Every breakup is painful, especially when you leave the process very hurt. And in that case, it's normal to want revenge on your ex-boyfriend. However, revenge is only the best idea in the world in theory, because in practice it can make you feel even worse. If you really want to move on, now learn some simple ways to get even without getting in trouble. In fact, the best revenge is to show your ex that you don't need him. Furthermore, try to deal with your feelings, you will feel much better, after all, this thirst for revenge is a sign that you are suffering.
Method 1 of 3: Paying Change
Step 1. Send him a message for “accident”
Craft a text full of ulterior motives for an imaginary contact and send it to your ex “by accident”. Make him think the queue has already moved. But correct yourself right away, sending another message saying it was an accident. That way he will understand that it no longer means anything to you.
Write something like this: “Thanks for last night. I'm looking forward to the next one.” Right after, fix the “misunderstanding”: “Oops, wrong number. I'm already deleting your contact”
Step 2. Post an embarrassing picture of him on the internet
As it is against the law to publish private photos, choose one where he is in public, experiencing an embarrassing situation. Share it on your own page or ask a friend to do it. If you prefer, print the photo in poster format and paste it in places he frequents (it can even be in his neighborhood).
- For example, the photo might show you with messy hair or doing something very silly.
- Do not post pictures of him unclothed or partially nude.
just make a post, otherwise you will be bullying.
Step 3. Hide one of his belongings when you go to collect yours
Tell him you need to go to his house to pick up something you forgot there while they were dating. Take the opportunity to hide something you know he loves. It could be a television controller, a video game, or a lego piece. He'll go crazy until he finds what he's looking for.
- Do not take anything of it to your house as this is theft.
- Hide the object so as not to damage it. For example, it's okay to stick the remote in one of the sofa's slits. However, it is wrong to hide it behind the bathroom sink, where it will certainly pick up moisture.
- Hide where, at one time or another, the item can be found. For example, put the bottle opener in the wrong closet drawer instead of between the back bars of the refrigerator.
Step 4. Send an anonymous message to your new girlfriend, exposing something compromising about him
It hurts a lot to see the ex-boyfriend with another girl, especially if she was the reason for the breakup. Even so, try not to attack her, as she may not even know of your existence. On the other hand, it's okay to tell her that your ex isn't who she thinks. Send a message via social media, email or even via SMS saying how he behaved with you.
- Create a fake social media profile or use a generic email. If you want to send an SMS, download an app that changes your phone number.
- Say, for example: “I learned that you are dating Leandro. Did you know he had a girlfriend when he started dating you? In addition to cheating on his ex, he lied to her all the time. You have to be careful with this kind of people”.
Step 5. Let him feel the natural consequences of what he did
This is an excellent way to pay back as it requires no effort on your part. Maybe he thinks he was unharmed after he hurt her. However, for every action there is a reaction of equal intensity in the opposite direction. So, sit back and watch the consequences come.
For example, at this point he may be thinking that he came out on top, as he cheated on her and even got a new girlfriend. However, others will soon see that he is not a trustworthy person and that will ruin his reputation. Also, the new dating got off to a bad start, which can lead to trust issues in the future. Think about all this whenever you're feeling bad
Method 2 of 3: Showing You Don't Need It Anymore
Step 1. Go out with friends and have fun
After a breakup it's normal to want to be secluded at home, just crying. Do that, but also get out and have fun. Call your friends to do something and cheer up. Then post the photos on the internet to let everyone know you're happier than ever.
For example, go roller skating, go bowling, attend a stand up, do volunteer work, etc. If you prefer, invite friends to have fun at your house: play karaoke, drink, play some video games, etc
Step 2. Flirt with other guys when he's around
Even if you're not ready for a new relationship yet, it doesn't hurt to flirt a little. Since everyone likes what they can't have, your ex will be so jealous. Give discreet compliments, touch them on the shoulders or arms, and lean in to add more intimacy to the moment.
Say things like, "You are so funny!" and "This shirt makes your chest so healed."
if you suspect your ex still frequents your social networks, post photos with other faces. Even if they are just friends, it will make you jealous that you don't need him anymore.
Step 3. Celebrate everything that is working in your life
Breaking up can lead to deep sadness, so it's important to start thinking positively. To be able to focus only on the good in life, make a list of everything you are grateful for today. Then share your gratitude with the world through posts on social media.
Post, for example: "Very happy to have received another job offer!" or “I'm so grateful to have a best friend, a cute puppy, and a job I love so much!”
Step 4. Produce yourself to feel more powerful
Put on your favorite clothes, do your hair and, if you're used to it, make up. And why not get your nails done and even try a new haircut? When you're done and fabulous, take some photos and share them with the world. If you know that you will have to pass a place where your ex will be, call some friends to accompany you.
Don't overdo the production, you're already amazing
Step 5. Try something new to grow as a person
It's hard to go back to doing activities alone after spending time doing everything as a couple. Use your free time to do something you've always wanted! Start by making a list of activities, hobbies, and interests that are worth a try. Over time, go on crossing out everything you've already done.
For example, try going to a new restaurant, take a painting class, learn to play the guitar or start playing a new sport
Step 6. Don't talk about him anymore, so he'll think he's been outdone
Since he hurt her, the most logical thing would be to tell everyone what kind of guy he is. However, it would demonstrate that you still care about him. Prefer not to mention his name anymore. With that, everyone will think he's a thing of the past.
If you still need to vent about what happened, look for a family member or someone very close. The most important thing is not to go out and tell everyone how you are feeling
Method 3 of 3: Dealing with the thirst for revenge
Step 1. Don't repress emotions
If you're sad, that's fine. If you're looking to get revenge, no problem. Understand that it is not wrong to feel emotions, but also learn that it is necessary to let them go.
Just say to yourself: “I'm very upset with Sergio, because he broke up with me on the eve of Valentine's Day. I thought he liked me, so I want him to go through everything I'm going through too.”
you may feel bad for wanting revenge. But remember it's just fantasy, so there's no reason to feel that way.
Step 2. visualize yourself getting revenge and seeing what happens after that.
Often, fantasizing about revenge is much more satisfying than making it a reality. Imagine doing all sorts of mean things to your ex; evils like: defaming him in cruel graffiti and setting fire to the clothes he likes most. Enjoy the pleasure of watching him suffer and then think about what would happen next.
For example, if your ex cheated on you, imagine yourself in the dead of night, spraying his car with the word “traitor”. Then think of his embarrassment behind the wheel as he drives around town. Then count the consequences of your actions. It is possible that you will be arrested and still have to pay for the damage caused to the car's paintwork
Step 3. Relax with some calming activity
Getting angry at a time like this is normal. So don't make any decisions now. Prefer to do something that leaves you relaxed and in control.
For example, take a yoga class, paint an adult coloring book, take a walk outdoors, call a friend to window shop, or play with your dog
Step 4. Try talking to your ex-boyfriend about what you're feeling
Although you want to never see him again, it may be that opening up to him will help you feel better. If that's the case, invite them to a conversation in person or over the phone. Use first-person phrases to say how his actions affected you.
- Speaking in the first person makes the conversation focus on you and not on blaming you. For example, it's better to say “I get the feeling you don't respect me” rather than “You don't respect me”.
- A good sentence would go like this: “I feel that you betrayed my trust and it hurts me a lot”.
if you don't want to chat, send a message or e-mail explaining how you feel.
Step 5. Feel sorry for him for being such a despicable boyfriend
Of course, right now you hate him with all your strength. However, try to see him as a person who deserves pity – it will make you feel better about everything that has happened. Try to see him as someone problematic and vulnerable, unable to be in a relationship. Finally, understand how sad his situation is.
Say to yourself, “It's really sad to see that he wasn't even able to end one relationship before starting another” or “He must be looking to fill a really big void with two girlfriends. I feel sorry for him."
Be smart! Remember, "The best revenge is a life well lived."
- Revenge can make you feel even worse. It may be better to strive to be happy than to strive to make him suffer.
- Do not expose nudes or sexually suggestive photos of the ex as revenge. In addition to being totally inappropriate, this is a crime.
- Don't break laws just to get your change - scratching cars and ripping clothes is against the law.