You've been interested in a guy for a while, but you're not sure if he likes you or not? There are three great ways to tell if he's interested: body language, eye contact, and consistent attention. Of course, you can also just ask him, but that can be scary. Pay attention to a few signs before you start acting on your feelings for him to make sure the feeling is mutual. If he doesn't show these signs, he probably isn't interested in you.
Method 1 of 4: Reading Body Language
Step 1. Interact with him
Start a conversation with the boy and pay attention to how he interacts with you. If he's an outgoing person and likes you, he'll touch you in a friendly way when you're talking. An occasional tap on the shoulder or taking you by the hand to show something are two signs that he's interested. If he's shy, he won't be that brazen. In that case, he might blush or stare when you're talking.
Step 2. Watch his smile
A sincere smile exceeds the normal width of the mouth. If the boy smiles like that, you've affected him in a positive way. If his teeth are showing, he's probably forcing a smile. That means he's interacting with you, but not interested.
Step 3. Observe his posture
If the boy is talking to you and trying to impress you, he will use his muscles to try to show off his body more to the advantage. Hands placed on your hips usually indicate confidence. If the boy is interested, he will stand right in front of you to show your full attention, allowing him to lean towards you to get closer to you. If he's not interested, his shoulders will be away from you.
Method 2 of 4: Observing How He Looks At You
Step 1. See if the boy makes eye contact
In addition to seeing if he makes eye contact with you, notice his pupils. If he's looking at you while he's talking, great! If his pupils are bigger than normal, so much the better! Pupil dilation is a brain reaction that occurs when one person is attracted to another. If eye contact is unstable, he's likely to want to end the conversation and leave.
Excessive blinking is another indication that a person is attracted to you. Some people blink more when they are emotionally excited
Step 2. Look at his eyebrows
If the boy's eyebrows are slightly raised, it means he finds you fascinating. This is a subconscious expression that occurs when a man likes what he is seeing.
Step 3. Notice if it looks at places close to where you are
The boy may not always keep eye contact when he's talking to you, but that doesn't mean he's not interested. If he's looking away too much, see where he's looking. If he's looking at you, he's obviously interested. If he's looking behind you, it's not a good sign (shows he's in a hurry to end the conversation).
Method 3 of 4: Getting Attention
Step 1. Introduce yourself to his friends
When doing this, stay in the presence of his friends for a while and see how the boy reacts. If he's really excited around his friends, chances are he's trying to get your attention. That means he's interested. If he is quiet or awkward, he may be uncomfortable with the situation because he is not interested in you and not comfortable with your presence with his friends.
Step 2. Chat on the phone
Notice how often he calls or texts you when you're not together. If he just calls to ask for favors, he probably only sees you as a friend. If he calls to see how you are and to make small talk, he's interested.
Step 3. Watch how he talks to you
Is he always on the phone? Does he appear to be dispersed and ready to end the conversation? In either case, he's not interested. If he's really interested, he'll give you your full attention for as long as he can.
Method 4 of 4: Being Direct
Step 1. Find out what he likes
Ask the boy directly what he is looking for in a girl. This will give you a better idea of what things he's attracted to and what he's not (see whether or not you have those qualities). Ask him what he likes and dislikes. Talk casually and ask him what he finds most pleasant and unpleasant about a woman.
Step 2. Ask what he thinks of you
If the boy says that he is “not sure how he feels”, that is not a good sign. He probably knows how you feel, but he doesn't know how you'll react if he tells you the truth. If she compliments your personality, ask if he finds you attractive.
Step 3. Talk to him alone
Talk about what you mean to each other. Don't talk about it in front of other people. He may be embarrassed or uncomfortable and may not give accurate answers to avoid an awkward situation.
- Don't get caught up in the "types". If you hear that he's into a specific type of girl, there's still a chance. You can be the exception.
- If he's not interested, go ahead. You can't get him interested in you.