Stimulating women is an art. To do it the right way, you must have a perfect balance between being aggressive and demure. You must understand how to touch a woman's body and understand what she wants – and when she wants it. If you want to learn how to make things hotter and turn a woman on, follow the steps below.
Method 1 of 3: Set the weather
Step 1. Create a sexy atmosphere
If you create a sensual atmosphere, the girl will be turned on even before your first kiss. You must make sure that the lighting, smell, and sounds in the room are appropriate for a romantic evening. Here's how to do it:
- Soft lighting. By the time you enter the apartment, the lights should be more or less off – enough for the girl to see you, but not so bright that she's bothered. Light some candles.
- Have an apartment that smells good. If you know you're bringing a girl over for the night, open your windows during the day and let in fresh air. Some scents can make your apartment more fragrant. When the girl arrives, casually light an incense or scented candle.
- Put on a little song. The girl will be more excited if you put the right music on. A jazz can make you feel more sophisticated, but a smooth MPB can put you in the mood for sex. Whichever style you choose, place the music casually and play it softly.
Step 2. Have a card up your sleeve
Your home should already be prepared for luxury beforehand so that the mood is spicy and you can avoid any interruptions. Here are some things you should keep in mind:
- Something to drink. Be prepared to have white or red wine, or any other drink she might like. Chances are, you've come from a romantic dinner where you've had a few drinks. To keep things flowing, you always have to have some extra drink to sip just in case.
- Something to eat. If you need a little more time to warm up before going to bed, sharing a sexy snack can help get you in the mood. Have on hand sensual foods such as grapes, strawberries, cheese, crackers, or chocolate. Avoid eating anything oily or fried.
- Something to clean up. If you plan to practice the act, have a clean towel and fresh soap prepared for the woman. That way you don't upset her by giving her a wet, moldy towel.
Step 3. Have a sexy house
Work as hard as you can to have a house that will excite girls right away. Your house must be very presentable so that your girl wants to run to your room. Here's how:
- It must be clean. This is the most important part of preparing the weather. Hide your dirty clothes, clean the house, and make sure you don't wash your bathroom well. The woman has to be as comfortable as possible before taking action.
- Be fashionable. Your house doesn't have to be worth a million dollars to turn your girl on. Have some elegant wood or leather furniture, some pretty pictures, and a good stereo to show your girl that you care about the quality of the room. Avoid that bunch of pictures of you with your ex-girlfriend.
- Have a sexy bed. Clean your sheets, have nice fluffy pillows and a nice bedside table. This is the time to get those pictures of you and your mom as far away as possible. The woman should feel comfortable snuggling with you under the covers to prepare for your body.
Method 2 of 3: Have Incredible Foreplay
Step 1. Make her feel comfortable
Once the weather is right, you should start turning your girl on by making her feel at home. If she's relaxed, she's more likely to want to get laid. Here's how to do it:
- Get her coat and let her take off her shoes. She will feel more comfortable when you do this.
- Offer her a drink. Don't force her to drink, but pour her a glass of wine if she wants to. If she's drinking, drink too, or she'll feel embarrassed.
- Praise her. Make her feel good by letting her know how much you like her. Tell her how beautiful she looks, that you're having so much fun, or how you love the way she laughs.
Step 2. Touch her sexy
When the girl is relaxed, she will want you to be close to her. Don't be shy - stay by her side and start to touch her subtly to start the foreplay. Here are some tips:
- Sit next to her and let your legs touch. Put your arms around her. If she's really into it, start playing with her hair.
- If she's wearing big earrings, gently hold one of them in your hands and say how much you like them while your fingers caress her ear.
- Let your hands brush, and even hold her hands and stroke her fingers if she wants to.
- Give her a sexy massage. Massage her shoulders, her back, even her biceps. This is sure to excite her and help her relax.
Step 3. Kiss with passion
Kissing is the first big move you'll make, and you'll have to do it right if you want to take your night to the next level. To have the perfect kiss, you need an irresistible kissing style. Here's how to do it:
- Be kind. Kiss her gently, first without using your tongue too much. Lightly touch your lips to hers, and slowly touch the tip of your tongue to hers. If she's receptive, move your tongue deeper into her mouth, but take it easy.
- Leave her wanting more. Pause between kisses to look into her eyes, run your hands through her hair, or start kissing her gently on the back of her neck or shoulders. Don't kiss non-stop for hours on end. She will be bored or exhausted.
- Be more aggressive with your touches. While you are kissing her, move your hands over her body and gently touch her waist, breasts, or inner thighs. She must be comfortable with what you are doing.
Step 4. Start taking off your clothes
When the kisses start to get hotter, it's time to undress so you can continue. To get the sex mood going, you'll have to take your clothes off the right way. Here's how:
- Take off the girl's clothes first. Gently place your hands under her shirt and take it off. If it's a button-down shirt, slowly unbutton it and toss it aside.
- Then take off your own shirt. Don't completely take off all your clothes first. This can scare the girl into thinking you are being too aggressive. Take it easy.
- Once your shirts are off, continue to kiss, but take off her bra after a while. Check whether the clasp is at the front or the back, and try to be gentle when doing this. Don't be indiscreet by joking about how many times you've done it, or how impossible it is to take her bra off. This will only put you out of the loop and make you look inexperienced.
- Gently touch her panties. This will make her want you to take off her skirt or pants right away. If she is wearing pants, take them off slowly. If it's a skirt, drag it down your legs.
- Take off your pants, or wait for her to take them off if she's comfortable. Now that you're only in your underwear, and if you're up for it, it's time to get ready for sex.
Method 3 of 3: Make the right moves in bed
Step 1. Be clear about having sex
Even if you want to actually get to blows while you're both in your underwear, it's important to make it clear that you're both going to have sex so things aren't awkward or there's no misunderstandings. Here are some tips to get past any obstacle:
- Say "Are you ready?" or "Are you in the mood?" Make it clear that you want to take everything to the next level.
- If she agrees, be prepared with a condom. Be gentle when putting it on, and try to be as efficient as possible so as not to spoil the mood.
Step 2. Excite your girl as much as you can before sex
Men are usually ready for sex before women are. Even though you've had great foreplay, you need to spend more time in her body before you move on to finally. Here's how:
- Caress and kiss all over her body. Kiss your neck, shoulders, breasts, belly, and thighs.
- Tell her how much you like her. Whisper a few things about how beautiful her body is, or how much you love a certain part of her.
- Touch her genitals gently. You can excite her a little more by touching her and then withdrawing your hand somewhere else for a while – this will make her want more. Once she's ready for the act, go for it.
Step 3. Find your sexual style
There are several ways to have great sex, and once you start, you should feel the girl's desires and desires. Here's how you can discover new things with your partner:
- Try different positions. Start by getting on top, or see if she likes being on top, or even having sex in a more adventurous way. Don't try anything so crazy at first - find a good rhythm before trying to be too creative.
- Find out if she likes a gentle or aggressive tone. Try a few light bites or a few more intense touches, and see if she responds back. Some women like fun and a little more aggression, but they're waiting for you to take the initiative. However, if she likes more gentle, then take it easy and hug her gently.
- Try some nasty verbiage. A thing like that isn't for everyone, but if she likes it, it can work really well to get her turned on. Tell her what you are doing, what you would like to do, and praise her body. If it's not reciprocated, let it go.
Step 4. Finish for real
Both partners must be satisfied during and after sex. Here are some ways to finish for real in bed:
- Remember that many women cannot achieve orgasm through sex; so if it doesn't make it, touch it until it does.
- After you're done, don't immediately leave the room or take the shower. Spend time in bed to caress her and tell her how wonderful the moment between the two of you was.
- Don't be disappointed. If she hasn't climaxed, or if you've reached orgasm sooner, don't be discouraged. This happens more often than you think, and dealing with it calmly will show your confidence.
Step 5. Leave her wanting more
Once you've done what you had to do in the bedroom, there are very few things you can do to make your girl want to sleep with you again, even if it's later that night, or on the weekend. Here are some tips to end things on a good note:
- Offer to take a shower together. If she's in the mood, kiss her gently while they're taking a shower.
- Don't be reserved after sex. You should give your girl room, but show that you're the same fun guy she was making out with a few hours ago.
- Say you had a lot of fun and that you want to do it again soon. When she is gone, escort her to the door like a true gentleman. Put her coat on her, drive to her house or hail a cab, and kiss her at the door.
- Stay calm. Don't say "When are we going to have sex again?" Instead, say you had fun and that you'll call soon.
- Make her want to fuck you. Has she left yet? So that sexy message for her will remind her of the hot times you had in bed. If you're soft about these “reminders”, she'll want to get back to sex with you as soon as possible!
- If you ejaculate prematurely, don't act like an embarrassed idiot. Stay calm and apologize gently, but don't make a big deal out of it.
- To share is to care. Give the woman as much love as she gives you. Focus on making her feel good.
- Never pressure a woman to have sex with you. Let her make the decision. She must never regret going to bed with you.
- Use condoms to avoid sexually transmitted diseases. You should always have a condom if you're sleeping with someone for the first time. Don't convince a woman that sex will be better if you're without one - that's acting dangerous and can leave you sick.