How to Invite a Friend into Your Home: 9 Steps

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How to Invite a Friend into Your Home: 9 Steps
How to Invite a Friend into Your Home: 9 Steps

Going from just acquaintances to good friends can be difficult. Even if you feel comfortable with someone at school or work, inviting them into your home is a big step. Planning ahead will help reduce nervousness. By making the invitation at the right time and preparing for any eventuality, it is possible to invite the person and enjoy the company.


Part 1 of 3: Making the invitation at the right time

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Step 1. Check common interests with the person to be invited

Pick someone you have inside jokes with, or who has the same taste in books or music. Think of a person you feel good with.

Don't think too hard before issuing the invitation. Thinking too much can make you nervous about many situations that are mere possibilities. Just remember that even if the invitation is declined, it doesn't mean the friendship will end or anything else

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Step 2. Talk to your parent or guardian before inviting the friend

It would be unpleasant to have to cancel after having made the invitation. It can also be good to avoid times with a full house.

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Step 3. Find the best time to invite the person

Wait for an opportunity when they're talking about something they both want to do, like watching a new episode of a TV show, or trying a new recipe.

Arrange as soon as you realize that you both want to do a certain activity. For example, "There's a new episode of a TV show coming out on Wednesday. Want to watch it at home?" Or, "I have all the ingredients for the recipe. Want to try making it after school tomorrow?"

Part 2 of 3: Preparing for the visit

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Step 1. Confirm the visit

Call to ask if the person's parents have agreed, and to confirm attendance. Talk about how good it will be to do the planned activity so that the person is very excited.

Avoid sending messages, as the person may forget or simply not read. Calling to confirm plans can become a nervous situation, so cut to the chase. Say, for example, "Hi, so-and-so! I just wanted to know if your parents let you come here so I can get things ready."

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Step 2. Get the house ready for the visit

Clean up the room and, if you like, think of topics to talk or games to pass the time. Get everything set up according to plan, whether it's watching a movie or making that new recipe. Prepare a simple snack -- if you're hungry, he'll want to leave early.

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Step 3. Do something while waiting for the person to arrive

Sitting around waiting can make you nervous. When he arrives, welcome him and show him around.

Don't be trying to imagine what the perfect conversations would be like. The best conversations happen naturally. Ask questions about things in common, or what you would like to know about him

Part 3 of 3: Having a hassle-free visit

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Step 1. Don't let an unpleasant moment spoil your visit

If you notice that your friend doesn't want to talk about something, go back to talking about what you planned to do, or suggest another activity.

It's not your job to be funny or interesting. Research says that the conversations people find most interesting are the ones where they can talk about their own interests. All you have to do is ask the friend what interests them and listen carefully to ask questions related to the topic

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Step 2. Be flexible and spontaneous

If the planned activities don't work, suggest something you generally enjoy doing. If it doesn't work, go for a walk or have a snack. Don't let the unforeseen spoil your visit.

Remember that the best times are not the best because of an activity. Activities are just an excuse to spend time with someone and talk. Don't rush into an activity if things are fun just talking. If the subject ends, the activity will be a good way to break the silence

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Step 3. Remember that some friendships need time to grow

Don't expect to be best friends once the visit is over. Be happy that the person accepted the invitation and had fun, and invite again until it becomes routine.


  • Know that rejection is part of life and not necessarily because of you. Sometimes a rejection has nothing to do with you.
  • Remember that a little silence in a conversation doesn't mean it's going bad. Don't be nervous for a moment of silence.


  • Never make plans without parental permission. They'll find out and both you and your friend can be grounded, as well as endangering the friendship.
  • If the person doesn't accept it, don't be angry. There are many reasons why he cannot come to your house. Suggest again in the future, in case you feel he wished he could have accepted the invitation.

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