How to Flirt Without Being Boring: 8 Steps (with Pictures)

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How to Flirt Without Being Boring: 8 Steps (with Pictures)
How to Flirt Without Being Boring: 8 Steps (with Pictures)

Flirting is fun. We often feel like asking someone we like to go out on a date. However, flirting can be irritating, especially when it occurs persistently and unwanted, or when it's done wrong. A lot of people make mistakes flirting with someone they're interested in, and the worst thing is, they don't even know what they've done wrong.


Part 1 of 2: Chatting by Chat or Text Message

Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 1

Step 1. Choose words that are not too suggestive or flirtatious

Try to be polite and respect other people, showing that you would like to get to know them better. For example, you can use common references to start a conversation: instead of saying "Hi, how are you?" you can say like Dino from the Dinosaur Family series, "Honey, I'm home!" This shows that you have a sense of humor and are on the same wavelength as the other person.

Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 2

Step 2. Prefer open-ended questions over questions that can be answered with a simple "yes" or "no"

It's important to keep the conversation flowing, and the best way to do this is to keep the other person talking. However, don't talk about things that are too personal during the beginning of conversations. This makes the other person find you a little intrusive or scary. Here are some examples of things to ask questions:

  • "How was your day?"
  • "What are your favorite hobbies?"
  • "What places do you usually go to on weekends?"
Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 3

Step 3. Pay attention to your spelling and grammar

We are no longer in the year 2005 when we were using our number pad cell phones to send people text messages. By now, you probably already have a smartphone or at least a cell phone with a full keyboard. Enter the complete words and use punctuation accordingly. Lack of attention to grammar or voicemail will make you sound childish.

Another faux pas is using too many emoticons. Use them sparingly

Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 4

Step 4. Avoid humor with sexual references

A little hint is good and even desirable in some cases. However, set a limit on any joke that makes direct references to sexual acts, especially in the context of your love interest.

  • Furthermore, it is obvious that racist and ethnic jokes are unacceptable.
  • Well, we don't even need to talk, do we? No nudes, please.
Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 5

Step 5. Don't overload the phone of the person you're flirting with

If she doesn't respond within a few minutes or hours, don't send any more messages asking if she has received your previous messages. This behavior is very unpleasant and identifies a desperate, lifeless person, or worse, a stalking maniac. Not to say that this is quite irritating to the other person.

Part 2 of 2: Flirting face to face

Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 6

Step 1. Make eye contact.

Eye contact is very important in human interaction, but it has an extra element when it comes to selecting love partners. By looking into the eyes of the person you like, you are demonstrating that you like them without being obvious. Here are some ways to do this:

  • Avoid looking at the person's body. This can be considered vulgar, which may make some people uncomfortable. However, a lingering look is very nice.
  • Avoid looking directly into the person's eyes without pausing. This is very scary!
Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 7

Step 2. Start a quiet conversation

At first, the conversation doesn't have to be long or complicated, or make the other person uncomfortable. Here are some tips:

  • Don't make "you" the main topic of conversation. The person will find you arrogant and a little boring.
  • Get the person talking about themselves. Not only will you learn more about it, the person will also find the conversation more enjoyable and will want to continue it.
  • Avoid talking about sensitive or personal things, especially money, beliefs or politics. Money is considered an unpleasant topic (especially when approached blatantly or desperately), while beliefs can be addressed later when you are more right about each other.
Flirt Without Being Annoying Step 8

Step 3. Know when to walk away

Nothing is more irritating than a person chasing you when the interest is not mutual. Pay attention to her body language and look for clues as to how she feels about you. Some signs are deliberate while others are instinctive, almost unbeknownst to the person.

  • If you're flirting with a woman and she puts her purse between the two of you or grips it tightly, she's sending a signal that she's not interested in you.
  • Another sign is the direction of the body. If the person's body is facing away from yours, even if it's just the angle of the leg, it's time to move on.
  • The person can also say directly that he is not interested. If that happens, be polite.

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