It's not in your control to make a person like you or not, but you can have a positive influence on the decision. Increase your chances of making someone like you-whether it's a friend or romantic interest-by smiling and looking excited when she's around. It's also a good idea to find out her interests so you can talk. Above all, be yourself. If she doesn't like you that way, then she's not worth it.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Looking More Attractive and Affordable
Step 1. Take care of hygiene
Before meeting someone, take care of your appearance: take a shower, comb your hair, brush your teeth and floss, apply deodorant, and put on clean clothes. If you want, chew some mint gum and apply some cologne or perfume.
Looking good, you'll feel great and look more confident and pleasant
Step 2. Smile
A real smile conveys excitement and interest, so show off your gleaming teeth when you see someone you like. It will make you look more attractive and pleasing too.
Step 3. Show good posture and open body language
The way you behave can make you appear more confident and encourage others to come closer. Sit straight, put your shoulders back, and lift your chin. Uncross your arms and legs, make eye contact, and turn to face the person.
- You can also pose to look more confident in the eyes of other people. Place your hands on your hips or bend your arms behind your head to form an inverted triangle.
- Whichever pose you choose, keep your posture relaxed, not forced. Forced body language makes people think you're trying to show off. It might be helpful to practice your poses so that they look open and confident.
Step 4. Remember the name and some aspect of the person
Remembering and using a person's name makes them feel special, so use it during a conversation. To show that you like a person (and make them like you) use some information you know about them.
- For example, say “Hey Julia! How was the test?”, in case she mentioned the last time you talked that she needed to study.
- Resist the temptation to stalk the person online to learn more about them. If you start talking about an interest she hasn't mentioned yet, things can get awkward. It may also imply that you have an unhealthy interest in her.
Step 5. Respect others' boundaries and personal space
To increase the chances of someone liking you, avoid causing awkwardness or discomfort. Recognize the person's space and stand an arm's length away when they're talking. Also, do not meddle in personal matters or talk about sensitive matters.
- Once you're sure the person likes you, move a little closer during the conversation.
- Also, when you get to know him better, she may feel more comfortable talking about personal matters.
- Respect the limits when it comes to social media. Don't be sending too many messages or posting on the person's profile. Don't go beyond what your current relationship with her allows. She may end up seeing your advances as unnecessary and invasive.
Method 2 of 3: Showing Your Interest
Step 1. Get her to talk about hobbies and interests
If you both share some common interests, use them to continue the conversation. If not, ask some open-ended questions to learn more about the person's preferences.
- For example, you might ask "What are you doing here at the lecture?" or “What kind of music do you like?”.
- Open-ended questions require more developed answers and keep the conversation going.
Step 2. Make a thoughtful gesture
Do something for the person without them having to ask. However, be careful not to act inappropriately. Choose something any friend of hers could do or whatever is appropriate for your relationship.
For example, if she misses class, ask her if she wants to use her notes. If she's sick, bring some soup
Step 3. Listen carefully
People like to talk about themselves, so let her talk. Look at her and listen without interruption.
- Pause, paraphrase what was said to show that you understand what she said. This will show that she really heard what was said and she can use that moment to clarify anything that was not clear as well.
- Listen with your whole body. Make eye contact with the other person, lean forward slightly, and nod your head to show you understand.
- Keep in mind that if you spend too much time talking about yourself, you won't know much about the person and they may think you're not interested. Let her talk most of the time.
Step 4. Give a compliment
Praise makes people feel special, but it also makes her like you more. Make a comment about her appearance, a particular skill, or a comment about something interesting she said. Try not to focus on just one area, such as appearance.
Say “Cool t-shirt! I'm also a huge Harry Potter fan!” or, "Wow, this is a great idea."
Step 5. Make her laugh
People like to have fun, so make a witty comment or tell a joke. Laughing will help strengthen your relationship. As a result, she will have a better impression of you.
Do a little dance to show you're happy, play some light joke with the person, or send them a funny meme. Making her laugh is sure to make her like you even more
Step 6. Ask for help or advice
Naturally, people are attracted to those who accept their help and are willing to learn. Also, when you ask for help or advice, she will feel more connected to you, as people only offer help to those they care about in some way.
You can say “Hey, you told me you understand computers. Mine is crashing a lot. Do you mind taking a look at it?”
Step 7. Do yourself a favor
The same logic that guarantees that the person will like you more if you ask them for a favor works the other way around as well. Helping the person in any way will make them like you even more.
If the person always forgets to bring a pencil, lend them one. If she needs someone to look after her pet dog over the weekend, offer to look after him
Step 8. Prioritize your time with her
We usually want to spend our time with those we care about, so show the person that you enjoy their company. When you leave, show that you had fun and want to see her again.
It also means keeping your promises and being there. If it says you're going out on Tuesday, don't uncheck it to go out with someone else
Method 3 of 3: Being Yourself
Step 1. Let your flaws and oddities show through
Maybe you think it's a good idea to look cool in front of a person. In fact, we all have flaws and she'll probably feel more comfortable around you if you don't hide yours. Sing a song off-key without feeling embarrassed, confess that you still watch your favorite childhood cartoons, or admit that you love fries and ice cream.
Sharing silly things like that, which define who you are, will draw you closer to the other person. Also, revealing information creates more closeness in the relationship, as you probably don't share it with everyone
Step 2. Communicate with honesty as well as common sense
Most people like someone who gets straight to the point. Lying or masking the truth can make you look like you can't be trusted, so try to be honest. However, always use common sense when speaking.
For example, if she asks if you like her favorite movie, say “It's not my favorite, but I like the protagonist's personality. I understand why you like him… He's hilarious!”. Don't say “Wow, no! I hate this movie!”
Step 3. Be firm about your values and beliefs
One of the things that makes you stand out from the rest is your principles and beliefs. These things are a fundamental part of who you are, so it's important to be yourself, even if some people don't like it.
Being firm about one's beliefs takes courage. It's not easy being the person who takes a stand against a bully or refuses to participate in an offensive or dangerous prank. Being true to yourself can make you unpopular with some people, but it can also attract those who share your interests
Step 4. Respect yourself
Having self love means loving yourself independent of anything. When communicating with other people, avoid comparing or belittling yourself in any way.
- Keep your good points in mind when listing them for yourself. You can say “I'm a great listener” or “I can make people laugh”.
- Respect for yourself also means not accepting things that go against your beliefs and values.
- Having self love is essential to earning other people's respect. It will be difficult to get people to treat you well if you can't do it yourself.