How to Treat a Guy: 15 Steps (with Pictures)

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How to Treat a Guy: 15 Steps (with Pictures)
How to Treat a Guy: 15 Steps (with Pictures)

As women, we all know how we want to be treated, so let's turn this into a two-way street and let's learn how to treat the men in our lives just as well! For the most part it involves love, respect and kindness – but it also involves having fun together! See Step 1 below to learn more.


Part 1 of 3: Treating You Right

Treat a Guy Step 1

Step 1. Be honest

When it comes to any relationship, honesty is the best policy.

  • You would like your man to be honest with you, so make sure you grant him the same courtesy.
  • You should never hide things from him – you might think you're keeping him from getting hurt or nervous, but it could backfire later, when he finds out one day.
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Step 2. Be kind

Kindness is an important characteristic of any relationship, but one that is often overlooked.

  • That business of teasing to gain affection is normal when you're in the flirting phase, but it doesn't work when you're in a relationship.
  • Being kind encompasses a lot of things – it means being patient and understanding when the guy makes a mistake, it means doing nice things for him because you care, and it means treating him with dignity and respect, just as you would want to be treated.
Treat a Guy Step 3

Step 3. Be kind

Men may not like to admit it, but most of them desperately want some love and affection every now and then.

  • So don't forget to express your affection by giving him a big hug and kiss when he looks a bit down.
  • If you're in the “I love you” stage, don't be afraid to remind him how you feel or how you think he has to say it first.
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Step 4. Be spontaneous

Often, people who are committed to a relationship find themselves in a comfortable and predictable routine.

  • And while this has its benefits, it's good to inject some fun into the relationship and do something spontaneous every now and then, just to make things more interesting.
  • Plan a romantic weekend getaway just for the two of you, or arrange a day to get out and visit a museum, zoo or art exhibition. Schedule a skydiving or diving experience. Step out of your comfort zone and you'll see a whole new side of your loved one!
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Step 5. Be loyal

Treating a guy well involves being loyal – there's no point being nice in front of him and then complaining behind his back to family and friends.

  • He needs to know that you are there for him and that you support him 100% of the time – just as he supports you.
  • The next time someone disagrees with the guy or criticizes him for something, defend him – this will let him know you're on his side.

Part 2 of 3: Being there for him

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Step 1. Trust him

If you want your man to trust you 100%, then you'll need to trust him too. Trust is a two-way street.

  • Don't panic if he doesn't reply to your message or return your call immediately, men are forgotten about things like that. It doesn't mean he's up to something.
  • If the guy is open and honest with you and has never done anything to hurt you in the past, then you have no reason not to trust him. So if he wants to have a night out with friends, you can relax!
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Step 2. Make him feel good

Making a guy feel good about himself is important to treating him right. You don't want to be around someone who puts you down all the time, and neither does he.

  • Be considerate of his feelings – thank him when he does something nice for you and let him know you appreciate him, and apologize when he says something aggressive or unnecessary.
  • If he's having trouble at work, let him know that you believe in him and trust his abilities. He'll feel a lot better about himself after that.
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Step 3. Be a good listener

Sometimes all we need to do is vent and share our feelings with someone else.

  • You certainly want to be that person for your man when he needs it, so show him he can tell you anything by being a good listener.
  • Try not to interrupt or be judgmental – just listen to what he has to say, try to be empathetic and offer constructive advice.
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Step 4. Boost his ego

Men love it, so boosting his ego with a timely compliment can put him on top of the world.

  • Tell him he looks good today, the gym is kicking in, or his new hairstyle suits him.
  • Let him know he's the only guy in your life and that you feel lucky to have him.
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Step 5. Let him know he can count on you

The guy must know that he can count on you, no matter what, and that you will always be there when he needs you.

  • Be his safe haven when he needs it – support him when he wants to take a chance with a new business idea, support him if he's having family issues and offer your shoulder to cry on when something bad happens.
  • Being in a love relationship involves going through the bad times in addition to the good ones – so don't be one of those girlfriends who are only friends when it's convenient!

Part 3 of 3: Doing Nice Things for Him

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Step 1. Plan a fun date

Treating a guy right involves doing nice things for him sometimes, so why not get in on the fun and plan a fun date for both of you?

  • Go for that classic dinner and movie date if you haven't done that lately, or try something more adventurous like going to paintball, a dance class or a concert.
  • Even a quiet night can be made more special with some candles, romantic music and a good bottle of wine!
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Step 2. Cook for him

That old saying that “the way to a man's heart is through the stomach” is pretty accurate – so do something nice for your loved one by cooking a delicious meal, whether it's a favorite dish or something new and exciting.

  • Don't worry if you're a terrible cook - choose a simple recipe that tastes good, like some kind of pasta or a coconut-based curry, and take plenty of time to prepare.
  • Alternatively, you can order food from his favorite restaurant and serve it beautifully, on real plates instead of plastic containers!
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Step 3. Massage it

You can't go wrong with this one, especially after a long and stressful day.

  • Get some massage oil that smells good, dim the lights (or light some candles), and play some relaxing music.
  • Invite him to take off his shirt and lie down. Massage your back from the bottom up and from shoulder to shoulder, focusing on areas of tension. He will feel so good afterward that he might even end up sleeping!
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Step 4. Look pretty

Once in a while, it doesn't hurt to dress up for your loved one and make him feel lucky to have you. You will feel like a million reais when you see the face he makes!

  • Do all the things you used to do when you first started dating – spend three hours getting ready if necessary, shaving, applying cream and makeup, and curling your hair.
  • Put on your best dress and high heels – now you're ready for anything, whether it's a night on the dance floor or a romantic evening at home.
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Step 5. Be adventurous in the bedroom

Practically all men like it when a woman has a wild side in her bedroom, so wake up yours and watch the guy eat from your hand!

  • Try to be the leader if you're normally the one going with the flow – try tying him up or handcuffing him to the bed, if that's the kind of thing he likes.
  • Remember that sexual intimacy is an important part of any healthy relationship, so don't hold back if you're feeling angry – sort things out in the bedroom!


  • Remember that you harvest what you sow, so treat it as you would like to be treated.
  • Guys are just as sensitive as women, even if they don't show it's inevitable they're feeling something. If he is upset, treat him like you would treat a friend who is upset. Be sensitive but intimate. Show your feminine side.


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