How to Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Back

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How to Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Back
How to Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Back

Ending a relationship is hard, but it's great when your ex-girlfriend wants you back. The process to win her back begins shortly after completion. Anything you do can be both beneficial and harmful. By taking the time to analyze the relationship, try to improve and communicate strategically with her, you will be able to get her back.


Part 1 of 2: Preparing to Win Her Back

Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Again Step 1

Step 1. Try the no-contact rule

Set a period for not interacting with your ex-girlfriend. This includes phone calls, text messages, social media and dating. Do not start conversations or reply to her messages. That way, both will have time and space to recover from the breakup.

  • The contact-free period usually lasts for 21, 30 or 45 days. Whichever period you choose, stick to it.
  • The absence of contact will give both of you enough time to heal from the breakup and also for her to miss you.
  • If the breakup was disturbed, the absence of contact will allow you to calm down and resolve negative feelings.
Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Again Step 2

Step 2. Stop interacting with her on social media

Even if you don't talk, seeing the photos and keeping up with your ex-girlfriend's updates are things that will make you want to get in touch with her, which will only make the situation difficult. Plus, you might see things you wouldn't want to see, like photos of her new boyfriend.

  • If you feel it's necessary to block or exclude her from your social networks, do so. There is no need to inform her about your actions.
  • Don't make sad posts about termination.
Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Again Step 3

Step 3. Assess the relationship

Since you're not talking, it's time to think about the relationship. Consider the pros and cons. Think about your successes and your mistakes. Also, reflect on the things you would do otherwise if you could get another chance with her.

It can be helpful to write the pros and cons on a piece of paper. This will help you think about the relationship

Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Again Step 4

Step 4. Take care of yourself

It's important to try to be the best version of yourself. You will become more attractive to your ex-girlfriend when you get in touch with her again. Eat healthy foods and exercise. Spend time with your family and friends. Do activities that you didn't have time to do during the relationship, such as playing video games, reading, volunteering with an organization, etc.

  • There is also no problem with not going out or not socializing. Do whatever you feel is necessary to heal the breakup, such as meditating, writing, or watching movies on your own.
  • If there are personality traits or issues you have had in the relationship, such as anger, jealousy, insecurity, being controlling, or not appreciating the person she is, start working on those issues. Seek professional help if needed.
  • Write down on paper the kind of man you want to be and start doing what it takes to get better.
Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Again Step 5

Step 5. Avoid talking negatively about her

After the breakup, it will be tempting to talk bad about your ex. You may say things on your tongue, but badmouthing her to your family and friends can ruin your chances of getting her back.

  • Do your best to keep your relationship private.
  • Avoid posting indirect messages on social media as well. This includes videos, lyrics, quotes, etc.

Part 2 of 2: Interacting With Your Ex-Girlfriend

Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Again Step 6

Step 1. Get in touch with your ex-girlfriend

After the no-contact period ends, talk to her. You can send an email, call, write a letter or send a text message. If you're writing an email or letter, say you've accepted the termination, apologize for what you might have done wrong, and say something interesting about your life that has happened since then.

  • If sending a text message, send something to start a conversation, flirt lightly, and don't bring up any negative feelings.
  • Try sending a message like “Hey, I was watching X on TV and I remembered you:)”. You can also send a message about some memory you had together, for example “Remember when we went to that restaurant that was excellent…”.
  • Your initial contact shouldn't involve the return of the relationship, the longing you feel or your love for her.
Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Again Step 7

Step 2. Admit your mistakes and apologize

You've had time to evaluate your relationship, now you need to admit your mistakes and say you're sorry for what happened. This will show her that you've matured and thought a lot about what happened between the two of you. She will also begin to notice that you have taken steps to be a better person.

You can do this either in person or over the phone. It is not recommended to have sentimental conversations via text messages

Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Again Step 8

Step 3. Ask her out

Now that you're talking, ask her if she would like to go out someday. Try to be casual and polite when talking to her. Don't make the date seem grand. Say something like "Hey, want some coffee one of these days?" or "Let's go out to talk when we can." Don't imply it's a date.

  • If she seems reluctant, say "It's just coffee, that's all."
  • If she doesn't want to leave, don't force it. Give space. Say “I understand your decision not to want to leave. Let me know if you want to meet me one day. It would be nice to be able to talk”.
Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Again Step 9

Step 4. Enchant her again

To be able to win her back, you have to do everything you did the first time she fell in love with you. If you were in the habit of sending flowers or notes, do those things again. Think of this opportunity as a new relationship. You have to make her fall in love again.

  • While it's important to impress her, don't be needy or beg her to come back with you. This will only make you look insecure or weak. The goal is to get her back because you're a great person, not because she feels sorry for you.
  • Don't say things like "I can't live without you".
Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Again Step 10

Step 5. Avoid bringing up the past

You and your ex-boyfriend are starting over. Focus on the positive things that made the relationship work the first time. If she fell in love with your funny way, keep making her laugh. If she liked the dishes you prepared, then make her dinner.

Focus on creating new memories. She needs to believe that things will be different this time

Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Again Step 11

Step 6. Go slowly

You can't pick up where you left off. Act like it's a new relationship. Don't rush things and strive to get to know her again. Do not create pressure on the return. Focus on strengthening the friendship that exists between you.

  • Don't call or text every day.
  • Take tours and activities together. Learn again what she likes, dislikes and habits she has.
  • Take it easy on the sexual aspects of the relationship. Prioritize conversations.
Make Your Ex Girlfriend Want You Again Step 12

Step 7. Know when to give up

If your ex-girlfriend resists your efforts, respect her decision. If she asks you to leave her alone or says she's out of your relationship, you need to move on, too. Being too needy and persistent will create a bad impression of you, ruining any chances of winning her back in the future.

If she already has a new boyfriend, respect her relationship. Don't try to get them to end. Be patient as it could be a serious relationship or just casual


  • Having a broken heart hurts, but be strong. Talk to her, and if she doesn't want you back, accept it and move on.
  • Be patient. It may take you guys to get back together again.
  • The goal is to make coming back her idea. Be the man she always wanted.
  • Even if you can't get her back, it'll be fine.

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