How to Read Female Body Language in Flirt

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How to Read Female Body Language in Flirt
How to Read Female Body Language in Flirt

Do you know when you are in an environment and notice an interesting woman? You always want to know what she thinks of you before you take a chance, isn't it? Luckily, you can tell if a woman is in the mood with just a little bit of attention. When you start talking to her, there are other signs of flirting and interest. But the signs of lack of interest are just as important – once you notice them, it's best to get out.


Part 1 of 3: Looking for signs of interest in a woman

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Step 1. Notice if she keeps looking around the room

You may notice that the woman is looking around for a few seconds, not meeting anyone's gaze. Then she might take a quick peek at you, sometimes out of the corner of her eye. Those looks at least mean she noticed him.

Some women don't like to be caught, while others look on without fear. However, if a woman looks at you several times, she is likely to be interested

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Step 2. Pay attention to whether she holds her gaze for a few seconds

Was the woman taking a peek around the room when she met your gaze and didn't look away from hers for a few seconds? This is a clear sign of interest. If that happens, smile at her, showing interest too.

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Step 3. Note the position of her face and the ruffles in her hair

An interested woman can tilt her head back slightly, showing more of her face. Maybe you'll catch this gesture after their eyes meet in the room. Another possibility is to notice the girl fussing with her hair or throwing it back with one hand.

  • In general, when they touch their hair, it's a good sign!
  • The same is true if the girl straightens her clothes, putting her skirt in place, for example. Maybe she wants to talk to you.
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Step 4. Observe if the woman exposes her neck

In this movement, she can tilt her head to the side, showing her neck more. This gesture indicates vulnerability and probably the intention to get to know him better.

She can do this when away or even talking to you. In a conversation, this could be a sign that she is listening or trying to hear you better

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Step 5. Notice a shy little smile

Did she notice your presence and have you faced him a few times? Continue to look in the girl's direction from time to time. If she smiled, take it as an invitation to come over and talk.

Sometimes the smile is shy and doesn't even show teeth. It can indicate an invitation to a good chat or just be a polite gesture

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Step 6. Be aware of positive body language as you approach her

When you take the initiative and start walking toward her, notice the woman's reaction. If she turns her body toward you and smiles, that's a good sign. Turning the other way, crossing your arms and legs, or frowning are negative signs. In this case, mission aborted!

Part 2 of 3: Realizing if she responds to flirting

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Step 1. Observe the woman's smile

If she smiles most of the time while you talk, it means she's interested and wants to continue the conversation. However, many women cannot contain signs of disinterest, such as a bored face or a frown!

  • Laughter is also a good indicator, especially if she finds all your jokes funny.
  • She may also blink more often.
  • Even better if the girl blushes!
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Step 2. Notice if the woman is imitating your movements

Once you get to her and start talking, try noticing how she reacts when you change position. Maybe she'll copy your gestures, like crossing her legs, a sign that she's into you.

Maybe she doesn't even realize what she's doing

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Step 3. Pay attention to physical contact

No, it's not about kissing yet! Often, one person will touch another's arm or shoulder when they're talking to flirt a little. Whenever a woman makes physical contact, it's a good sign that flirting is going on.

  • It may be that she tries to enter your physical space. Chances are, there's a mood going on if she gets too close to you. Another possibility is to lean in and get closer from time to time.
  • You can do the same if you're interested – lightly touch the girl's arm when you talk to her.
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Step 4. Notice if the woman is leaning over while chatting

The more she is interested in you and your conversation, the more likely she is to lean forward. In general, the girl can bring the torso a little further forward, as if trying to hear you better.

If that happens, don't walk away. She wants to get closer to you

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Step 5. Notice that the woman nods to confirm what you say

When engaged in conversation, she can nod her head to show that she's listening. This sign doesn't always indicate flirting, but who knows.

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Step 6. Pay attention to gestures with objects

Some movements, such as moving the hair, jewelry and accessories or the edge of the glass, are typical signs of flirting. Slow, controlled movements are more likely to indicate an attempt at flirting, while quick, awkward gestures can signal discomfort, boredom, or disinterest.

  • For example, some signs of interest may be stroking the lips, neck, or collarbones in a subconscious attempt to draw attention to those areas.
  • She may want to get your attention by running her fingers along the stem of a wineglass or the rim of a glass of water.
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Step 7. Pay attention to whether she looks you in the eye and then looks away down or to the side

Usually, an interested woman can stare at him for a while. However, then maybe she looks down or elsewhere for a second.

Quick glances can indicate interest and a little shyness too

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Step 8. Look for signs that she is relaxed

If she moves her shoulders or leaves her palms up, she's showing that she has nothing to hide. These signs indicate that the woman is open to getting to know you better.

Also, see if she is relaxed or tense about her posture and back

Part 3 of 3: Sensing Signs of Disinterest

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Step 1. See if the woman is looking at everything but you

An interested woman may take a look at her surroundings for a moment, but will cast glances in your direction in an attempt to see if you are reciprocated. The fact that the girl never looks your way is a sign of disinterest.

Notice the pupils. If they're not dilated, chances are the woman isn't interested in you

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Step 2. Pay attention to rigid body language

Is the woman sitting rigid with her arms crossed? Maybe I'm not into you. The same is true if she has her head in one of her hands and she looks bored. Possibly you're thinking of a way to get away with politeness.

Other signs of disinterest are crossing your arms and turning your body in another direction

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Step 3. Notice if she frowned or stopped smiling all of a sudden

Since a smile is a sign of flirting, the same goes for the opposite: is she frowning at you or looking at the surroundings with a landscape face? Most likely, you are not interested. Stand back if you give her a smile and don't get one in return.

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Step 4. Notice if the woman has rejected physical contact

Did you touch her arm and she pulled away? Well, the message is that the girl doesn't want you to approach him. Did you try to greet her with a kiss and she offered her hand? The woman is indicating that she just wants to be your friend or that she is not interested in any kind of physical contact.

It is important to respect the limits. Doesn't she seem to be up for it? Back off. Even better is to see if you can have a kiss or a hug before you go out and do things. Asking does not offend

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Step 5. Take the woman's "no" seriously

If she refuses anything, don't take it as a sign that the girl is playing hard to get. Take her disinterest seriously and walk away. Pushing the bar only serves to piss her off, not win her over.

She may not even say "no" but use a sentence to convey the same message. For example: “Thank you, but I'm waiting for someone”, “I'm not really into talking right now” or “I have a boyfriend/girlfriend”

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Step 6. Leave the conversation politely if you have to

Found that your presence is not wanted? Find a way to get out of the conversation as soon as possible. However, don't be rude. After all, the woman hasn't asked to get your attention and maybe just wants to keep hers.

One option is to say something like, “Well, I see you're busy, so I'll excuse you. Have a good night."


If a cashier or clerk smiles at you and is friendly in her work environment, it doesn't mean she's interested. The girl's role is to treat customers well


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