Going from friendship to dating is a situation that frightens many people, but it is quite common. If you're in love with a friend, there are several ways to get him to see you as a potential partner and not just a friend. Flirt subtly and try to spend more time with the guy to strengthen your bonds. When you're ready and think it's going to happen, ask him out. As much as there is a chance he has no romantic interest in you, that shouldn't stop her from trying. At worst, you will remain just friends.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Flirting
Step 1. Use and abuse body language when flirting
If you want to make it clear that you want a relationship with your friend, flirt using your body when you're together. If he is also attracted to you, flirting will help develop romantic feelings.
- Tilt your body toward him when they're eating, watching a movie, or just walking around.
- Look into his eyes and blink a few times. Also remember to smile, always.
Step 2. Imitate his body language and mannerisms
As strange as it sounds, it's a very common form of flirting. The idea is to position your body towards his when they are seated together. Place your hands and feet in the same positions as his limbs. If they're drinking something, for example, take a sip whenever he takes one.
- Use some of his expressions. If the boy is used to saying "Wow, that's interesting", for example, use that phrase from time to time.
- Be careful not to weigh your hand, or the guy will think you're making fun of his face. Imitate the gestures from time to time, but don't copy everything he does.
Step 3. Take care of the appearance
Being attractive will certainly help the guy to notice your presence as more than a friend, so always look good when you go out with him. Wear clothes that enhance your look and, if you like makeup, go for it.
Wear clothes that make you feel good about yourself, always valuing comfort. No need to try to look like someone else
Step 4. Be confident
When trust is lacking, we end up looking less attractive. It's good to have a good idea of who you are to make the guy want you. Don't agree with everything he says! Show off your personality while flirting!
- Think about how you see yourself as a person. Do you think you are smart, funny, spontaneous, serious? No matter the answer, just make an effort to let the boy see your special side.
- For example, if you know a lot about movies, don't be afraid to share your knowledge while watching movies.
Part 2 of 3: Strengthening the attraction
Step 1. Spend a lot of time together
It's natural to develop attraction to a person you spend a lot of time with. Go to the same places as him, whenever possible, and invite him to the tours with your group of friends. Attend social events he will also attend.
If you study together, interact with him at school, talking during breaks and sitting next to him in the classroom
Step 2. Highlight the things you have in common
People usually date those who share likes and think alike. If you have a lot in common, reinforce that connection. Do and say things that will help the boy see how much you are alike. For example, if you like movies by the same director, talk more about them.
If you, for example, are very fond of science fiction and football, take this opportunity and make the connection between you clear
Step 3. Share his interests and hobbies
If you are really interested in some of his interests, go for it! For example, listen to his favorite band's new album and talk about it the next day. If they're playing in your town, invite the boy to the show.
Be yourself, always! Don't force an interest in things that don't have to do with you just for the boy
Step 4. Try to spend more time alone with the boy
It's likely that you've already gone out together because you're friends, but it's important to be alone with him to reinforce the flirting and gain more of the boy's attention. If the idea of a date makes you nervous, try being alone with him at a social event.
- For example, invite him to a party and find a comfortable corner to talk alone.
- You can also hang out with him casually. Try going to a cafeteria after class, for example.
Step 5. Start the ringtone whenever possible
If you're having trouble getting noticed by the guy, try touching him yourself! Then he will think of you more romantically! When they're having coffee, gently run your hand over his arm. When they're at the cinema, lean a little towards it.
- Move your hair! Men love it.
- Embrace him when the occasion calls for it. A good hug can lead to something more.
Part 3 of 3: Taking action
Step 1. Indirectly call him on a date
Many people feel more comfortable when the transition from friend to boyfriend is gradual. Ask him what he's doing this weekend. When he responds, suggest something they can do together. For example: "Oh, bowling is nice, but I have two tickets to a show, if you want to go with me…".
- Ask for advice on places to go out and ask him to join you. For example: "Do you know where I can find a good pizzeria around here?".
- When he responds, say something like "Oh, cool. Do you like it there? Want to come with me?"
Step 2. Take action
If the boy is not getting your intentions, don't be ashamed to act. A lot of guys like it when they're asked out because they're shy too!
- Remember you are already friends. Maybe this will ease the pressure a little.
- If the guy doesn't want to go out with you as more than a friend, he'll probably dump you more tactfully than a stranger would, so there's nothing to be afraid of.
Step 3. Take as much time as necessary
At the time of the invitation, follow your own pace, as speeding things up will only cause nervousness and anxiety. It's good that the relationship starts off calmly, so ask him out on time.
- Take your time. When interacting alone, let the conversation flow naturally before issuing the invitation.
- If you're nervous, take a deep breath.
Step 4. Be direct
If indirect invitations aren't working, it's time to talk in the can! Simply say something like, "Look, I feel a very strong romantic connection with you. Do you want to go out on a date with me someday?" It's important that your relationship goes on without confusion, even if he declines the request.
- As far-fetched as it sounds, people usually prefer it when we're direct.
- It's a good idea to emphasize how important his friendship is to you by saying something like "I love being your friend and if you don't want anything more, I want you to know that I'm happy just being friends. Nothing will change in ours friendship, I guarantee".
Step 5. Prepare for possible rejection
It's impossible to control other people's feelings, and even if you do everything "right," there's still a chance the boy sees you as just a friend. Know that the hurt will pass with time, even if it feels like the end of the world now.
Step 6. Be strong
We all get rejected at one time or another, so don't let that affect your confidence. The boy may change his mind at one time or another, but don't wait for him. If it rolls, it does. If it doesn't happen, patience, you're great with or without him as a boyfriend!