3 Ways to Get Two of Your Best Friends Together

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3 Ways to Get Two of Your Best Friends Together
3 Ways to Get Two of Your Best Friends Together

Do you have two friends who don't know each other and think they would make a lovely couple? Simply introducing them isn't enough for them to start dating, but there are plenty of other things you can do to play Cupid.


Method 1 of 3: Preparing the Ground

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Step 1. Bring together people you already know

If you're trying to hook up a friend with someone you don't know very well, chances are there's no chemistry between them. The person you don't know well can turn out to be unpleasant or even dangerous. Ideally, you should be close to the two involved before planning a romantic connection between them.

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Step 2. Gather friends who have something in common

They say that plurality is the spice of life, but it's important that the two people have something in common. When interests are similar, it's easier to create a connection and move a potential relationship forward. Ultimately, even if they don't fall in love, at least they'll have a nice date.

  • An interesting method to plant the idea in the heads of those involved is to say something like “Have I already talked about my friend Ricardo? Only now did I realize that both you and he lived in Spain for a while”.
  • Avoid introducing people with very different life plans. If you know, for example, that the guy can't wait to get married and have kids, but the girl you want to introduce him to doesn't think about being a mother, maybe the idea of ​​putting the two together isn't very sensible.
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Step 3. Talk about your intentions

Tell each of your friends that you want to introduce him to someone because you think they can get along well together. Doing things on the sly might not be a good idea, it's important that both sides are open to your intention. An unexpected encounter between the two can be embarrassing.

  • As you talk to each other, emphasize the other person's positive characteristics.
  • During the conversation, say things like “My friend Julia cooks well and is very funny, I think you and she could get along well. I'll try to introduce them any day, if you want.”
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Step 4. Think about the consequences if the idea of ​​bringing the couple together doesn't work out

Before playing Cupid among your friends, think about what can happen if things don't go according to plan. If they have a bad date and never want to look each other in the face again, for example, the next time you have a party, you won't be able to invite them both. Think of all possible scenarios in advance.

  • If they are co-workers, even though they operate in different departments or offices, it might not be a good idea to try to bring them together. If something doesn't go according to plan, they will have to face each other frequently in the workplace.
  • Another thing you need to consider is that your friendship with both of them could be affected. If something goes wrong, you can get caught in the crossfire and be pressured to choose sides.
  • Apologize. Simply say “I'm sorry things didn't work out between you” and avoid bringing it up in conversation. Only comment if one of you mentions it first.

Method 2 of 3: Organizing the Meeting

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Step 1. Be subtle in your presentations

When introducing your friends, try to put them at ease. Talking about how you think the two were made for each other can create an awkward situation for both of you. On the other hand, giving a quick introduction and walking away can leave them embarrassed and not knowing what to say. Another thing you should avoid is inviting them as the only two single people to a meeting with friends. After the first introductions, let the two talk and get to know each other a little.

When one of you approaches while you're talking to the other person, introduce them by name. Try saying something like “João, Amelia is like you, she loves taking care of the plants. She has a wonderful vertical garden, just like yours.” Now that the two have been introduced, they already have a common topic to start a good conversation

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Step 2. Plan a chance meeting

A great way to get your friends to spend more time in each other's company is to organize a get-together with friends. You can direct the conversation to a topic that is of interest to both of you. Also, your presence can help avoid uncomfortable moments of silence when neither of you knows what to say.

  • Invite them to a happy hour at a bar.
  • Organize a dinner or small party at your house and invite both.
  • Plan an activity that will interest everyone, such as hiking or going to the beach.
  • If you are in a relationship, invite your friends to join you and your partner on a double date.
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Step 3. Don't force the bar

It doesn't matter if you think they have everything going for it, if either of you isn't interested in the date, don't push. Maybe now is not the time for them to be together, and if you push the envelope, you could end up sabotaging any possibilities of a possible future union. Likewise, pushing them to go out together without being interested could end up compromising your friendship.

Method 3 of 3: Knowing When to Step Back

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Step 1. Don't pressure them

After your friends' first date, you may be quite curious to find out the details. But just because you brought them together doesn't mean they're obligated to give satisfaction about everything. Avoid putting pressure on them.

  • Don't interrupt them when they are together. Avoid texting to find out how the date is going and wait until the next day to ask.
  • The next day, simply ask "So, how was the date yesterday?"
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Step 2. Don't meddle

After your friends' first dates, it can be tempting to want to know how things are going and try to help them even more. Avoid! Your role has already been fulfilled by introducing them. Unless either of you asks you to say something to the other or asks you to arrange an outing, avoid intruding: they don't need you to coordinate every step of the relationship. What's more, constant interference from you can end up irritating the new couple.

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Step 3. Let go of your feelings

It's really exciting when you get two of your best friends together, but things don't always go according to plan. It may just happen that there is no chemistry between them, and there is nothing you can do about it. Don't take it personally, your intentions were the best. Accept and move on.


  • Just try to join friends you already know well enough.
  • Be honest with them about the idea of ​​bringing them together.
  • Introduce people who have common interests.
  • Name each one as you introduce them.


  • Accept the consequences, whether they are as you imagined them or not.
  • Don't pressure people. Chemistry doesn't always happen.
  • Before trying to unite the couple, it is important to make sure that the two are single.

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