You've probably read about how to be cool, but you might be wondering: how do you apply this to school? It does seem like a hostile environment, but a lot of it is due to the way you look at it. If you take care of your appearance, be friendly, open-minded, develop your interests, and remain this amazing person, it will be easier than you think.
Method 1 of 3: Making a Good Impression
Step 1. Be hygienic
The most basic things you can do for your popularity include keeping yourself clean and fragrant. People at school tend to judge the book by its cover and being smelly is a guarantee of social isolation. Bathe regularly, brush your teeth, floss and use deodorant. You will look more attractive whether you are a boy or a girl.
- It's also a good idea to wash your face every time. Adolescence is full of acne and washing your face can combat it.
- If you're afraid of sweating from the heat or from gym classes, pack a roll-on or spray deodorant in your backpack.
Step 2. Comb your hair
It's not just poor hygiene that turns people off, shaggy hair doesn't help either, no matter how old you are. Take a few minutes in the morning to style your hair the way you like it. A little effort is worth it, it can be a little gel, a flat iron or a blow dryer.
If you don't like your hair the way it is, cut it off. Not sure which style is best? The hairdresser will probably know which one will best match the shape of your face. You can also make lights or paint it a different color
Step 3. Pay attention to your clothes
Each school is different and there is no single look to be cool. In some schools it's rebels, in others it's athletes. The only thing you can really do is pay attention to your clothes and leave the house feeling good about how you look. If your school has a uniform, you can always style it in some way – you can cut the collar of the shirt for it to be more casual, fold up the hem of the pants so they look more like you, or even embroider something nice on the sweatshirt. Beware, as some schools do not let students in if the uniform is not complete and impeccable. The most important thing is that it is clean and that you feel confident inside it!
If you feel good about how you look, you'll walk with a nice posture and others will notice that. A great aspect of personality is self-confidence. You don't have to be dazzling, genius or hilarious – you just need to be confident and the rest of the world will join you
Step 4. Show your personality in your look
When it comes to your clothes and accessories, don't be afraid to wear your own style. Find out which clothes you like to wear and create your look. Use this style to go to school and be unique. Maybe you can even launch fashion!
Being cool is also about leadership, individuality and not following anyone. Don't worry about people judging you by your clothes and those desperately trying to fit in (they're usually in the same group). Having your own attitude will attract unique people too
Method 2 of 3: Making Lots of Friends
Step 1. Join the school's guild and other student organizations
Being cool is not just about popularity, it's also about being known, and the easiest way to do that is to join a student organization. This way, you will meet people from all walks of life and with all kinds of interests.
Try to be part of organizations like the student union, the school newspaper or the theater group. You can also be a class representative
Step 2. Observe
Try to identify who's who in the social scheme. It's not that important (being cool is more about being "liked" than being popular), but it helps to know how to identify with people. How are the cool ones? Are the athletes, the geniuses, the rebels? What are the most common students like? Do they follow others or do they stick to theirs? And how are the "excluded"? Who in each group are you interested in being a friend? It's a good idea to make friends with all walks of life – you never know where this is going.
If what you really want is to be popular, it's a good idea to make friends with the coolest person in the group – she will be your gateway to the gang. But don't abuse people when you're getting there. Sometimes trying to make friends with popular people doesn't work, and then even the outcasts won't want to be friends with you
Step 3. Be friendly to everyone
Again, being cool is not being popular. Many of the "populars" are mean and no one likes them - being one of those won't get you anywhere. Instead, try to be cool by getting people to really like you. For that, you just need to be nice and friendly to everyone you meet. Why wouldn't you do that?
You should already have a good sense of how to be friendly, but keep in mind that it should even be with people you don't find so nice. Help them when you feel they need it and greet them when you meet them in the hallway, if you know them. Will you become the coolest person in school in a few months?
Step 4. Don't forget about your old friends
Just because you're trying to be cool doesn't mean you should leave your old friendships behind. If you do that, the people you want to get close to will know and no one wants that kind of people around. Make new friends and keep old ones too.
Step 5. Say it's all natural
You can spend hours getting your hair done and putting on makeup, but tell me it only took a few minutes. People will admire you because, in their case, it takes a long time. They'll want to be like you, but don't abuse the subject or brag about it.
Step 6. Don't try so hard
Almost any adult will tell you that to be popular you don't have to put in all that effort, and if they knew that being popular is about "not trying," they wouldn't have stressed it out. It's easy to talk, but try to relax a little. If you try too hard, it looks like you're desperate, that you don't like yourself, and that you don't have any self-confidence. If you don't like yourself, why would they?
Here's an example: let's say a person you don't know asks you out. You refuse. Then that person starts sending you love letters. You keep saying no. Then the person sends flowers. Before long, this person will be standing at your doorstep at night. This person is desperately trying. It's working? No. In reality it's the other way around – you'd prefer that person had a little more self-respect and left
Step 7. Value your opinion more than others
Do your best not to care what people think of you. Just go ahead. Why? Because not everyone is going to like you. Nobody is liked by absolutely everyone because we all have our flaws and different personalities. If you know someone is judging you, talk to the person and then stop paying attention, because you don't even care. Practice that thought and your confidence will increase through your self-acceptance. The school staff will start to wonder where all this self-esteem came from!
That's where style comes in. Skateboarders have their own style, nerds and preppy girls too. We are all different and nothing is necessarily better than the rest. If someone judges you, it is because they are trapped within their own limited vision. These people aren't going anywhere, so don't make friends with them. This will not work
Step 8. Don't be the bully
Don't be mean to the other students at the school to make yourself feel nicer. In reality, people often hate bullies but are afraid to say it out loud. Over time, these bullies lose power and end up with nothing. It might be tempting now, but in the long run it will only hurt you.
- Don't gossip or spread rumors.
- Do not make negative comments. Just because you don't like someone or something someone has done doesn't mean you should go around talking about it.
- Don't exclude anyone; after all, you're reading this article because you want people to like you.
Step 9. Don't be intimidated by bullies
It sounds easy to say, but at school you have to use your sense of humor and your social tactics as a weapon. If you have friends by your side, you will be untouchable, and if the situation gets complicated, talk to a trusted adult so that you can handle the situation.
Method 3 of 3: Being Friendly, Confident, and Wanting
Step 1. Be open-minded
Remember that part up there about how being cool has to do with a lot of people liking you? Well, for all kinds of people to like you, you have to like them. Open your mind and try to realize that not only are the cool guys valuable, everyone else is. You will become a friendlier, more dear and happier person; this is the kind of person everyone wants to be around.
Taylor Swift, Demi Lovato, Selena Gomez, Zac Efron, Kristen Stewart, Lady Gaga; these people are all pretty cool who weren't in school (or that's what they say). This is proof that if you're not open-minded, you can overlook really nice people
Step 2. Respect people
Being respectful to others, even if they aren't your friends, shows that you don't discriminate against anyone just because they aren't your friends or anything else. In this way, you will develop a positive reputation for always being kind, considerate, and a good friend to everyone, as you are trustworthy and unjudgemental. That's definitely pretty cool.
A good way to make friends is to make them laugh. If you make fun of others, make sure they understand it's just a joke and that they find it funny too. Don't make fun of your teachers, the result could be disastrous
Step 3. Be positive
You know that guy who is always in the corner, frowning and not talking to anyone? He doesn't look very happy, does he? Do you want that kind of negativity? Probably not. If you want to be a magnet for people who like you, be positive. Keep your head up, don't take yourself seriously, and spread your positivity and grandiosity. The others will even follow you to see if this catches on.
And does that pass to others? Probably. Some studies show that being around happy people makes it easier for us to be happy too, while being around sad people can also make us sad. Are you a ray of light to your friends? But of course
Step 4. Smile
We human beings are very simple. We know what we like and what we don't like and if there's something everyone likes it's seeing people smiling. This not only shows you're happy, but it makes you happier too (your mind starts to believe this and it also makes you more sexually attractive). Put a smile on that face and see how you feel! Eventually this will become a wonderful habit.
But try not to fake a smile. Be natural. Most people can detect fake smiles. If you're positive, a genuine smile won't be difficult
Step 5. Be true to yourself
While the phrase "be yourself" is a cliché, it doesn't mean it doesn't make any sense. In fact, it must have been clear between "don't try so hard" and "follow your own sense of style." Why is it so important to be yourself to be cool? Because that means you feel comfortable being yourself and you are also confident. When you try to be someone else, it's just an imitation and fakers are definitely not cool.
- Think about it: only you can be you. You are unique and have a set of traits and skills that no one else around you has. You can offer something different to the world. Why try to be someone else's cheap copy? You it's definitely cooler than anything else it might try to be.
Step 6. Realize that school (and being cool) doesn't last forever
In recent studies it has been shown that cool kids in school are not as successful throughout their lives as ordinary kids. So if you're fussing over being cool and popular right now, know that this is the highlight of their lives. From now on they won't be so successful anymore, but you will. That's a win, even if it doesn't seem like it.
In short, being cool is temporary. Eventually, as we get older, we come to realize that "cool" doesn't even exist. We move on and just start doing our thing because that's what makes us happy. If being cool isn't that easy for you, wait and you'll see that it gets easier with time
Step 7. Become a leader
Nice people can't be followers because they're the ones who launch fashion. Take the initiative when it's time to plan. Listen to different music and show it to your friends. Start new games and dress up in different styles. Not everything you do will stick, but by following others you won't have status anyway.
- Live your life! Live the way you want to live. Do you really want others to tell you how to do it? Live, love and think!
- Be friendly and kind to everyone. Say hello by making eye contact and they'll know you expect hello back. Be nice to your teachers too.
- Being cool is almost always being funny. Tell jokes and make people laugh.
- Find out about the latest trends; this is not to say that you should have everything that is fashionable. Don't wear too many trendy items at once, it will show you are desperate and have no style of your own.
- You don't need that many friends. Have two or three nice people who are always by your side.
- Don't try to be too cool; let's face it, deep down, everyone is cool in their own way. It's about discovering your strengths and being confident, that's the secret!
- Don't draw too much attention, just a little.
- Remember, being cool isn't everything. Often, during school, the cool rule can be dangerous. This can lead to social pressure, which can lead to drug and alcohol abuse. If that's cool (doing dangerous things), stay away.
- Be sure to check the school's rules regarding uniform wear. Otherwise, you might end up going to the board.