If you're under the impression that your friends are always making fun of you, maybe this is a good time to see if they really are your friends. The issue is different when it comes to bullies (the famous "bullies"), who always try to provoke others. A real friend won't do anything to annoy you deeply. As much as teasing is normal within friendships, when they are repetitive or one-sided, it may be better to move away from certain people. Learn to counter the provocations so you don't have to deal with them so much.
Method 1 of 4: Controlling the Teasers
Step 1. Learn to laugh at yourself a little
It can be difficult to do this when you are embarrassed or embarrassed about something, but this is an important step. Children can be quite cruel, especially since they don't think much about dealing with others. If you show annoyance, the person may provoke you even more.
- It's even more important to laugh at yourself when you make an obvious and public mistake, like spilling a drink or tripping.
- Notice how the "populars" handle such situations. Usually, they make some jokes right away ("Wow, what's with me today? I'm tripping over everything!") and still get teased by others - did you really think that jokes were only made for nerds? After a minute or two, they simply roll their eyes and change the subject.
- Don't take yourself too seriously. Everyone does shameful things from time to time. Get it out of your head and move on. So others will understand that the situation is past.
- As difficult as it may be at first, force yourself to forget about the situation. In time, it will be easier.
Step 2. Act with confidence
You may not feel confident all the time, but no one needs to know that; if you demonstrate trust, they are less likely to make fun of you. Confidence is intimidating: if they can't predict your reaction, no one will risk teasing you, because you can have an answer right on your tongue.
- Speak more slowly. When we get nervous, it's normal to start talking quickly. Take it easy and you'll look more confident.
- Take care of your body language. As cliché as it sounds, maintaining good posture (shoulders back and chin up, always!) will help you look more confident and make you feel more confident too.
- Talk to that elderly woman in the condominium, a friend of your mother or a friend of your younger brother. Look for people who won't tease you to practice a little. This way, you will not be nervous in the presence of your friends and will find it easier to deal with more stressful situations.
- Remember, people are unlikely to be paying that much attention to you. Young people - even the most popular - are quite self-centered and tend to be too focused on not being embarrassed in front of others; no one will be paying much attention to you. Keep calm.
Step 3. Take charge of the situation
Sometimes it's possible to take advantage of teasing, either because you don't care about the issue or because you suspect you're being provoked by the envy of others. A good example: if your friends tease you for being tidy, especially because they think you're trying to impress a girl, don't be annoyed; respond with something like "Yes, I'm even wearing a new hat… I'm pretty, aren't I?".
Step 4. Cut others' highs
It takes a little flexibility to be successful, but this is an option that works a lot in different social situations. When being teased, act natural and don't look angry. If you're struggling, think something like "Hahaha, very funny. It's time to grow up, don't you think?"
- Don't ignore the teasing completely, or you'll look like you're irritated and taking the issue more seriously than you should.
- Don't agree and lower yourself, or you'll encourage more teasing.
Method 2 of 4: Repaying Taunts
Step 1. Learn to fight back in kind
A very important skill in life is returning jokes without being too mean; teasing is part of life, after all. If you are able to play a little, others will not tease you so much.
Some people tease friends, and even boyfriends and girlfriends, looking for affection and thinking they're being funny. Conquer them by teasing them back without getting mad
Step 2. Return the taunt lightly
If a friend has started teasing you about a girl, for example, you might respond "Why are you so interested in my love life right now?" If he's making fun of your new look, respond with something like, "When did my haircut become the hottest topic here in the group?"
Step 3. Learn from observation
When you are around a person who is good at defending themselves against criticism and who can fight back in kind, pay attention: see how they handle situations, what kind of things they say, etc. When you are being provoked, think, "What would that person do?"
Step 4. Use the "Is, e
…"…Your friends may tease you for feeling you are changing and are afraid you will abandon them. They are probably teasing you because playing pranks is easier than evolving with you. Replay their prank by taking it beyond demonstrate that it's still the same person and that they don't need to be afraid.
- If your friends tease you for wearing a new leather jacket by saying something like, "What's up, John Travolta?", you might respond something like, "Yeah, and I won't stop at the jacket. Tomorrow I will go out singing around and conquering all the kittens".
- If they tease you for wearing a new scarf by saying something like, "Dude, are you wearing your girlfriend's scarf?" and… I'm wearing her panties too".
Method 3 of 4: Cultivating Better Friendships
Step 1. Make it clear that the teasing is bothering you
As much as the exchange of jokes is normal, when the situation bothers him it is a sign that she is a little out of control. It's possible that your friend doesn't even realize you're bothering him, so talk to him alone. Trying to stop the problem while it's happening can only make the situation worse.
- Make your expectations clear. Was there any specific incident that bothered you? What could your friend have done differently?
- Remember, teasing is part of people's personality - your friend may be unable to stop teasing you completely. Don't force him to promise something he can't deliver, or you'll both be resentful.
- Try to be as specific as possible. Are there any subjects you wouldn't want to be teased about? Say it! Does a person's presence always make your friend provoke you? Ask him if he has already noticed this, as it may be an automatic reaction.
- Don't blame your friend, or you'll make him defensive. As much as possible, avoid saying things like, "Why are you so mean to me?" Prefer conversations closer to: "It bothers me when people make fun of my weight. Can you stand by me when someone else does?"
- Make it clear that as long as he tries to resolve the situation, you'll be fine. Say something like: "We've been friends for so long… That's the only thing that bothers me. If you can pay more attention in the future, I appreciate it."
- If you know you sometimes overreact or have a hard time laughing at some silly things, say you're trying to get better: "I know I'm a little sensitive sometimes, but I'm working on it. Can you take it easy while I don't get better?"
- If your friend is being an asshole to you, don't let him get away with it. Many bullies try to come out on top by saying the victim has no sense of humor. If so, don't let the provocations fall on you.
Step 2. Ask if something is bothering your friend
He may have a problem with you, but he doesn't have the courage to confront him. He will bring it up during your conversations, pretending to be a joke. If you believe that to be the case, call him in for a private conversation and ask him if he wants to discuss something. Tell him that his teasing sounded mean and that you would like to understand him.
- Use the above approach to confront friends who have recently started teasing you or whose usual teasing has suddenly turned nasty.
- The problem could be caused by a communication failure. After solving it, it is possible that the teasing will stop.
Step 3. Find the reasons for the teasing
It's possible that your friends are teasing you because they feel threatened by you, because of your growing popularity at school, for example. They probably just want to get attention, even if it's negative. Many people try to put others down to make themselves feel better.
- If you're getting more teased than usual and you can't figure out why, chances are people have come to see you as more attractive or confident than before. Celebrate, because in the end, the situation can be good.
- Try to find out if something might have happened to damage your friend's trust. He could be teasing you to take your attention off an issue.
Step 4. Be willing to let the situation go
It is not always the best option to escalate the situation or demand an apology. A good friend will sincerely apologize without you asking him to. Trying to force a friend to feel bad about something they don't consider important will only create resentment between you. If you still want to keep the friendship going, tell him everything will be fine as long as he controls the teasing.
If your friend continues to tease, it might be a good idea to put an end to the relationship. Surrounding yourself with toxic people will only make you miserable
Method 4 of 4: Dealing with bullying
Step 1. Hit from the front
As the old saying goes, "The best defense is a good offense". If you think you can defend yourself, the best way to control the provocations is to stop them before they start. If you're used to being teased by a classmate in the last class, for example, take care of the situation as soon as you get to school. Say something like: "Oh yeah… It's almost ten o'clock, isn't it time to come and make fun of my hairstyle?". The idea is to make the bully look like a boring and predictable person.
- If you can get the bully's friends to laugh with you, success! Those who have the habit of teasing others usually live surrounded by people who laugh at everything.
- The last thing a bully wants is to be embarrassed in front of his or her friends.
Step 2. Take control of the situation
If you are confident enough to take a more aggressive tactic, it may be possible to control the discussion. Try to stop teasing by finding out what motivates bullying. If you can understand the person's motives for provoking you, you may not need to resort to violence.
- Whenever the person asks a question, ask them to explain: "Why do you think that?" or "What makes you think that?"
- Be careful not to sound sarcastic or rude, as doing so will only make the person more nervous.
Step 3. Be careful not to make fun of others
You will lose all reason if you are caught teasing someone, even if you are making fun of those who tease you the most. When you pay in kind, the bully will think you're in on the joke. Some children like teasing and don't care about them; the minute you provoke someone, the field is open for others. Defend yourself, but don't be mean.
Step 4. Report it
If the situation is too bad and you can't control it, talk to an adult. Your parents or teachers can help you handle the situation without the bully knowing you were the snitch.
- Beware of such an approach. If the bully knows you have been reported, the problem can get significantly worse.
- Your sanity and safety are more important than reputation. If you think the bully can become violent, report him!