3 Ways to Get Closer to Your Partner

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3 Ways to Get Closer to Your Partner
3 Ways to Get Closer to Your Partner

The rush of everyday life makes it difficult to maintain close relationships. Even when you are striving to form a relationship with someone, it is sometimes possible to feel that there is a distance between you and there is a desire to remove that barrier. By improving your communication, spending more time with the person and being more affectionate, you can get closer to your partner.


Method 1 of 3: Developing Communication

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Step 1. Talk

It doesn't matter if the relationship is just beginning or if they've been together for years; It's always important to talk to your partner. Get to know each other through conversations. Ask him how his day was, what he is thinking about, etc. Talk about the things that are bothering you and create a confidential relationship. Basic communication is necessary and effective to strengthen the bonds between you.

If you think there is a distance between you, verbalize it. Talking about it can fill the void that exists. Say something like “I get the feeling we're not as close as we were before. How can we fix this?”

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Step 2. Ask important questions

Even if you think you already know everything about your partner, there's always more to discover. Ask about his dreams, goals and ideas. Listen carefully and respond honestly. Ask him how he feels about your relationship and if he believes there is any point where you can improve. When you ask important questions, it becomes clear not only how much this means to you, but also that you are willing to work to strengthen the relationship.

Other questions to consider: What personality traits do you most value in a person? When was the last time that made you feel so disappointed? Where do you want to be in five or ten years? What always makes you happy?

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Step 3. Discuss deeper and more important things

You should talk about everyday life with each other, but it's also important to talk about deeper things. Try to take time each day to talk about more significant things with your partner. Maybe you have something in mind that you need to talk about, or maybe he's experiencing stress at work and needs to let it out. Keep an open space for quality conversations and commit to giving each other your full attention as often as possible.

Try talking about what you're feeling, either for your partner or in general. Discussing emotions can give a feeling of vulnerability and trust, which brings the couple together

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Step 4. Leave affectionate notes for each other

Use text messages or glued paper to leave affectionate notes every now and then. These little tokens of love leave your partner feeling special and important. This is a simple and cute way to remind your loved one how much you love him.

No matter how long you've been in a relationship, it's important not to let the other person forget that you love them. If you forget about the things that made you fall in love with the person, you will end up feeling estranged from them

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Step 5. Seek couples therapy

Forget the myths that couple therapy doesn't help; in fact, it can be a great way to strengthen the relationship. Find a psychologist near your neighborhood or consult the professionals who work with your health insurance. However, it is important that you talk about starting therapy early to ensure that you are both willing to go.

Also talk about what you expect from the therapist. For example, do you prefer a woman or a man? Do you want to go to the sections together or separately? Make a list of what you want

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Step 6. Share your worries and joys

As partners, you probably have things that worry you and bring you joy. Be it with childcare, work, relatives and finances; there are many things you can talk to each other. Sharing these things with someone is a great way to feel connected.

You don't have to be sad, or even happy, alone. Your partner is there to experience these things with you. Try not to distance yourself from him. Make an effort to include him in all of this

Method 2 of 3: Planning Activities Together

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Step 1. Recreate memorable dates

If they've been together for years, they probably had some special or memorable dates early in the relationship. The first date, for example, is an important moment in your memories. Recreate such moments – go to the same restaurant, watch the same movie or walk down the same street you walked on that first night. Reliving these moments will remind you both of the things that brought you together and kept you together all this time.

You can also do things again that you did at the beginning of the relationship. For example, if they used to call each other by nicknames, they had an inside joke (that only you guys understood), bring those things back to keep the flame burning and to feel closer to each other

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Step 2. Try a new activity together

Even though memories are a wonderful thing, it's important to create new ones. Try doing new things together. Choose something that's new to both of you so they can start together. For example, you can take a pottery class if neither of you has done it before. It can be a fun and light way to enjoy time together and learn something new side by side.

If you don't like going to class too much, try new cuisine at an unfamiliar restaurant or see a movie neither of you has seen yet. You can also read the same book and discuss the story after a few chapters. Buy tickets to a show by an artist neither of you knows

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Step 3. Find time to be together

It is very easy to get involved with daily tasks so that you forget to leave free time to spend with our partners. It is necessary to have time all day or at least every two days to spend focused on your loved one. This can be the time to talk about important things, go out, or just spend time alone at home.

During the moment together, put cell phones, tablets and other electronic devices aside. Focus on your partner and leave the distractions of the internet for another time

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Step 4. Do everyday activities with your partner

Having breakfast together, preparing a meal, waking up together, or preparing things for work or college are ways to stay close to your loved one without letting go of your obligations. As students, professionals and parents, time is short and taking advantage of these activities to spend time together is a good way out.

Making your partner part of your everyday life will help to strengthen your bonds and make you feel closer; and all this without changing the way you usually do things

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Step 5. Find interesting activities that you can share

Doing interesting things together helps bring the couple together through shared experience. This also increases the number of topics you will have to talk about. Try doing something you both like, like:

  • Visit a museum;
  • Read the same book;
  • Watch a documentary;
  • Take classes together.
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Step 6. Make surprises once in a while

You don't have to do anything too complicated to surprise your partner – just a simple gesture to make the person happy and show you care. For example, you can pick him up from work to have lunch together out of the blue, bringing flowers or a picnic basket. You can even leave the bathtub ready for when the person arrives, leave a sweet note in your purse or wallet, or take breakfast in bed.

Method 3 of 3: Increasing Physical Intimacy

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Step 1. Be affectionate

Holding hands, putting your arm around your partner as you walk together, or even sitting next to each other are ways to show affection without too much physical contact. Affection doesn't have to be purely sexual. Simple gestures of affection and touch are great ways to bring a couple together.

Try watching a movie cuddling on the couch. Even sitting or lying together can show closeness on an emotional level

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Step 2. Find time for intimacy

If you have kids or work a lot, it can be difficult to find the time and energy for this sort of thing. It's no problem to set a time in the schedule for this. But it's still important to be spontaneous and let the passion take over to keep things interesting!

If you don't want to "schedule" sex, just make it a priority for both of you

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Step 3. Respect your partner

While physical intimacy is important, it is also necessary to talk to him and respect his needs and desires. For example, before trying to increase the frequency of sexual encounters, talk about it. Ask him if he thinks it would be good for the two of them to increase their physical proximity. Ask him how he thinks they could get closer and what he feels comfortable with. Not only will you be respecting boundaries, but you will also be talking about things that are important to the relationship.

It's also important to respect your partner's feelings. If the person is dealing with something difficult in life and is not handling it well, for example, it may not be the best time to talk about sex. Get closer and say that you are there to help, regardless of the physical side of the relationship

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Step 4. Seek help from a sexologist

If you are struggling with an intimate issue and cannot resolve it yourself, it is a good idea to talk to a professional who specializes in helping couples who are experiencing this type of issue – such as feeling distant from each other. The sexologist will be able to find the problem and help you deal with it.

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Step 5. Give it time

Things don't improve or resolve themselves overnight. Even when you start striving to improve the relationship and do practical things to get closer to your partner, it takes time and effort to achieve the desired result. Take it slow in your relationship, no matter how many years you've been together, as this helps to strengthen your love in the long run.

Don't push or push the issue, especially when it comes to physical intimacy. Be patient and be prepared to put in time and effort until both are comfortable with the situation


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