Chatting with a girl on the phone can be a great way to flirt with her. When talking on the phone, you'll lose some of the body language and eye contact that a face-to-face conversation would have, but talking on the phone will give you the opportunity to really focus on what the girl is saying and make a good impression with yours. sense of humor and listening skills.
Steps
Method 1 of 5: Preparing to Call
Step 1. Choose a good time to chat
When you're calling a girl, you don't necessarily need to set a specific time, but you should choose a time that you can spend talking to. That way you won't feel rushed. She'll be wondering why you called if you didn't have time to talk.
If she can't speak when you call, ask her when would be a good time to call her back. She could be at work or on an appointment. Let her choose a time and call at that time
Step 2. Choose a good location
Make sure you're in a good place when you call her. Do not call when you are on the bus or walking in a very busy area. It may be difficult to hear you or your voice may be cracking. Worse yet, the call may drop and you will lose your connection.
Step 3. Clear your throat
Don't start the conversation with a frog in your throat that will make your voice sound weird. Clear your throat or cough to ensure your voice is sounding clear.
If she has a cold and her nose is stuffy, it will be harder for her to understand what you say on the phone. You can still call to say hi, but keep the conversation short. Cut down on your talking time by saying you're going to get some rest so you can be okay on the day you meet in person
Step 4. Don't eat while talking
The sound of someone eating can be really annoying, and if you're munching on a hamburger or sucking on a milkshake, the phone can amplify that noise. It will also be harder to understand if you're chewing mid-sentence.
Step 5. Don't wait 3 days to call
Some dating counselors recommend that you wait three days before calling a girl. This is terrible advice. Show that you are interested by calling whenever you feel like it. It may be up to a day after meeting her. If you wait too long, she'll just get annoyed and think you don't think she's very important.
Method 2 of 5: Using a Good Voice
Step 1. Deepen your voice a little
A deeper voice will make it easier for you to understand what you are saying, as well as being softer and more comforting. Keep your voice soft, soft and friendly.
Try to keep your voice modulated so that you don't sound like you're yelling. You can certainly exclaim if the conversation calls for it, but being too emphatic on the phone can lead you down the wrong path
Step 2. Don't speak too fast or too slow
Make sure the girl can understand what you are saying. Slow down your speech to a normal pace (but not so slow that it sounds weird). Keep your voice relaxed and even.
Step 3. Smile over the phone
Even if the girl is not able to see you, she can still hear a smile in your voice when you speak. Keep your body relaxed and sit in a comfortable position when you're on the phone. Smile when she says something funny or when you're telling a story.
Try recording your voice when you're smiling and when you're not. Hear the difference
Method 3 of 5: Creating Conversation
Step 1. Keep the conversation light and funny
Use your sense of humor to make jokes and tell funny stories. Talk about interesting people you know or funny things that happened.
- Don't joke so much that everything you say is a joke. Remember, she's just getting to know you, so show her she can trust what you say.
- You can tease her a little bit, but don't be mean. Make sure you listen carefully to her answer. If she seems to get colder when you tease her, stop.
Step 2. Make small talk
Flirting over the phone doesn't work so well when you're talking about heavy or controversial topics. Choose topics that are easy to talk about, like movies or travel.
You can also talk about something you talked about earlier
Step 3. Keep the conversation polite
When you're just getting to know someone, it's not a good idea to offend them or make them feel uncomfortable by saying spicy things. You will only appear to be a strange person and make her want to get off the phone.
Only after entering a relationship with a girl can you think about making the conversation spicier, but only if she is comfortable with it. For now, however, keep serious
Step 4. Talk about when you first met
You may have just met this girl and you guys exchanged phone numbers. Talking about the first date is a good conversation starter. Talk about something funny that happened when you were together or about the people who were with her.
Show interest in her life, but be careful about asking lots of questions about her friends. She might get the wrong idea and think you're more interested in one of them
Step 5. Make an appointment for you to see each other in person again
Use phone conversation for a dual purpose. You will be re-establishing the camaraderie and attraction that may have been initiated in person and also setting a date for you to meet.
Make a light joke. If the girl says that she would like to meet you at 3:00, you can say, “I don't want to be stuck with you all day. Let's meet at 3:03 instead.”
Step 6. Be yourself
It sounds cliché, but try to be yourself. If you are trying too hard or being fake, it will be evident in the phone call. Stay relaxed and natural.
Method 4 of 5: Focusing on the girl
Step 1. Give praise
Everyone loves to hear positive things about themselves. Make this girl feel good about herself by giving compliments. Compliment her on her sense of humor, her hairstyle, how well she does her own job, and so on.
Some people are uncomfortable with too much praise. Keep the compliments light but meaningful, and don't overdo it
Step 2. Use her name from time to time
Customize the phone call using the girl's name periodically throughout the conversation. Don't say her name at the beginning of each sentence, but casually mention it from time to time to make her feel special.
Step 3. Listen to what she says
It can be difficult to convince someone that you are listening, as eye contact and body language cannot be relied upon. But you can do other things to show that you're listening to what the girl is saying. Try to agree or react to statements she makes, such as, "Really?" Or "Oh no!"
If you pay attention to what the girl says, she will feel encouraged to keep talking
Step 4. Avoid other distractions while talking
Keep the conversation focused on her alone. Do not check email or surf the internet while talking to the girl. She'll notice when you're distracted and will feel like you're not interested in giving her her full attention.
Method 5 of 5: Using Text Message to Flirt
Step 1. Send a message with an inside joke
If the girl gave you her cell number and you want to start texting, a good place to start is to send something that has both of you laughing. Maybe there's an inside joke or something they both have in common that you can write about.
Stay away from annoying text messages like, "How are you?" You will likely only receive a bored response and not engage her in the conversation
Step 2. Mention details
Send a text with specific details about the last time you were together in person. For example, you might say, "I loved seeing you in that red dress the other day." She will feel special that you remembered this detail.
Step 3. Don't send too many messages
Sending 20 text messages at different parts of the day is likely to be overkill. Stick to 3 or 4 text sessions where you send a quick message and reply a few times to the messages she sends.
Step 4. Don't just rely on text messages
This is a good complement to other interactions, such as meeting in person or talking on the phone. Text messaging can help you flirt, but it shouldn't be the only way to flirt. Even if you're shy, you should get to know this girl by chatting on the phone or going on a casual walk together.
Step 5. Don't be upset if she doesn't write back
She may be at work or busy doing something and may not always be able to respond right away. She may also be not very fond of text messages and prefer a phone call. Notice how she responds to your texts and don't take it personally.