Just imagine: you are getting closer and closer to a friend. Suddenly, she starts to blush every time he speaks, and realizes she's ready to take this relationship a step further. What does that mean? Maybe you already like him more than a friend and you want to express yourself, but you're afraid because you don't know if the feeling is reciprocal. Is there any chance? Read the article to find out!
Part 1 of 5: Interpreting What the Guy Says
Step 1. Pay attention to the way the guy talks to you
Body language can reveal a lot of it. Pay attention to the following:
Listen well to the boy's tone of voice
It may not seem important, but it shows if he thinks well before speaking. If you sound cautious and hesitant, for example, you've thought long and hard before opening your mouth. Also, see if he laughs at your unfunny jokes.
See if he makes eye contact
Does he stare at you when they're talking or does he stare at the rest of the room? If you keep in touch, it's because you're very attentive and interested in the conversation. However, it may even be that he avoids your gaze out of shyness.
See if he is easily distracted
If someone approaches you when you're talking to the guy, does he drop your conversation suddenly? If it happens more than once, he may not be interested in your stories.
Step 2. Pay attention to the subjects the young man is talking about
The topic of conversations can indicate how he sees you. Keep an eye out for several signs:
- Jokes: jokes and the like can show that he expects the same reactions from you. If you want to take a chance, flirt a little to warm up the mood.
- Personal information: If you talk about personal problems, it means the guy trusts you. More sensitive issues, such as fears and family issues, may also indicate that he wants to take the relationship to the next level.
- Compliments: If the guy makes comments about your intelligence, appearance, etc., he may have admiration for you. If this happens frequently, it is because you are interested.
- Your manners: maybe the boy will be better behaved when he's with you. It may be, for example, that he is even vulgar with his friends, but try to be more refined and polite in his company. This indicates a lot of attention to the nuances of coexistence.
- Discussions about past relationships: it may be that the boy will end up talking about this subject. This indicates that he's subtly trying to figure out whether you're single or in love with someone.
If he always tries to introduce you to a friend, he might just want friendship
Step 3. See if the boy comments on other girls
This kind of thing can make a difference for you to find out if he is interested or not. If the boy always asks for tips and loving advice, maybe he just wants your opinion as a friend. However, perhaps he is collecting information about your ideal type of boyfriend.
Think of the boy's past relationships. If he is in the habit of dating a lot of girls in a short time, he may not want anything too serious or is trying to make you jealous
Step 4. See what it looks like when you're apart
Some shy guys are able to express what they feel best over the phone. Pay attention to ways of communicating with him in the following methods:
- Phone calls: A guy's voice can reveal a lot about how he feels. If you sound nervous, stutter or hesitate, you may be interested, as well as if your conversations are long. However, if he doesn't return your calls or always gives you a reason to hang up, you might not want anything serious.
- E-mail: few people use this type of service to deal with such personal matters. Still, if the guy writes following the grammatical rules of the language, for example, he might be trying to show that he is smart and wants to impress you.
- Text messaging: If you keep in touch outside of school/college or work, maybe he wants something more. Instead of just using these features for formal matters, the guy might send you a joke or start a conversation with you. If this happens a lot, it may be the end of a relationship.
- Facebook: does he "like" all your photos and posts? Maybe he's interested in you.
- Be on your toes with all these clues. Some guys don't like using features like phone, email or Facebook. It may be that he prefers his personal relationships - which is not wrong!
Part 2 of 5: Interpreting what the boy does
Step 1. Pay attention to the boy's body language
She can tell you a lot about his intentions. Pay particular attention to the following:
- Accidental Touches: When he tries to cross the physical barrier between you, he may want more contact. Gestures like subtle bumping and touching of hands can become more intense as the friendship progresses.
- Looks: the boy can show the admiration he feels for you through his eyes. If you notice something, but he smiles and turns his face away, it's because he knows the effect it has.
- Body angles: See if the boy's body is "open" towards you while talking. If so, it's because he's interested in what you have to say. He might even get closer. However, this method does not apply to everyone; some boys are only in the habit of positioning themselves in certain ways.
Step 2. Think about what the guy does for you
Does he do his best to be a good friend? Maybe he's trying to get your attention and win your heart. Keep an eye out for these signs to see when they break through the barriers of simple friendship:
- He always does favors for you: these favors can be varied, such as rides (if he drives and has a wallet, of course), invitations to lunch, etc. It could be that he is "training" to be your boyfriend.
- He shows how thoughtful he is: if he always buys his favorite dessert at the bakery or goes after his favorite book at the local bookstore, it's because he's keeping an eye on your needs.
- He comforts you: not every guy comforts girls who are hurt. Maybe he's willing to listen to your problems and vent.
Step 3. See how the boy acts around other girls
That can say a lot about how he feels about you. Keep an eye on the following aspects to get a better idea:
- He treats you differently than other girls: he can be kind to everyone, but maybe he only wants your company when they're in groups. Maybe you're the only girl he hugs and plays games with. If so, it is because there is interest.
Still, if he plays with or touches every girl he meets, it might just be silly
- He shows all the relationships in his face: if the guy likes hanging out with you and the girl he's hooking up with, maybe he just wants your friendship.
However, if he just wants you to give your opinion about this girl, he might know that you are right for each other. If he hesitates to hang out with other girls, it may be that you are already interested and feel that it would be disloyal of him
Step 4. See if the guy does his best to stay close to you
This is a sure sign that he has a bigger interest. Keep an eye on the following:
- He always asks you out: this is an obvious sign that the guy likes your company, as well as giving him the chance to get closer and closer to you.
- He tries to be by your side when they are in groups: if the boy always wants to partner with you in school/college work, for example, it is because he likes your company.
- He always says he's "around" your house and asks if he can pay you a visit: if the guy makes excuses to meet you, he may be ashamed of how interested he is.
Part 3 of 5: Paying Attention to How and How Often You Spend Time Together
Step 1. Pay attention to the activities you do together
Do you do typical couples or friends things? Think about when they meet to understand the boy's intentions a little better. For example:
- Do you do typical couples things, even though you're not one? Go shopping, prepare dinners or the like? If so, he may already be imagining a relationship.
- When you're together, is there anyone else around? This can indicate if he wants more than your friendship.
- If the boy invites other close friends to go out with you, he might not want anything more than friendship. Still, pay attention: if he only invites couples, he might be interested.
- If the boy invites siblings or best friends-or if it gets more intense and you even end up meeting his parents-then you can be sure he wants something serious.
Step 2. Pay attention to how often you meet
You can find out a lot about the boy's intentions by thinking about the frequency and duration of their engagements together.
- Analyze the frequency. If you see each other almost every day, maybe the boy wants to spend his evenings with you too. However, if they only see each other once a month, despite living close to each other, he may not want anything else.
- Analyze the duration of your meetings. Do your brief meetings turn into philosophical discussions for hours on end, or does he finish talking as soon as you ask for the check at the restaurant or bar? If the boy can't stop talking, it's because he's more interested.
Part 4 of 5: Analyzing When and Where You Get Together
Step 1. Pay attention to where they are
One of the easiest ways to determine if a guy wants more than your friendship is to keep an eye on the places you visit together. Pay attention to the following:
- If you go out to eat, keep an eye on the type of restaurant. If you go to a bar where there is a lot of movement, maybe he wants more than your friendship. But if you go to a quieter, candlelit restaurant, you can be sure. Still, if he sits next to you on break from class, it doesn't necessarily mean there are ulterior motives.
- See the other people in the restaurant. Are there many couples or are they more friends who are having fun? This can say a lot about the boy's intentions.
- Don't get paranoid. Maybe he really likes you, but he also enjoys a nice barbecue. The location may be a good clue, but it's not certain.
- When the guy invites you to the cinema, what kind of movie will they see? Romantic comedy? Dramas? War movies? Documentaries? The choice of gender and his behavior in the exhibition room (if he puts his arm in his chair, for example) are good indicators.
- When you go to a show, is it something more relaxed, like a jazz performance, or something more upbeat, like a deafening death metal band? Do you stand up or can you sit down and enjoy the occasion as a couple?
Step 2. The timing of your meeting can be just as important as the location
This can give you clues as to whether the guy sees you as a friend for his spare time or with a suitor. Pay attention to two specific details:
- Do you meet during the day or at night? There is a big difference between meeting for lunch (or a coffee) and dinner (or a happy hour with drinks). If they see each other more during the day, it's because there shouldn't be any feelings in between - but that doesn't mean the boy doesn't want anything.
- Do you meet during the week or on the weekend? If you see each other on Mondays instead of Fridays, it may be that there are no loving intentions in the middle.
Part 5 of 5: Finding out if the guy really likes you
Step 1. Ask people you know
This is a simple way to find out what the guy is feeling. Still, of course you should be careful that he doesn't find out. Do the following:
- Speak casually to the boy's friends. Ask if he is dating or in love with someone. Only choose a reliable source - it's hard for a man to keep a secret from his friends.
- Ask what your friends think. They've certainly seen you together, and they can be honest about the situation.
- Ask your friends to ask him. Once again: be careful and only use them if they are not going to get too in your face. This friend may pretend to want to introduce the boy to someone, for example.
Step 2. Don't stalk or meddle in the boy's life
Nothing turns a man off more than an obsessed woman trying to figure out every detail of her life. Avoid these items at any cost:
- Eavesdrop on the guy's cell phone: If the guy forgets his unlocked phone, don't pick it up to see if he's texting another girl. If he comes and sees this scene, he's going to be deeply irritated.
- Eavesdrop on your email and Facebook messages: if the guy leaves the computer open for a moment, avoid catching him.
- Following the guy to see who he's seeing: this can make him even angrier - and even provoke legal action against you.
Step 3. Be brave and tell the boy how you feel
In the end, things may never go a step further if you don't take action. If you're sure he's interested or you don't think you have anything to lose, take the initiative and open the game.
- Be calm and don't take things too seriously. Don't set aside a place and a time just to say "I need to say something important"; just find the ideal moment to say you're in the mood and that you want to know if he is too. Don't make a storm in a teacup, or he'll be sorry if he doesn't feel the same.
- Be creative. Find a creative way to say how you feel: send the guy a note, a card, a riddle, and so on. Think outside the box, but don't overdo it, to impress him.
Step 4. Don't be disappointed if he doesn't feel the same way you do
In the end, you may not be right for each other. If you want to keep the friendship, remember this:
- Don't be disappointed if he doesn't like you, or you'll both get hurt. Better let it go.
- Remember what a good friend he is and how lucky you are to have him around. Maybe you missed the chance to have something loving with the guy, but you still have a great partner.
- Understand when it's best to step back. If your crush turns to love, it might be better to take a break from friendship to regain your heart. If you can, go after him - but nothing is worse than torturing yourself to hang out with someone who doesn't have the same feelings as you.
- Be genuine! If the guy doesn't like you like that, it's because it's not worth it.
- Some men lose interest when a woman doesn't show attraction. Thus, it costs nothing to send some signals, especially if the boy is shy.
- If you want to get the guy's attention, don't be too obvious or brazen. He'll think you're out of your mind and walk away.
- Ask if he likes anyone in the room. Maybe he blushes and looks down. If so, you may be trying to come up with a lie or excuse.
- Don't start behaving like a man around the guy, or he'll see you as another one of his friends.
- Appearance makes all the difference! Always walk with fresh breath and use a fragrant perfume. Just don't overdo it! Also, pay attention to these details in the boy.
- Your behavior is just as important as your confidence. Be upbeat and happy and try to tuck your hair behind your ear when talking to him to make him more interested.
- Don't laugh so much when you're with your friends and the guy walks by. Many men get paranoid when women are talking - and that's not good!
- Tell the boy the truth, but don't chase him if he doesn't feel the same.
- Don't force the guy to like you; try to find natural signs of this feeling. If so, remember also not to throw this in single people's faces.
- Don't be intimidating or so dependent on the guy. Maybe he's not ready for that.
- It could be that the boy is the kind of man who always hangs out with girls. Even though he displays many of the signs of affection, he might just want your friendship. Find out more about him and see if that's right.