Fear of rejection and shame are some of the main reasons that make you shiver at the base when admitting that you like someone. Another very common reason is that lack of control over the situation when you expose your feelings without having the slightest idea what the other feels or what their reaction will be when hearing your statement. Before fretting for nothing, take a deep breath and let go of your shoulders to relax! It just takes a little practice and planning to reveal your feelings with the confidence that everything will be fine, no matter what the person's reaction.
Part 1 of 3: Revealing Your Feelings
Step 1. Show confidence
Opening your heart to someone requires a good deal of self-confidence. If you're too hesitant, how will the person feel? Consider whether you would like to be with someone who doesn't seem to know exactly what they want.
Smiling is the most powerful weapon for conveying confidence. A natural, relaxed and sincere smile is a way of saying that you feel completely at ease with yourself, and it will impress the person you want to win over
Step 2. Keep Calm
Don't panic when revealing your feelings so you don't turn a special moment into pure stress. Even if you're a little nervous, try to stay calm while chatting. Anguish and anxiety will not help at all.
At the first sign of panic, start focusing on breathing. Try to inhale and exhale deeply a few times until you calm down. A tip to make the conversation easier and more relaxed is to pretend that the girl is an old friend, not your crush
Step 3. Be objective
Talk about your feelings for her clearly, but without giving the idea that the girl is the most important thing in the entire world. This stage of the conversation is not yet the time to discuss relationship and commitment, as this may end up scaring you.
Step 4. Take it easy during the conversation
Don't talk suddenly that you're in the mood. Start the conversation by talking about trivial things, like something that happened that day, and gradually release the information that you like her. Approaching the subject in a more subtle way will help not to take the girl by surprise.
Say something in jest to break the ice. Tell a funny story that happened to someone in your family or tell about that movie you've been dying to watch
Step 5. Say what you feel
Reveal to the girl that you have a crush on her. The situation can be a little intimidating for both the speaker and the listener, but if you don't talk, she'll never know you like her, will she? Armed with courage, say what's in your heart.
Try saying something like "I've been thinking about you a lot lately and I'd like you to know I'm into you."
Step 6. Don't press it
Make it clear that you don't expect anything in return, you just need to tell her how you feel. That way, the person will be able to think for a while without the pressure of having to give an answer right away.
- After saying everything you would like, avoid saying “Hey, how do you feel about me?”. Make her feel free to say something if and when she wants to. If she says she doesn't feel anything for you, accept it and get on with your life.
- If she says she feels the same way, great! But avoid making the girl feel like she has an obligation to say something nice in return.
- With her positive response, ask her out. Depending on your age, it's best to keep the relationship just as a friend.
Part 2 of 3: Deciding How to Tell Her You Like Her
Step 1. Choose an appropriate time
Many things can go wrong when it comes to expressing your feelings to another person, so it is important to take into account the moment and the way of speaking to try to minimize the negative possibilities.
- Choose a time when she is alone. This is a very personal matter and should only be discussed between the two of you. You don't want to leave the girl stunned by not knowing how to react to this information in front of everyone, do you?
- Take her hours into account too. When you notice that she is busy or stressed, realize that this is not a good time to have this kind of conversation. The subject can take the person by surprise and cause them to react in a negative way.
Step 2. Choose the proper place
Prefer a place with more privacy. Ideally, your crush is comfortable when you admit you're into it. Choosing a place where you both feel good can make all the difference when it comes to giving and receiving the news.
A quiet park near the house or in the car are suitable places for this type of conversation
Step 3. Tell in person
Avoid texting or telling her you like her over the phone, eye contact is very important at these times. Also, talking face-to-face has the positive point that you can see the person's reaction right away.
- On the other hand, if you are often very nervous, sending a text message may be the best option, not least because you have more time to think about what you want to talk about. But keep in mind that the message must be sent as a last resort.
- Write something like “Look, I wanted to say that I'm really into you. Will you go out with me?”.
- Don't ask someone else to tell the girl you're into her unless you're very shy or there's some other reasonable reason for it. And, if that's the case, let it be someone you trust completely so you don't run the risk of the person spreading gossip.
Part 3 of 3: Dealing with Expectations
Step 1. Don't wait too long
There is a possibility that the feeling is not reciprocated, yet it is important to open your heart and tell the truth. Everyone likes to hear sweet words, and the girl will certainly enjoy knowing that someone has a crush on her, regardless of whether the feeling is reciprocated or not. If she has nothing to say, don't get frustrated. You did your part.
Step 2. React well
Don't be stressed if she says she doesn't feel the same way about you. Before you opened up, you already knew that there was a possibility that the feeling might not be mutual. Avoid saying aggressive things or taking back what was said. Over time, her feelings for you may change; but if it doesn't change, your life goes on normally.
- The important thing is to know how to hear a no with elegance. If you are upset or say negative things, you will be at odds with everything you said before when declaring yourself. What's more, this type of conduct eliminates any chance that she will be interested in you in the future.
- Don't play the victim or show annoyance in front of the girl.
Step 3. Give it time
Some people need time to process their feelings and make a decision. Stronger emotions usually develop over time, so there's a chance she'll reflect on everything you've said and change her mind about how she feels.
Stay her friend and act like nothing happened. It may be that the girl starts to see him with different eyes
- Taking the situation into drama can end up making the person you care about upset.
- Let her know that you need to talk to her, but don't throw the words out overnight.
- Planning mentally may not be a good idea, as things may not go exactly as planned at the time.
- Saying you like someone is difficult, but whoever gets the news is usually happy. Have no fear.
- Practice in front of the mirror what you want to say.
- Don't cry and don't be sad if the girl doesn't feel the same way about you. With that kind of reaction, the most that will happen is that she feels sorry for or uncomfortable with your presence, and that's not what you want.
- Don't take too long to declare, or someone might get there first.
- Don't spread the word that you're going to tell the girl you're into her. She might feel embarrassed by all this attention.