4 Ways to Respond to a Breakup Message

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4 Ways to Respond to a Breakup Message
4 Ways to Respond to a Breakup Message

Breaking up is difficult and can get even more complicated if your partner sends you a break-up message instead of talking face-to-face. Every relationship is unique, so the answer will depend on what kind of thing you've spent together or how long you've been a couple. If you've received a termination message and need some ideas on how to respond, you can ask the person to further explain what happened, respond with dignity, or show they don't care to end the cycle and move on.


Method 1 of 4: Waiting to Answer

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Step 1. Give yourself time to take a deep breath before answering

Once you receive the message, you may want to respond right away. However, you probably won't be in the right frame of mind to talk and might say something you'll regret later. Try waiting an hour to a day to respond to the termination message.

Maybe you need more time to think about what you're feeling and that's okay

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Step 2. Call a friend to talk about how you are feeling

Ending a relationship is difficult, and if you've been “kissed” by text, you might want to talk to someone about what happened. Call a friend or relative and ask if they have time to talk with you. Venting what we're feeling is always good and may even help you get your head back on track.

Your friends or relatives might even have some advice on how to respond to the message

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Step 3. Respond when you are thinking rationally and calmer

It may take a while, but you should only respond to a termination message when you're no longer nervous or letting your emotions get the better of you. If the relationship was short, you might be able to get over what you feel pretty quickly, but if it went on for a long time, you may need to think more to understand what happened.

Responding too quickly can make you say something you'll regret and ruin your chance to build a good relationship with your ex

Method 2 of 4: Responding Politely

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Step 1. Respond by saying you understand

If you were already feeling that the relationship was going to break up, you probably anticipated this breakup message. If you don't feel like you need to talk to your partner about why the relationship ended, you can respond by saying you understand and not asking for an explanation. Try using a short sentence like:

  • I understand.
  • I get it.
  • Understand.
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Step 2. Wish the best if you want to maintain a good relationship

Staying friends with an ex is difficult, but not impossible. You can try to maintain communication with your now ex partner by wishing him well. Send messages like:

  • I'm grateful for everything we've lived through and I wish you all the best.
  • Thanks for talking with me. I sincerely hope that your next relationship works out.
  • I enjoy your company and hope we can remain friends.
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Step 3. Express your anger at getting this message, but remain polite

Getting a “foot in the ass” by message hurts, no matter the situation. You can show that you don't like how things ended, but without being rude or using bad words. See some examples below:

  • I was disappointed by the way you handled this situation, but I respect your decision.
  • It would be better to talk about it another way, but I understand.

Method 3 of 4: Responding Indifferently

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Step 1. Respond with one word just to show you don't care

If you want to make it clear that the breakup did not affect you, please respond with one word. Doing this is pretty much a guarantee that there won't be a second chance for you, so only use this type of response if that's what you really want. Some examples of one-word answers are:

  • OK.
  • Beauty.
  • Is good.
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Step 2. Use a funny goodbye message to show you don't care

If you're cool about the breakup and just want to say goodbye to your ex, send a cute message saying goodbye to make it clear that it's okay for you to end this relationship. You can use this method if you want to end well and be funny at the same time. Try using phrases like:

  • Well, it's my time, bye!
  • Bye, Juvenal.
  • Beauty. Peace!
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Step 3. Don't answer anything to show you don't care

If you want to make it clear that you don't mind, read the message and don't say anything. Only do this if you don't mind severing relationships forever with your ex-partner, as this doesn't create a cycle closure and can upset your ex.

This tactic is often seen as immature, so be careful when using it

Method 4 of 4: Asking for an Explanation

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Step 1. Ask yourselves to meet if you want to talk to your partner

If the breakup message came out of nowhere or you want the person to better explain what happened, ask to meet your ex in person. Terminating by message is considered rude, especially if the date was long, so asking to talk in person is acceptable. Chatting in person can also help you end the cycle of that relationship better than chatting on your cell phone screen.

Answer something like “I wanted to talk about this in person. Can we meet?"

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Step 2. Call the person and ask if they can talk

If you can't meet your partner in person or if he doesn't want to meet you, try calling to talk about ending the relationship. Talking over the phone is better than texting because you can hear the person's voice as they speak and can give you both a chance to end this cycle better than half a dozen text messages.

  • Try asking for an explanation over the phone using phrases such as “I got your message and I wanted to talk to you better about it”.
  • It is usually best to call once. If the person doesn't answer the first call, they probably don't want to talk to you. You can leave a farewell voicemail if you like.
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Step 3. Ask the person to explain what happened by message

If your partner doesn't want to meet you in person or talk on the phone, you can try talking to him about the termination message by message yourself. While not ideal, asking for an explanation or more information per message is better than nothing.

  • Send something like "I think I didn't quite understand what happened. For me it was fine between us. Can you explain better why this is, please?"
  • If the person doesn't respond to what you asked, try to accept it. Don't be insisting if the other doesn't want to explain himself.

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