How to Chat with Girls Online: 13 Steps

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How to Chat with Girls Online: 13 Steps
How to Chat with Girls Online: 13 Steps

Chatting with girls over the Internet can be intimidating at first, but once the conversation starts, it's easier to build a relationship. There are several websites and games that offer chat rooms that allow you to get in touch with girls. Whether it's a dating site, an online game or a chat forum, these Simple Steps will give you the confidence to start a conversation with any girl.


Part 1 of 3: Preparations

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Step 1. Choose the platform you want to use to chat

There are several websites and platforms to choose from that allow you to get in touch with girls. Look for online games, dating sites or forums to try and find a girl with similar tastes to yours.

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Step 2. Show off your best on your online profile

Regardless of which site you choose to connect with someone, their online profile will be evaluated. Make sure you are showing your best self, exhibiting the qualities you would like others to notice. When creating an online profile, pay attention to spelling; bad grammar and even excessive use of internetese can turn girls off.

  • Remove negative or disrespectful photos.
  • Delete disrespectful or defamatory messages.
  • Choose a photo that represents your personality to put on your profile.
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Step 3. Greet her in an original way

Many people start their conversations with "Hi", "Hi" or "Hi", but these words are very common and not easily remembered. By using a different greeting, you will stand out and it will make the girl remember you. Instead of using these common greetings, try using one of these:

  • "What's new, kitten?"
  • "How is your day?"
  • "What's up?"
  • "How is it going?"

Part 2 of 3: Getting her interested

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Step 1. Ask open-ended questions

Once you've taken the initiative to talk to her, you need to keep the conversation flowing. Avoid yes or no questions. She will be more involved in the conversation if you ask her open and specific questions. View her profile and find common interests to get ideas for topics to talk about.

  • Ask, "What outdoor activities do you enjoy?" instead of "Do you like sports?".
  • Try to find common threads with questions like: "I adopted a dog when I started college, what are your favorite animals?"
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Step 2. Send only one message at a time

Don't clog up her inbox, just send one message for every reply received. That way the conversation is more fluid and she'll want to keep talking to you.

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Step 3. Flirt a little

Praise her for focusing on one part of the conversation or her personality. It's okay to be fun in conversation and show your sense of humor.

  • "Talking to you is one of the best parts of my day."
  • "I was already thinking that everyone on the Internet was fake, until I met you."
  • Note: Avoid praising your physical appearance at this time. Saying things like "You're beautiful" or "sexy" may seem like a good idea, but it makes you seem shallow and only care about how she looks. Use the information you've learned from the conversations to build the foundation for a good relationship.
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Step 4. Keep the conversation focused on her

Find common interests and share personal experiences. Don't monopolize the conversation by talking only about yourself, always involve the girl in the dialogue, showing that you are interested in the same things as her.

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Step 5. Be kind and leave her wanting more

Show your satisfaction in talking to her. Make it clear that you want to talk to her again, casually creating an opportunity to talk to the girl again. Try using one of these phrases when you're finished with the conversation:

  • "It was really nice talking to you. Hope we can talk again soon!"
  • "You said (choose some topic of your conversation), I wanted to send you an article I found. What's your email address?"
  • "Gotta go, but I want to learn more about _______, will you send me the link to your favorite site? My email is ______________."

Part 3 of 3: Developing a Relationship

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Step 1. Exchange emails

Take the opportunity to get into more personal topics by email. You can strengthen your relationship by sharing personal events or stories. Create a lasting bond by showing her who you are and being honest about your past.

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Step 2. Comment on her recent posts and photos on social media

Get her to think of you by making conversations and interacting in her posts with comments and likes.

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Step 3. Be patient and wait for an answer

Don't forget she has a life too, don't assume she'll answer all your emails right away. It may take a few days for her to respond, so please be patient and wait for her response before leaving sending multiple messages.

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Step 4. Make a proposal to meet her in person

Once you've exchanged four or five emails, it's time to bring the relationship into the real world. Ask her about her schedule for the next week and choose a day when she is free. Tell her the time and place you would like to meet; be confident. She will like the fact that you are able to make decisions.

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Step 5. Enjoy your date

You've worked hard to reach this step in a relationship that started online. Be yourself and remember the interests she has shown in your conversations to make the date go well.

Note: Just to be sure, remember to let your family and friends know where you're going and when you'll be back


  • Read her profile before trying to strike up a conversation. It's good to know who you're talking to, but don't act like you already know everything about her or you might look like a stalker.
  • Don't overdo Internetese, use real words when communicating.
  • Use emoticons sparingly. It's best to let her use it first and then use a maximum of one per message, but not every message.
  • Be friendly and open in your online conversations. You can't create a completely new personality to use on the Internet, just be honest and true to yourself.


  • Be careful when giving out your personal information.
  • Let your friends and family know when you're meeting someone for the first time!

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