If you're transitioning from woman to man, "imposing" as a man can be a worry on your mind. Luckily, there are a number of things you can do to relax yourself at this transitional time in your life. Start by making a few simple adjustments to your look, like a haircut, a breast compression band, and more. Another option would be to add more masculine pieces to your wardrobe and control mannerisms such as posture and handshake greeting. Use these strategies together to succeed in this endeavor. Keep reading for more tips!
Method 1 of 3: Adapting Your Appearance
Step 1. Visit a barber and get a men's cut
As many women these days have short hair, length is no longer the only factor that counts. It's important to look for a hairdresser who specializes in men's cuts, or you risk ending up with a short but feminine hairstyle. At the time of let's see, explain to the professional how you would like to leave your hair and, if possible, show some example images.
- Ask the professional to shave your sideburns, as long hair in this region is seen as a feminine trait.
- Keep in mind that the barber will probably ask you how you want your hair done. Don't be afraid to explain exactly what you want and don't be persuaded into another style. You have every right to have the hairstyle you want!
Step 2. Comb your hair with gel or ointment
If the strands are combed back or up, your chances of looking more masculine are greatly increased, especially if you've chosen a not-so-short hairstyle, as the bangs falling over your face can give a more feminine impression.
Apply a generous amount of gel to your hair and comb it back to get it off the front of your forehead
Step 3. shave to get rid of facial fluff.
Even if you don't have visible facial hair, it's important to shave to get rid of those tiny hairs that all women have on their faces. Men don't have these little hairs: either they have a beard or they have a smooth face. If growing a beard isn't an option for you, it's important to use a shaver to smooth your skin.
- Use shaving cream and a new razor so you don't cut yourself.
- Using an aftershave cream is also a good idea to avoid skin infections and a more masculine smell.
Step 4. Avoid makeup and eyebrow care
Makeup has a "feminine face" and by avoiding it you will automatically look more masculine. Men also tend to have thicker, fuller eyebrows; by letting your hair grow naturally, you will look more masculine.
Step 5. Pinch the breasts to simulate the appearance of a male pectoral
If your breasts are small, a tight-fitting sports bra is enough. If, on the other hand, you have medium or large breasts, you will need to brace them to "be seen" as a man. You can buy a compression strap for this.
- Do not use the band for more than eight hours a day.
- Wear an appropriately sized brace, as if it's too tight, you can have respiratory and breast problems.
- The goal is not to make your chest completely straight, but masculine.
- Never use ACE bandages to secure the breasts, as they slip and tighten too much, hindering breathing.
Tip: It's a good idea to seek a breast reduction procedure if yours are too big. Some health insurance plans cover these procedures, especially if your chest is large enough to cause back pain.
Step 6. Make a realistic padding for your pants
You can buy a filler or make your own using a condom, hair gel and socks. Fill half a condom with hair gel (look for a product that does not contain alcohol preferably), tie the end and cover with a second condom to prevent leakage. Then put the condom in a sock and retie the end.
- Normally, you can't see the volume of a flaccid penis in your pants, so there's no need to exaggerate the size.
- If you prefer, buy a rubber penis from a sex shop and wear it inside your pants.
Step 7. See a doctor for hormonal treatment
If you want to change your appearance on a biological level, it's a good idea to take testosterone to develop more masculine characteristics such as facial hair and muscle mass. Testosterone will also help control your periods and can be consumed through injections, patches or pills.
Method 2 of 3: Wearing Men's Clothing
Step 1. Buy shirts that disguise your chest
Whenever possible, wear looser pieces that don't mark your breasts. Men's shirts are great options! Avoid any tight fitting synthetic material, giving preference to cotton and linen.
Dressing up in layers is also very helpful. Wearing a basic white T-shirt under a dress shirt or polo is often a good option to draw less attention to your breasts
Tip: If you take your clothes to a professional laundry, ask for extra starch on your shirts. This will make them firmer, disguising their curves.
Step 2. Buy pants and shorts with straight cuts
Men's cuts are different from women's, so you should opt for models sold in the men's section of department stores. For a less feminine look, start with a pair of black or khaki pants; if you prefer jeans, buy a pair of looser pants with straight legs.
Avoid skinny or bootcut pants as they will highlight your curves
Tip: men's pants are sold in different types of colors and prints; try some models if you want, but give preference to more conservative pieces (such as navy, black, gray and khaki) to look more masculine.
Step 3. Wear men's socks and shoes
Shop men-oriented stores and look for shoes in shades of gray and brown. Invest in a dress shoe for special occasions and a more casual pair of sneakers. If you have small feet, look for the men's children's section.
If you need more variety, shop online
Step 4. Buy a special swimsuit
Being recognized as a man at a pool or beach is often a little more challenging before or during the transition, but be aware that it's possible. Men usually wear shorts and don't wear T-shirts, but you can buy a full surfer outfit that covers your breasts or wear a shorts and t-shirt combination.
Be careful when securing your breasts. Ideally, use a slightly wider range than normal for exercising and swimming. Also check if the material in the band can come into contact with water
Step 5. Wear men's accessories
A watch, a tie or any other men's accessory can be all that is needed to complete your look. Also buy jewelry (if you want) and sunglasses in the men's section of stores. Finally, use a masculine perfume, as it is the icing on the cake.
If you have thin wrists, avoid watches that are too big, or the effect may be the opposite of what you want
Method 3 of 3: Embracing Male Behaviors
Step 1. Take up more physical space
Women have a habit of not taking up more space than necessary, rarely crossing their legs, sitting down or leaving their arms braced in place. Do the opposite of this to look more masculine. Sit with your legs open, always sit with an imposing posture and fill the spaces with your arms.
- For example, when standing, stand with your feet spaced apart, keep your spine straight, and keep your arms at your sides.
- When seated, place your feet flat on the floor with your knees well spaced, lean back and rest your arms on the side backrests.
Step 2. Practice a firm, confident handshake for when you meet people
A good handshake is a very important sign of masculinity. When greeting someone, stand up or lean forward a little to look the other person in the eye. Take the person's hand and squeeze it, rocking it up and down two or three times. Then let go of the person's hand and relax again.
Don't hold the person's hand for longer than five seconds, or things can get uncomfortable
Tip: men usually smile less than women. It's okay to smile when you meet someone, but don't overdo it or laugh nervously. Keep calm and smile lightly, in a friendly way.
Step 3. Keep a unique tone in your voice
Women often change their tone of voice as they speak, so avoid this to appear more masculine. Don't worry too much about the tone itself, but focus on consistency. There is no such thing as a "masculine" tone, so don't worry if your voice is higher.
Listen to other men talking in movies, series and podcasts and try to simulate their voices
Step 4. Use a standing device to urinate if you don't like sitting down to the toilet
It's okay to urinate while sitting in the men's restrooms, after all, many people do it out of personal preference or necessity, but if you want to stand up, know that it's possible. The best option is to use a device to urinate standing up; you can make your own or buy one.
- Practice using the device at home before using it around. Start in the shower to avoid dirt, then move to the toilet. When you feel comfortable, start taking the device with you when you leave the house.
- These devices are very small and usually fit in a pocket, rest assured.
- Remember that not all men have masculine characteristics. Sometimes something that you believe makes you "less masculine" is not even noticed by others.
- Gaining muscle mass can also help create a more masculine look, but it takes time and effort. Start training with weights to strengthen your arms, shoulders and chest.