In a relationship, we always want the person to feel good about themselves and also in our company. For this you must treat your boyfriend with respect and consideration. Start by talking to him to see if he has any ideas on how you can be a better partner. Then use your words and efforts to help him feel more wanted and supported in the relationship.
Method 1 of 3: Being Attentive to Your Boyfriend
Step 1. Ask your boyfriend for suggestions
To learn how to be a better girlfriend, go straight to the source: your boyfriend. Ask him what you can do to be a better partner.
- If you want, you can say something like “Hey, I want to be a better person for you. Do you have any suggestions on how I can do this?”
- Write down what he says and try to make changes as needed. Make changes that are realistic for you - you can't become a different person just because he wants to.
Step 2. Listen actively
Everyone wants to be heard, so practice active listening when your boyfriend is talking. Focus on his words instead of thinking about what you're going to answer.
- Let him finish speaking and then paraphrase what was said in a different way.
- Improving your listening skills is already a way to be a better partner. But knowing how to listen will also help you understand how he wants to be treated.
Step 3. Consider his feelings
It's okay to think of yourself first, but try to take your boyfriend's feelings into account, especially in certain situations. Try to put yourself in his shoes so that you will be able to understand him better and respond accordingly.
- For example, if he is upset that he got a bad grade on a test, imagine how you would feel if you were in his shoes. What would you like him to do?
- Good partners are considerate of the feelings of the people they love, which has to do with practicing your empathy.
Step 4. Establish a pattern for giving and requesting space
Being together with the person 24 hours a day, seven days a week is neither realistic nor healthy for a relationship. Allow your boyfriend time to himself (and vice versa).
- Decide how to give and have space beforehand so that neither of you is hurt by the other's need to be alone. Saying something like “I think I'm going to take some time today to be alone” or “I need a moment to be alone with my thoughts” should be enough.
- In addition to having a few moments to yourself, also establish a routine so that you both have time to pursue your personal interests and also spend time with friends and family.
- Don't feel bad about being away from your boyfriend. Healthy relationships always have a little distance.
Step 5. Take care of yourself
Practice self-care to have more to offer. Eat well, exercise, rest well, and have time to yourself every week.
By taking good care of yourself, you can become a better partner
Method 2 of 3: Offering Words of Affirmation
Step 1. Praise your boyfriend regularly
Tell your boyfriend what you like best about him. Praise does two things: it helps you feel better about yourself and it also reinforces positive behaviors.
- Choose different areas to focus on whenever you compliment him - his appearance, his ideas, the way he treats other people, and so on.
- Your compliments must always be sincere. Don't go overboard and say things you don't think are true.
Step 2. Talk well about him in front of others
In addition to praising him directly, praise him to others. Tell your sister about how he helped you study and pass your exam, or tell your best friend how beautiful he is.
Hearing these positive words, either directly or to others, will make your boyfriend feel better about himself and your relationship
Step 3. Support his goals
Does your boyfriend know you're his number one fan? Show him by supporting everything he seeks. Say that one day he will be a great doctor or watch his band perform.
Step 4. Truly value it
A simple “thank you” is often overlooked in relationships, so show your boyfriend that you value what he does. Say "thank you for helping me carry the boxes, love" or "I'm so grateful that I can always count on you."
Step 5. Tell him how much you care
Demonstrate often and never simply assume your boyfriend knows; talk to him.
Say “I don't know what I would do without you” or “I love you so much” (if true)
Method 3 of 3: Strengthening the relationship
Step 1. Show interest in his passions
Get closer to your boyfriend through his interests. For example, if he loves a certain television show, watch some episodes with him. If he likes a certain musician, buy tickets for you to see a performance.
It's okay to have different interests, as long as you are at least a little interested in what he likes. This will help you get closer
Step 2. Prioritize your time with him
Dedication and time are essential in a relationship, so always try to have a moment to get along with him. While it's perfectly healthy to have time just for yourself or for other people, your boyfriend can't feel left out.
Each week, compare both schedules and set a time just for the two of them
Step 3. Reveal your confidences
Your boyfriend will feel important if you share your thoughts, feelings, ideas and experiences with him. Furthermore, your relationship will be strengthened.
- Talk about your fear of not getting the job you want or how frustrated you are with your relationship with your father.
- Chances are, your boyfriend will reveal some things to you too.
- Reveal things according to the length of the relationship. Start with some facts and talk more slowly.
Step 4. Demonstrate reliability
Relationships depend entirely on trust. Show your boyfriend that you are trustworthy by keeping his secrets, honoring his word, and being a trusted partner.