3 Ways to Flirt with a Girl

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3 Ways to Flirt with a Girl
3 Ways to Flirt with a Girl

The key to flirting with a girl is letting her know you're interested without being too over the top. You must learn how to be playful and charming, and how to avoid hitting on her directly. If you want to know how to flirt with a girl from the moment you make eye contact, simply follow these simple steps.


Method 1 of 3: Let Her Know You're Interested

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Step 1. Use positive body language

Your body can tell a girl you're interested before saying a single word, and it can help you be a better flirt during conversation. There are just a few tricks you need to know to show the girl you're interested through your body language.

  • Maintain eye contact. Look directly into the girl's eyes when you're talking, and don't check the phone or look around to see what your friends are up to. You should show that you're paying her your full attention, but take a sideways look every now and then so it doesn't get too intense.
  • Keep your arms by your side, or use them to gesture. Don't cross your arms, or you will look very closed.
  • Lean towards her when speaking. It doesn't matter if you're sitting or standing, lean in a little to get closer to her. Just don't stay too short a distance, or you'll be one of those people who talk too closely and it may seem like an insistence.
  • Do not forget to smile. Let her see you smiling at her every now and then, even if you're not saying anything. It's easier to flirt when you maintain a positive vibe.
  • Don't be bent over. Stay straight and you'll look more confident.
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Step 2. Master the art of subtlety

Subtlety is essential to being a good flirt. You need to know the difference between saying you're interested and implying you're interested. Saying you are interested is very obvious, and leaves nothing to the imagination. Being subtle and implying that you are interested will intrigue the girl, and the conversation will continue.

  • Find subtle ways to compliment the girl. Instead of saying you loved her outfit, say "You must have been picking her outfit for hours."
  • Find subtle ways to show that you would like to spend more time with her. If she says she loves swimming, don't say you'd love to see her in a bikini. Instead, say “I love girls who swim. Especially in summer”.
  • Find subtle ways to let her know she is special. Instead of saying "You look hot", say "A girl like you shouldn't have any problem finding a boyfriend".
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Step 3. Ask her about herself

You don't need to do an interrogation to show that you really want to meet her. Finding a way to ask questions about her interests or her background is a great way to flirt and show that you are interested. Here are some things you might ask:

  • While you're playing with her, ask her what she likes to do for fun. This will show that you want to meet her.
  • If her siblings come up on the subject, ask her if she has any. Girls love to talk about their siblings.
  • Ask if she has pets. If she does, ask her if she likes cuddling with them.
  • Ask her opinion about something silly or small. Say something that will make her laugh, like "What do you think of men who wear pink?"
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Step 4. Tease it

Once you're comfortable with the girl, you can start teasing her a little bit. You can have instant chemistry and feel comfortable teasing her within the first minute of the conversation, or it may take longer before you guys manage to get into teasing-mode. When it feels right, don't be afraid to show your playful side by teasing the girl you're flirting with.

  • Tease her with her interests. If she says she likes reality shows, ask her if she'd rather be at home watching The Bachelor.
  • Tease her about her appearance. Do this in a courteous way. If she's wearing jewelry that's obviously fake, ask if it's real gold.
  • Tease her with her laugh. If she has a really cute laugh, ask her if she hangs out with funny people like you just so she can laugh more often.

Method 2 of 3: Enchant Her

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Step 1. Impress her with your intelligence

If you can prove you're smart and capable of quick answers and fun chats, the girl will be impressed by your flirtatious style. Show her that you know how to take the initiative by knowing how to make smart comments at the right time. Here are some great ways to impress the girl with your smarts:

  • Show that you can keep up with the game. If she makes a snarky or smart comment about you, make another one in return.
  • Be original. One side of being smart is finding a new way of thinking about old issues. Don't tell her something any guy would say.
  • Understand your audience. If the girl is really smart and smart, you can make a sophisticated reference in an unusual way. But if she doesn't seem so wise, don't try to impress her with your knowledge, or she won't understand.
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Step 2. Show your sense of humor

Boys who are really funny are hard to find, so you should stand out by showing your funny side. There are a few ways you can use your humor to flirt and get close to the girl.

  • Know the right time. Know when to make the jokes so you don't interrupt the girl or lose the flow of the conversation.
  • If she says something funny, never say "How hilarious". Instead, tap into her sense of humor with your own funny comment.
  • Do not exaggerate. If you try too hard to be fun, the girl will notice.
  • Learn to make fun of yourself. Girls like guys who are comfortable enough to know that they aren't imperfect, and that they don't take life too seriously.
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Step 3. Be confident, not arrogant

Being confident is key to being able to charm a girl and flirt with her from the moment you open your mouth. If you are confident and comfortable with who you are and what you do, flirting with her will be much easier.

  • Be positive. Talk about the things you like – your job, your interests, or your friends. If you are negative about everything, you will appear unhappy with who you are.
  • Don't be self-deprecating. Making fun of yourself is different from calling yourself a loser or saying you'll never be able to get a job.
  • Talk about something you're good at, whether it's sailing or learning new languages. You don't need to brag to show that you are a capable and interesting person.
  • Don't act like you're so good she's lucky to spend a minute with you. This is not charming. Keep everything on the same level. You two must feel lucky to be talking to each other.

Method 3 of 3: Know What Not to Do

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Step 1. Don't be too direct

If you're too direct about your intentions, your target will become disenchanted before you can say "You're so hot." While subtle compliments are essential, you should avoid being too aggressive, making too many sexual comments, or simply being too exaggerated. This will move you from “flirting with her” to “flirting with her”.

  • Don't be too aggressive. If you say “Hey, wanna be with me?”, she will leave. Instead, say "I like your lip gloss".
  • Don't make very sexual comments. Don't say “You have nice tits”, or she will spit the drink in your face. Instead, tell her she looks pretty wearing this outfit.
  • Don't give her your full attention. You shouldn't spend all night talking to her and ignoring other people, or it can get too intense.
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Step 2. Don't be too subtle

While subtlety is key, it's not so subtle that the girl doesn't even know you're interested. To continue flirting, you must find ways to let the girl know you care, whether they are big or small. If you try too hard to be subtle, you'll seem indifferent, and she might think you're not worth it.

  • Give at least some hints that you are interested. If there's not even proof that you're interested in her, she won't think you like her.
  • Make it clear that she is not just a friend. Praise her appearance, let her know she is special, or simply treat the conversation as if it were the preamble to a date. If you don't let her know she's special, the girl will think you like her only as a friend.
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Step 3. Don't forget to connect

Flirting is key when talking to a new girl you like, but you shouldn't flirt 100% of the time or you won't be able to get close to her. Remember to stop and ask a few questions about her and get into a variety of topics. If your conversation is nothing more than flirting, you won't be able to get out of it.

  • You can flirt and keep the conversation flowing. You can still be playful and fun while asking her some genuine questions.
  • Let her know at least a little bit about you when the conversation is over. She should leave knowing at least something about you so that she feels like the two of you have really connected. You should learn a few things about her too.

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