Falling in love is something mysterious and can happen without even people understanding why. However, there are some things you can do to increase the chances that someone will fall in love with you. Simple things like exchanging glances, accepting favors and smiling more can increase your chances of being liked by your "suspect". With that goal in mind, this can be a good time to do things like take care of yourself and reflect on what you're really looking for in a partner.
Method 1 of 3: Getting someone's attention
Step 1. Exchange looks with the suitor
Before you can make someone fall in love with you, you need to let them know that you exist and that you are interested in them. Making eye contact is a simple and effective way to show interest: research shows that prolonged eye contact can increase attraction between two people. So use eye contact to flirt with someone you find interesting and to get their attention.
Try to stare into the person's eyes for a few minutes and then slowly look away. If that still doesn't seem appropriate, try looking at the person often, but with quick swipes
Step 2. Stand still or sit in a way that “mirrors” the suitor's body position
Reflecting body position also indicates interest in someone and gives them an opportunity to do the same. For example, if the person leans towards you with one arm resting on the table, you can lean with the opposite arm and so look like a mirror image.
Be careful not to do this movement too often or make it very explicit that you are trying to mimic his/her body movements. You might even end up doing these moves naturally, which is even better as it will feel more natural
Step 3. Smile and be nice
Smiling is an easy way to show interest in someone. Also, smiling makes you look more attractive. Try to smile at the suitor from time to time to show interest.
Try to wear a relaxed, natural smile. Don't force or smile in a way you're not used to
Step 4. Find out if the person is interested in you
When showing interest in someone, look for signs that they are interested too. If you notice that the person is also smiling, making eye contact, and staring at you as they speak, then that could be a good sign. Look for other positive signs in body language, such as touching your hair, touching your arm, or "playing" with your clothes.
If the person doesn't seem interested in you, don't take it personally or get discouraged. Keep looking
Step 5. Ask her out
If the person seems interested, ask if they would like to go out with you. This might sound a little scary, but if you don't you may never know if she's interested or not. Take a deep breath and then make your interest in going out with her clear someday.
Try a more casual approach if you're nervous. Say something like "What are you doing this weekend?" If the answer is something vague like "I was thinking about going to the beach on Saturday," take advantage of that. Say something like "That's nice. Maybe later, when you get back, we can have something to eat together."
Method 2 of 3: Increasing the Chances that Someone Will Fall in Love
Step 1. Let the person do nice things for you
Doing kind things for someone makes a more positive impression on those who do it than on those who benefit from kind attitudes. For example, if you buy someone coffee, you will have more positive feelings for that person than they will for you. That way, let the suitor do nice things for you to increase the affection he feels. Just be careful not to take advantage of the person's goodwill and remember to return favors from time to time.
For example, you can let the person open the door for you and give you gifts without having to reciprocate. You can also ask for favors, such as asking for a ride or help with a problem
Step 2. Take the person on exciting dates
Research shows that it's possible to look more attractive after putting yourself in scary situations. Use this strategy to your advantage and plan an exciting date with the person you want to impress. Keep in mind that this strategy may not work if the person doesn't like these types of activities.
For example, you can see a horror or action movie, spend the day together at an amusement park, or bungee jumping. Respect the other person's fears and don't try to force them to do something they're not comfortable with
Step 3. Consider playing hard to get
Some research shows that people tend to find another person desirable if they have to work hard to spend time with them. Try to spend quality time with the suitor while they're still getting to know each other, then tell them you're unavailable for a few days. Also try to act absentmindedly on one of the dates, which can increase the other person's desire for you.
Keep in mind that this strategy can have the opposite effect if you don't know the person well. This approach is best used with someone you already know relatively well and who likes you
Step 4. Reduce lights or go out more at night
A low-light environment can increase the chances of someone falling in love with you (according to research, dilated pupils make people look more attractive). Our pupils react to the things we're interested in, which can be a good indicator of how much your suitor likes you.
Invite the suitor for an evening stroll or choose a dimly lit or candlelit restaurant
Step 5. Propose to answer the “36 Love Questions” with the suitor
If the person you're dating is interested in you, try answering "Arthur Aron's intimacy enhancement questions." These questions led to the formation of couples and even a feeling of intimacy between people who were complete strangers not long ago. It is important that the other person also wants to do this activity with you. Don't deceive or force anything.
Say something like "The other day I read a funny article about some '36 questions' that make two people fall in love. Do you want to answer them with me just for fun?"
Method 3 of 3: Finding the Right Person
Step 1. Find out who you are and what you want
Before finding someone who will meet your needs, you need to know yourself very well. Take the time to take stock of your core values and discover your emotional needs. Write them down on a piece of paper for you to refer to as you look for your future partner. Some good questions might be:
- What is most important to you: Family? Career? Hobbies? Friends? Honesty? Loyalty? Or something else? List your values and arrange them in order of importance.
- What do you want from a partner? Understanding? Sense of humor? Kindness? Strength? Incentive? Make a list in order of importance of the things you want your future partner to provide.
Step 2. Identify the characteristics you want in a future partner
Before you go looking for someone to fall in love, think about what you are really looking for. Before embarking on the search for love, make a list of all the qualities you would like your future partner to possess.
What characteristics do you want your future partner to have? Do you want someone who likes to read? Of Cook? Someone who is close to the family? Someone with a sense of humor? Or someone who treats you like a king/queen?
Step 3. Find someone who shares your interests
People fall more in love with people who have common interests, so consider looking for your partner in a club or group you are a part of. Even if you are physically attracted to someone, the relationship may not work if you don't have much in common.
- For example, if you volunteer at a local hospital, try to get to know other fellow volunteers. If you like to exercise, try talking to people who frequent your gym.
- Also consider social networking sites. These sites can put you in contact with people who share the same interests as you, making it easy to interact from the first meeting.