Being a tough guy isn't the cliché it sounds like and it's not something you do overnight. In addition to being a long process, it should be continuous and uninterrupted, like brushing your teeth and washing the dishes – it's a job that never ends. It's about developing a consistent mental state, as well as endurance and physical strength, so prepare yourself for the mission to evolve both.
Method 1 of 3: Taking care of the look
Step 1. Unshaven or grow your mustache for a more masculine look
Of course, this won't do much good if your beard is flawed and uneven, so don't push it if that idea doesn't suit you. Luckily, dark clothes, with the clear function of protecting the body and with a worn look, have the same effect; ideally, they are comfortable.
Step 2. Work out
Big arms are the definition of tough, so go to the gym and have a go at the bench press and squats. Obviously, you don't have to be taking selfies in front of the gym mirror and spreading them around. Plus, take protein and creatine supplements to get where you want to go faster. Finally, design a physical exercise routine including calisthenics such as push-ups, barbells, and parallel bars.
Step 3. Take care of your body and eat well
You don't need to count calories and cut food out of your diet, ideally it is balanced and healthy – if you know how to cook, preparing your own meals is even better. Consume lean proteins like chicken and fish to build muscle and combine nutritious food with physical activity. That way, you won't have to worry too much about what you eat.
Method 2 of 3: Developing Endurance Skills
Step 1. Join a martial arts, self-defense or any kind of fighting class and be the best you can be
Again, this is about you, so there's no need to spread the word out for everyone to know. Plus, tough guys don't have to; people will know of your fighting and endurance skills eventually, without you having to lift a finger to do so.
Step 2. Prepare to resist pain
Yes, pain is the body's tool to alert you that something is wrong, but it shouldn't dominate your mind – that is, don't whine. Feeling pain is not cool, but it is necessary to learn to deal with it. No one is telling you to stick your hand in a pot of boiling oil, but to use exercises and other situations to learn to live with discomfort for long periods of time. Another option is to practice a fight, a healthy way to build tolerance.
Step 3. Do some heavy lifting
When tasks are distributed, choose the one that no one would like to do and do it with a smile on your face. Remember, it's critical to have the tough guy mentality to do this; if you really hate the task, nothing good will come out of it. Do your best without complaining – that's the essence of the tough guy.
Step 4. Research historical tough guys and see what their lives were like
Men like ex-boxer José Adilson “Maguila” Rodrigues dos Santos, cangaceiro Lampião or Ganga Zumba dos Palmares are great examples of struggle, strength and endurance to inspire you. Also, it's a good idea to read war books like Sun Tzu's “The Art of War”, “The Book of Five Rings” by Miyamoto Musashi and “On War” by Carl von Clausewitz.
Method 3 of 3: Boost Your Tough Guy Personality
Step 1. Don't be curmudgeonly
This is one of the first things you must learn if you want to be a tough guy. When things go wrong, don't seek the compassion of others, prefer to take whatever advantage of the situation, as best you can. The idea is not to be a superman, but to find your inner strength to deal with problems on your own and keep perspective. Bad days can be terrible, no one denies it; however, everyone goes through tribulations and you should know that you can handle them yourself. Of course, this doesn't apply to serious emotional problems that require help and support from friends; it's about holding the wave when you smack your little finger on the edge of your bed, or on unbearably cold days – you can certainly handle it.
Step 2. Don't let fear overwhelm you
Fear is a tool of judgment and it is perfectly normal to feel it, but it is also necessary to overcome it. Be assertive and face what scares you when possible, even if it's very difficult and unpleasant – that's the only way you can get over it. For example, let's say you're terrified of riding a motorcycle, but you're dying. This is a good opportunity to overcome a fear. Choose what seems very scary, but what you've always wanted to do. Tough guys enjoy the adrenaline of stepping out of their comfort zone and facing the unknown for personal development.
Step 3. Be unpredictable and somewhat mysterious and no one will know what to expect from you
Try to keep the problems you had with your family and your childhood traumas to yourself; being silently tough is a great way to be respected, so leave people wondering what's left unsaid. As stated earlier, this doesn't mean you can't talk about your problems with friends, but you can't complain about them all the time.
One of the best aspects of being unpredictable is that you don't have to be your typical tough guy; if you don't like martial arts, play a musical instrument, practice parkour or skate. Don't fit in with what's expected of you and your raw reputation will be consolidated
Step 4. Earn people's respect
A rustic reputation requires the respect of others. Saying you're tough doesn't automatically make you tough, people should notice that for themselves and that should be your goal. Choose which skills you want to work on and make your progress unobtrusively. bragging and showing off your big ego won't help you on this mission. You must treat people with respect, listen to what they have to say, and be fair, without abandoning your values.
If someone doesn't give you the respect you deserve, don't reach out to that person. In order for others to like you, it is not necessary to crawl – in fact, you should avoid it as much as possible. Notice when a person doesn't respect you and of the two, one; you either ignore her, or earn her respect without making a fuss. Defend yourself when appropriate and don't let anyone humiliate you
Step 5. Keep your cool whenever possible
Face emergency situations with cool blood and calm, or you will end up losing control, which can lead to panic and cause you to take the wrong actions, such as looking for someone to blame for the situation. Prefer to reflect clearly to prevent, resolve or minimize any problems. Not getting carried away by despair is critical and it has nothing to do with your physical strength or combat ability. For example, if a friend has an accident, be the guy who will think fast and provide first aid.
Step 6. Strive to be kind
This is even more important with friends and individuals who are clearly disadvantaged and unable to defend themselves. The idea is not to spoil everyone, but if you can help people, don't hesitate to do so. It is noteworthy that you should not expose yourself to this, do not try to be the center of attention with your effort; people will know you're tough and will respect you more if you do what needs to be done subtly and sincerely.
- Consider the idea of being a hero. Don't tolerate bullying, defend the soft targets and spread the word that it's wrong. Harassing and assaulting others are not attitudes of a tough guy, but of abusers and idiots.
- Don't be more solicitous than usual and know how to discern when a person really needs help or if they can manage on their own to learn. Of course, you should step in when you see someone being assaulted, but on trivial occasions it's best to let people work things out for themselves; if your friend lost his pencil, you don't need to go buy a new one, for example.
Step 7. Be loyal to those who deserve loyalty
Don't cheat on your girlfriend and don't pull the rug out from friends and relatives. Loyalty is honor and being a good person is an important trait for a tough guy. Be present to the people you love, in good times and in difficulties too. When someone is sick and needs support, be there to help and show that the person can count on you for whatever it takes, even if it takes work.
- Stand up straight. Having good posture demonstrates self-confidence and can enhance your height and build.
- Be a tough guy exuding strength, confidence and kindness.
- Eat meat and vegetables, according to your preference. After all, a tough guy can decide what he wants to eat.
- Instead of sucking in your belly, work out for a strong, healed abdomen. Do 100 sit-ups every morning and before bed, without fail.
- Learn to enjoy the classics. Being a connoisseur of music, movies and having culture are great additions to a tough guy.
- Watch movies with Chuck Norris, John Wayne, Clint Eastwood, Bruce Lee, Charles Bronson, Jason Statham, Kiefer Sutherland, Charlie Sheen, and shows like House and others that have amazing characters. Imitate some of these characters' attitudes for more posture, but don't overdo it.
- If your job isn't menial, sand your hands while watching TV. A tough guy must have rough hands.
- Don't be a bully. Bullying is a demonstration of emotional and psychological imbalance, so be a monster on the outside, but a love on the inside. If a girl is harassed, don't ignore the situation and help her. Don't be an asshole.
- Show your passions from time to time.