Liking someone in high school (even elementary school) can be a drag. Love is such a volatile feeling that it can lead anyone to heaven, but it can also be hell. Being in love is perfectly normal and girls feel it too. Improve yourself and enjoy yourself, so you'll have more chances to meet your crush.
Method 1 of 4: Taking Care of Appearance
Step 1. Get ready
Nobody wants to hang out with people who don't shower and wear dirty clothes, so it's a good idea to start getting used to a good personal hygiene routine when you're young. Try not to repeat the clothes too much and don't wear them when they are dirty. On days when you might be together, wear your coolest clothes.
Ask your parents to buy more dressy shirts and pants other than sweatpants or jeans
Step 2. Take care of your hygiene
Always cut your nails, wash your hair and brush your teeth. Never leave the house, even just to go to the bakery, without doing any of these things. Bad breath is one of the things that turns people off the most (and that includes girls, of course).
Step 3. Choose a deodorant
It is common for 11-year-old boys to bathe with Axe. Please do not do that. Look for a deodorant with a fragrance that suits you. They are sold in any perfumery or supermarket. Prefer perfumes with musk; this aroma conveys an air of maturity and people tend to like it a lot.
- If your deodorant is aerosol, spray a little in each armpit and you're done. You don't need to hold the beak until you're enveloped in a cloud.
- Roll-on deodorants have a less intense aroma (some don't even have perfume) and are less cloying.
Step 4. Cut your hair
Not all kids like the idea of getting a haircut, but it helps a lot. Browse magazines, get inspired by celebrity looks and choose the ones that suit you best. Show the pictures to your mom or sister and ask which of these styles would look best on you.
- To choose a cut accurately, ask more than one person which cut they think suits their face best.
- Take these photos to the barber or hairdresser and ask their opinion too.
Method 2 of 4: Getting to Know Her Better with Confidence
Step 1. Look at her at school
When you realize you have a crush on someone, dig deep and try! Observe it, but without being invasive. Try to remember the things she says in class, identify her circle of friends. Find out if she already has a boyfriend.
Don't follow her so you don't look like an obsessed maniac
Step 2. Discreetly ask your mutual friends about it
Ask friends what she likes to do. She'll certainly find out about your interest so she'll know who you are too - or do you really think her friends won't talk about it as soon as they get the chance? She will feel complimented no matter what level of relationship you have and that's really cool. You can ask things like:
- What does Carol like to do on weekends?
- Do you know if she has a favorite book?
- She has a boyfriend?
Step 3. Be confident
You'll need to expose yourself to conquer it and you'll be vulnerable to the taunts of others. In order not to be affected by this, have a positive attitude in your actions. Asking about a girl you are interested in is completely normal.
Keep in mind that people who get the hang of it wouldn't dare do the same and are likely insecure. They would like to have your courage, but they can't take it
Step 4. Be considerate of others
Don't talk bad about the girl if someone confronts you about how you feel; defend her and yourself. One of the most common things is for a person to think about giving up because they think the show isn't worth it, but say nice things about it and you'll likely get their respect and gratitude.
After all, you want to be noticed by the girl and not others
Method 3 of 4: Being Yourself
Step 1. Don't try to look older
Assume your age; if you're eleven years old, it's still a while before puberty. You don't need to be scared because you don't have any hair on your legs or because your voice isn't thick yet, these things will come in time. The best way to earn someone's esteem is to be honest.
Step 2. Have a hobby to enjoy
When you discover her favorite activity (playing tennis, for example), don't give up your passions to buy a pair of rackets, discover compatible interests between you. While you're at the stage of trying new things and still not sure what you want, keep looking until you find something you really like. Any hobby that you start practicing now is an investment, because when you grow up you will have enough knowledge in things like playing the piano, dancing, playing football, drawing, etc.
Take a chance to find out what you like
Step 3. Have friends around at all times
As you enter adolescence, your friends will become more and more important and your family life will not be the same as before. Try not to fight with your parents during this time, they miss you and are also going through this transition. For them, it's hard when a child starts to gain independence, try to understand them. Likewise, don't let go of old friends because they're not "cool." Be true to yourself and share the fact that you are in love with them.
- Good friends will help you think about how to get her attention.
- If your close friends make light of what you feel, try to ridicule you, or start spreading nasty rumors, you can bet you're in the wrong crowd. In that case, it's worth looking for companies that respect and care about you.
Method 4 of 4: Connecting With Her
Step 1. Talk to her
Start a conversation the next time you meet. Stay calm, you don't have to declare your undying love in the first sentence. While sincerity is a wonderful trait, control yourself at first. Talk about something casual, like a teacher, a class, or sports. Try to get to know her better, find out her basic information, but without being invasive. Become a friend.
- It's not a seven-headed beast - just say "Hi Carol, how are you?" when they meet in the hallway. This may sound silly and harmless, but it will certainly attract attention.
- Don't be afraid to talk to her.
Step 2. Try to make friends
Find out if there is something in common between you and talk to her about it. Let's say you both like to draw, ask to see her drawings and give your opinion. If you're both into fantasy movies, ask her what her favorites are and why. In general, to form bonds with someone it is necessary to talk about specific things, something that goes beyond the superficial "What's up, okay?"
Step 3. Praise her
When they get closer and talk more naturally, give them a compliment from time to time. This is often a good strategy for transitioning between friendship and romance subtly. When she's in a nice outfit, don't be shy about talking about it. However, don't just talk about looks. Say things like:
- What a pretty dress, Carol.
- Congratulations on solving that math problem on the board, my jaw dropped!
- Your outfit brings out your eyes.
Step 4. Be funny
Laughing is a fantastic way to bond with the people you care about. Use your natural sense of humor when you're together, you don't have to memorize a bunch of jokes. Maybe you're afraid of being ridiculous, but actually being a bit of a clown is cool. Be funny with her. Start an inside joke between you guys. Inside jokes bring people closer together.
Step 5. Tell her how you feel
Once they've developed some intimacy and are friends, ask her if she likes you. Her face will blush, and if that happens, maybe that's a good sign. If nothing happens, no reaction at all, the odds aren't so good. Timing is everything. Don't ask if the friendship is recent so she won't feel pressured.
- However, if the answer is yes and she demonstrates that you are also interested, ask her out. Do this when you are alone, or the whole school will find out.
- If she doesn't show the same interest, rest assured and be happy with her friendship. When she asks "Why do you ask?", don't make a mistake with a "Nothing, no." Be honest and open with her.
Step 6. Be yourself
It doesn't matter if her answer was positive or negative, it's important to stay true to yourself, don't strive to be a "popular". Be original and not the person you think she wants you to be.
- Walk away if you feel she wants to change you. Anyone who doesn't like you the way you are shouldn't be considered good company.
- Be proud of your talents, but don't be cocky. For example, compose a song or write a short story (not necessarily about it) and show it to your friends. When people start talking about her abilities, she might be interested.
- The key is to be authentic.
- Try to watch her a lot and if she does, don't look away. Give her your best smile and, who knows, she might even smile back.
- Don't be afraid to talk to her.
- Don't press her, wait until she's ready.
- Don't be afraid of rejection. This happens to everyone at certain times in their lives.
- Don't be showing off, girls like real guys.
- Don't ignore her, she might think you don't care.
- Don't fight in front of her or any loved ones. Nobody likes to be around quarrelsome people.
- Never offend her, no girl likes to be insulted.
- Don't play hard to get, because besides being ridiculous, she may think you don't want anything to do with anything.
- If you sleep on the spot, she might think you're only interested in her as a friend. The two of you may come out of this story hurt, but remember that too will pass.
- Watch it from afar, but don't stare and chase it all day.