3 Ways to Speak Dirty on the Phone

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3 Ways to Speak Dirty on the Phone
3 Ways to Speak Dirty on the Phone

Talking dirty on the phone is a fantastic way to have some hot fun with your partner on the phone, or even to start phone sex with your sweetheart. You might feel a little silly, or intimidated at the thought of talking dirty on the phone, but once you adjust your thinking and let it go, you're on your way to leaving your partner desperate for pleasure. If you want to know how to do this, just follow these Steps.


Method 1 of 3: Preparing for Sensual Conversation

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Step 1. Choose the right time to have the conversation

If you want to have a flawless saucy phone conversation, then you have to make sure that both you and your partner are alone and ready to start a saucy conversation. This conversation won't go very far if you're already in bed while your partner is having dinner with his mother. Plan your spicy conversation in advance so the two of you are free and alone at home, or in your rooms.

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Step 2. Be and feel sensual

Take a good shower and change into sexy lingerie and an equally tempting outfit. Even if your partner can't see what you're wearing, you'll be more easily turned on if you're ready for action. You can even put some flavored oil or lotion on the back of your neck to get you in the mood.

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Step 3. Create the mood

Would you have sex with all your dirty laundry strewn around the room and takeaway packages on top of your desk? Hope not. You shouldn't talk dirty until the mood is romantic. Just clear out your space, dim the lights and light some candles and lie down in your comfortable, clean bed. Do whatever you need to do to prepare for the act.

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Step 4. Don't think too much

Before you pick up the phone, or start to get excited, don't look at yourself in the mirror, or analyze every little thing you're going to say to your partner. Even if you've never done this before, the process will feel more natural if you sit back, relax, and prepare for what's to come.

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Step 5. Start getting excited

This doesn't mean you should touch yourself unless you want to, but it does mean you should start thinking sexually. Close your eyes and think of your most illicit sexual fantasy you have, or remember the last time something really caught fire between you and your partner.

If it helps, you can lightly stroke your body to get in the mood. But you should save yourself for the real phone conversation

Method 2 of 3: Starting to talk dirty

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Step 1. Find your sexy voice

She should still sound like you, but like a sexier, more measured version of you. Don't use the same voice you would use to ask him how his day went. Instead, speak a little lower and slower, you can even lower your voice to speak almost in a whisper if you like. Just make sure it still sounds like you.

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Step 2. Give your boyfriend some praise

You don't have to say anything prohibited to minors right away. Just start with a few basic compliments. Tell your partner how much you missed him and how amazing his body is. You can even remind him of the last time you guys had sex and how hot it was. Just start saying nice things to your lover to get in the mood. Here are some things you can say:

  • "I've been thinking about your spotted arms all day."
  • "I miss you and your body so much."
  • "I love hearing your voice."
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Step 3. Talk about what you are wearing

Tell your partner what you're wearing and describe it in great detail. Talk about how your body looks with the clothes you are wearing and mention the parts that are exposed. Ask your partner what he is wearing and close your eyes and picture him in these clothes. Here are ways to describe what you are wearing:

  • For women:

    • "I'm wearing your favorite bra."
    • "I'm not wearing panties."
    • "My dress is very tight."
  • For men:

    • "My shirt is squeezing my biceps."
    • "I'm wearing that belt you love taking off."
    • "I'm wearing a button-down shirt. They open pretty easily…"
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Step 4. Talk about what you would do if he were with you

Start slowly. Just say a few things you would like to happen if your partner were with you. You can imagine as much as you like, but you can start with the basics as you build more elaborate costumes. Here are some things you can say:

  • "I wish your arms were hugging me right now."
  • "I wanted to kiss your neck right now."
  • "If you were here, I would start nibbling on your ear. You wouldn't be able to stop me."

Method 3 of 3: Getting to the point

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Step 1. Touch yourself and describe how you feel

You can do this anytime while talking dirty. But the sooner you do that, the more excited you will be. Start by gently touching your own body and tell your partner what you are doing. Then ask him to touch his body and be thorough in what you want him to do. Just like a real foreplay, you don't want to touch yourself anywhere too direct, just start with a light touch that excites you.

  • As you keep talking, you can start tapping into your erogenous zones.
  • Let your partner know exactly what you are doing in your body. If you are caressing your breasts or your belly, tell him.
  • Describe all your feelings to your partner. If you start to feel a shiver behind the back of your neck, describe it.
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Step 2. Tell your partner that you would like him to touch you

Start by talking about all the things you'd like your partner to do with your body until you're both extremely aroused. Alternate between whoever says what he wants the other to do. This can get heavier than just saying what you want to do with your partner.

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Step 3. Talk about what you want to do with your partner

Let him know exactly what you would do with his body if you were there. Now that you're starting to get turned on and touch your own body, level it up and say whatever you want to do with his body, no matter how naughty it is.

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Step 4. Talk about how excited you are

Don't be ashamed: tell your partner how turned on you are just by talking to him and thinking of him near you. Let him know how aroused you are and that you are feeling it all over your body. If you're so excited you're feeling it in your toes, tell him.

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Step 5. Reveal your biggest fantasies

Once you're really turned on, share your fantasies with your partner, no matter how naughty they are. He'll join in and talk about you, helping you get more turned on as you imagine you guys fulfilling the fantasy together. Don't be afraid to drop everything over the phone line: just close your eyes and start talking.

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Step 6. Take off your clothes and tell him

Don't start stripping, let your partner join the show, button by button. If you're taking your shirt off, tell him you're putting it over your head. If you are taking off your belt, tell your partner that you are throwing the belt on the floor. Paint your body image that will excite your partner even more.

  • You can also ask your partner to take your clothes off. Telling him to do this is even hotter. You can say "Now take off your shirt", or "I want to take off your skirt."
  • When you start taking off your clothes, you can ask your partner for validation. As you take off your shirt, you may ask "Are you sure you want me to take off my shirt?" This will help paint a visual image for your partner.
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Step 7. Masturbate yourself

If you just want to talk dirty for fun, or for practice, then you can get off the phone and do it yourself. However, if you really want to talk dirty, then you and your partner should touch each other until you reach orgasm. If you want to keep things hot and heavy, you can tell your partner you're reaching orgasm and tell your partner that you're about to come. It will cause anxiety and it will make you even more excited. Once you've reached orgasm, you can say goodbye and wait for the next phone sex session.

  • Don't be ashamed: tell your partner when you're touching yourself and tell him how you're feeling. Be as direct as you like.
  • Just like real sex, it's very difficult to climax at the same time as your partner. If you get there first, keep talking dirty to him to excite him. Don't stop and kill the mood. Keep talking dirty until you're both satisfied.
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Step 8. Have a sexy goodbye

Don't start by changing your speech and talking about your day; don't start telling silly jokes, either. Just as you would be snuggled after real sex, say some gentle, gentle words to your partner so he knows how wonderful he makes you feel. Turn off the phone a little later: If you want to have a normal conversation with your partner, do it a little later so you can enjoy that sexy feeling after the phone call.


  • If you're going to be playing a different person while on the phone, you might want to make a list of that persona's characteristics. For example, this persona can be dominant and controlling. Try making a list of what you might probably want to say.
  • If you really don't know what to say, the Internet is a great source of research!
  • Less talking, more deep breaths.


  • If you are unprepared or unwilling to engage in a spicy conversation, don't let your partner pressure you into it. You need to be relaxed and comfortable, not under pressure and stressed.
  • If you're in a place where other people can hear, such as in a public place, then people might be looking at you if you're saying "slutty" on your phone. So find a place where you can be alone.

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