Being interested in someone can be really cool, but it's pretty scary. Sometimes, it's hard to even define whether or not you're interested in someone. Keep reading to find out whether or not you are interested in a person.
Method 1 of 3: Defining “Interest”
Step 1. Know what it's like to be interested in someone
Interest can be defined as having a very strong desire to be with someone you find very attractive and extremely special. This interest can make you feel intense emotions, such as unexplained shyness or even dizziness. It's virtually impossible to pick someone to be interested in, but you can control your reactions when you find that you're interested in someone.
Step 2. It is important to know that there are different types of interests
This could mean that you have a passing crush on someone or that you really like the person.
- Friendly Interest: It is important to remember that not all strong feelings are romantic. Trusting someone and being very close to that person, without necessarily loving them romantically, is something very special. Wanting to be around someone all the time can only mean that you've gone from friend to best friend. It's completely normal to have a friendly interest. You might want to be with your best friend as much as you can.
- The Admiring Interest: When you idolize a person (celebrity, teacher, classmate who has done something really cool), you may find that you have very intense feelings about them and what they do. These feelings can be confused with love because of their intensity. Being slightly impressed in the presence of someone who has done something impressive or who can teach you great things is natural. It's usually best to let time pass before thinking through these feelings. That way, after you've spent a lot of time with this person, you'll have learned a lot about them and you'll be able to talk on their level. You may find that your feelings have subsided after the bewilderment of being in the person's presence wears off.
- The Passenger Interest: it is human nature to be interested in other people. Even if you are in a great relationship, you may still find that you are interested in someone else. In this kind of attraction, called passing interest, the new person will seem very interesting, and it probably is, but that doesn't mean you should think better about the relationship you're in or, if you're single, drop everything to try to be with the person. Usually, it's just a physical attraction.
- The Romantic Interest: Sometimes being interested in someone really means that you really like the person, thinking of them in a romantic way. Having a romantic interest means you want more than the person's friendship. You want to date her. If you imagine yourself kissing, holding hands, or hugging the person, you probably have a romantic interest.
Step 3. Find out how seriously you are interested
By doing this, you can figure out how to handle it, whether to keep your feelings to yourself or share them. Keep reading to see if your interest is strong in that special someone.
Method 2 of 3: Getting Close to the Person
Step 1. Consider your behavior when you are around the person
Notice how you react when the person is around. Each person reacts in a way and usually it's a reaction from the subconscious. Generally, people with genuine romantic interests react in two ways: very shy or outright extrovert.
- The Shy Reaction: Do you suddenly get stuck when the person is around? Do you get very red and can't look the person in the eye? Suddenly it seems like you don't have anything interesting to say? All these reactions indicate that you are interested.
- The Extroverted Reaction: do you suddenly feel like playing with the person? When she's around, do you feel like talking a lot because you want to get attention? These are symptoms of interest. Remember not to make the person uncomfortable when you act this way. Try not to play with her too much, as the person may not want you around.
- The Flirtation-Related Reaction: do you want the person to notice your hair, your clothes, or something in particular? Do you feel like hanging around, playing games with her? Perhaps you suddenly feel the need to see if you are dressing properly so that the other person will notice you. Playing with your hair, tossing it over your shoulders, these are all signs of interest.
Step 2. Consider how you feel around the person you are potentially interested in
The most common sign of interest is the feeling that there are millions of butterflies flying in your belly when the person is around. It may also feel like your heart leapt, making you feel hot and dizzy.
- Do you feel nervous all of a sudden but excited at the same time? Maybe you feel like hugging the person and being with them all the time. These are normal reactions from someone who is interested in someone.
- Do you feel like you could give up anything to be close to the person?
Step 3. Realize how you act around your friends and the person you are interested in
You can become a very chatty person or a very quiet person in the person's presence. If you're talking to a group of friends and the person and their possible romantic interest arrives, what do you do? If you're really interested, you'd probably do something below:
- Do you feel like you need to be the center of attention? Need to control the conversation so you can talk about something cool like trying to impress the person? You can even speak louder to one of your friends so your story can be heard. You can also try to make as much contact as possible with the person you are interested in, getting the person's attention.
- Are you speechless? Some people, when interested in others, feel embarrassed as if they have nothing to say. If you're normally outgoing but suddenly get stuck when that special someone is around, the interest is probably real.
- Do you feel like your friends disappear when the person appears? You may be surrounded by a lot of people, but all of a sudden, you can only see that person. You smile a lot, even if the subject isn't funny. If your friends ask you something, do you have a hard time paying attention to the question because you are focused on that special someone? These are all signs that you are interested.
Step 4. See if you're making more of your appearance
An important sign of being interested in someone is wanting to look good for the crush. Do you spend more time getting dressed in the morning? Did you buy new clothes because you thought the person would like it? Spend more time fixing your hair and makeup just in case the person shows up? If that happens, you are definitely interested.
Method 3 of 3: Staying away from the person
Step 1. See if you only think about the person
If you find yourself thinking about that person more than anything else, you're probably interested.
- Maybe you're having dinner with your family but not paying attention to the conversation at the table because you're thinking about what the person is doing.
- Maybe you're seeing your friends, but secretly wish you were seeing that person.
- When you go to sleep, you think about what it would be like to kiss that person goodnight.
Step 2. Notice if you talk too much about the person
Do you find yourself mentioning the person in conversations with your friends all the time? An important sign that you are interested is when your friends tell you that you talk about that special someone all the time. If you're feeling comfortable with this, it might be a good idea to talk to your best friends about your interest. They can help you better understand your feelings and give you some ideas on how to get to know the person better.
Choose your confidants well. Don't talk to anyone about your interest or risk spreading gossip around. Talk only to your best and most trusted friends
Step 3. See if anything has changed in your life
Have you kicked some habits or changed your mind to get that person's attention?
- Do you pass the person's room a million times in hopes of seeing them?
- Did you change your usual path to try to meet the person?
- Have you started to take an interest in a new subject that the person likes, like photography or mountain climbing?
Step 4. Pay attention to your internal reactions when someone mentions the person in conversation
Usually, when you're interested in someone, you get excited when that person is mentioned in a conversation. If someone comments that the person is passing by, you:
Get excited? Do you feel butterflies in your stomach? Do you feel your heart could come out of your mouth? Turns red and stutters? Get confused? If any of these things happen, you're interested
Step 5. Pay attention to your waking dreams
There is a difference between thinking about someone and daydreaming about them. Thinking about someone means imagining what the person is doing or how they are feeling. Daydreaming is when you fantasize about things you would like to happen. People who are interested in others tend to daydream frequently.
If you daydream about someone and imagine the two of you going through adventures together, walking hand in hand, kissing or something else romantic, the interest is there
Step 6. See if things remind you of the special person
By remembering the person after listening to music, watching a movie, or reading a book, you can be sure they are interested.
- If you hear a romantic song and think “This is how I feel!”, you're interested.
- If you watch a movie like Titanic and imagine yourself and the special someone like Jack and Rose, you can know you're really interested.
- If you read Romeo and Juliet and immediately identify with the love of the main characters, you are in love.
Step 7. Consider your thoughts as you read this article
Was there someone special in your thoughts as you read? If your answer is yes, you are interested in the person.