a grudge or try to get revenge. Instead, focus on making a new best friend and staying mature and polite. Say hello to your ex-friend whenever you see him at school, for example. It's quite possible that he'll decide to talk to you again after he sees how nice you can be.
Step 8. Never let time pass until there is no way out
Your friend will end up losing interest and looking for a new crowd if you take too long to solve the problem.
Step 9. Don't try to make your friend jealous
It's quite possible that he doesn't care, which will make you feel embarrassed. Another possibility is that he'll get mad at you when he sees you with someone else.
Step 10. Do nothing to get revenge if you are the victim
Let karma handle it alone. If you decide to get revenge, the universe will also find a way to get revenge on you.
Step 11. Don't do anything you might regret
- Rekindle friendship as quickly as possible. You will soon start to miss your best friend, and you may end up drifting apart if you wait too long. Solve the problem at once!
- Giving a show doesn't help anyone. Keep insults, screams, gossip and gossip for private moments where no one can hear them and use them against you.
- Revenge is never the answer.
- Know that you did the right thing, even if your friend doesn't agree. However, don't throw it in his face. Take comfort in the fact that you did everything you could to help and solve the problem.
- Tell your friend how you are feeling. Maybe you can make up and talk about the problem?
- Talk to your friend to end the fight.
- Don't take too long to resolve the issue. If you keep avoiding your friend, he may decide to start hanging out with other people he trusts more than you do.
- Apologize to your friend and ask if he forgives you.
- NEVER talk about the fight again! Bad memories must always stay in the past to make way for the good ones.
- Tell the truth to your friend. Be honest about your feelings.
- Don't do anything you might regret just because you're angry. Never spread rumors or tell your friend's secrets. This kind of thing is not right.
- Prepare for all possible outcomes, such as the end of friendship. If this happens, be understanding and try to make new friends you can trust.
- If you don't show respect, your friend will have a LOT of trouble forgiving you.